Been with husband 7 years and just found out he was previously engaged?

I am not jealous or anything, but this is a big deal, it makes me wonder what else he hasn't told me. Isn't this something you mention at some point?? I am pregnant so I am easily irritated, so ladies would you be irritated about this or am I just being a moron?



Yes, I would be irritated if I found out my husband had been engaged and not mentioned it. The fact that he at one time felt that he wanted to spend his entire life with someone is a big deal to me. Even though I'm the one who happily ended up with him, that's something I'd have wanted to know.


I would just ask him straight out (without nagging) why he didn't feel the need to mention it, and if there is anything else you two should discuss.




There are plenty of things from my past that I am sure I haven't told my husband. That's doesn't make me secretive or a liar, but it's impossible to tell someone everything you've ever been through. It's not as though you've ever asked him if he was previously engaged and he denied it.





I really don't think this is a big deal and I'm not really sure why you think it is. And I don't think this is a red flag telling you that you need to pry into his past to see what else you don't know. I don't believe it means that your husband has anything to hide. He apparently didn't find this past relationship significant or relevant to his relationship with you.





But I don't think you're a moron, lol, just a little hormonal :)




I had a similar situation where my husband was engaged before me. He had told me about it but not right away. I had difficulty with it. I wondered what could have been wrong that he would get engaged then three months later break it off...it made me feel very insecure about our engagement. He had explained to me that it was the biggest mistak'e of his life. He also said that he was settling because he didn't think there was anything out there for him.





I believe in telling your significant other some details about past relationships. I'm not talking full disclosure but at least tell me who you have been with and how serious it was. If I were you...I would feel a little upset about it. I think he should have told you...especially if you find out years later...and from someone else. That is really hard.





I guess you have to talk to him about it and find a way to let it go. Good luck!




Yes, I'd be irritated. I think it is something you can get past, but 7 years! That is ridiculous. It does make you think---Why wouldn't he want you to know something like that? Was it at least a short engagement, or maybe a HS engagement type of thing? Not to say you can't work past this, but here is an excellent opportunity to lay out your cards on the table and let him know you need him to be completely honest with you from now on or he knows what will happen.




Yeah more likely you are very feeling sensitive. I do believe that you love him of course! I guess he prefer not talk about that situation but he should say that to you long time ago but well. I suggest you chat with him about his situation was previously engaged and probably would make you feel calm and okay.




Since it has NOTHING to do with the two of you as a couple, I don't believe you should be irritated. There is a difference between hiding something and just not mentioning it. Unless he lied about ever having been in a serious relationship, you have nothing to worry about.




I can only laugh. I just found out my husband had a car stolen 5 years ago! And the california highway patrol just called him to say they recovered it. We have only been together a year and a half. Some things are just not mentioned because they hold no value... unless you have to drive to pick it up!




I think that yes it should have been brought up in the past but no one is perfect. There is no excuse for why he did not tell you but if you have been married 7 years I would hope that you can trust him. tell him how you feel and see how he responds. Ask him if there are any other parts of his life he has not told you about. I hope it all works out and will have you in my prayers.




On the one hand maybe he didnt think it was important but on the other hand it seems to be important to you. Its been 7 years and he married you but I would ask if there was anything else he needed to tell you. But it is the past.




Hormones are raging. :-) The past is the past. He is married to you, loves you and soon there will be a new addition. Try to see past what you have discovered. If you are concerned ask him more about his past.




She obviously wasn't worth mentioning.


You've got the ring and your having his baby.


Be happy and leave the past in the past.




Did you ask him why he feel it was not necessary mentioning the fact before now?





P.S. Don't start questioning his trust. You either trust him or you don't. Do you love him? You cannot love without trust.




no no. you are a woman so you are easily irritated.




you're just being insecured and emotional. that's quite normal for someone in your condition. at least he married you,right?




I don't think it is anything you should be too concerned about.




yeahh what you are feeling is normal..but its just his past..




nah. it is part of the past. he gave you his present and future.




UMMMM.... SO?????? We all have a past.. I bet he doesn't know all of yours either