Why does my ex contact me, still?

Why does my ex still contact me?





I am married, albeit separated. My ex and I broke up 4 years ago but did remain good friends (which got me into alot of trouble) and I attempted to stop the friendship. I visited him where he lives for school last fall, but it was just as friendship for me but for him he seemed to want to try something frisky. Which made me mad.





From time to time I will get the occasional email or message from him desperately seeking how am I doing. Since our breakup he has not really had a serious gf and maintains that he only dumped me b/c he was moving away for school. I have moved on, but wonder why he cannot do the same.











1 hour ago


I'm in my mid twenties.


I've ignored him. If I am nice to him he can act like a friend but either talks to me like a dog or plays this pursue/distance thing. He knows I am married and still does this stuff. I am not a child, as answerers said in my last question prompting me to delete and reask.


I think its strange that this person talks so mean to me sometimes but in person or on the phone acts nicely. I think he must be a sociopath because he has trouble talking to people and is double minded. My husband left last year and never talks to me, I love my husband still but am wondering what the ex's problem is.



Well, it is not so cut and try: In other words, what is normal for some may or may not be normal for you. My feeling is this: If you don't view whatever connection you have with your ex as healthy for you, emotionally or otherwise, then you should terminate the contact completely (even if that means changing your email address and/or phone #.





As far as your marriage goes, your marital status is relevant here, as it is highly questionable as to why a male would want to remain in contact with his ex in this manner when he knows that such ex is married.




Doesn't sound like you have really move on. If you are questioning whether he is a sociopath, then you need to cut him loose. Decide if you really want to end it and if so cut the communication.




Wait -your "ex" meaning an old boyfriend?


And your husband left?


Why don't you forget about both of theses idiots once and for all.


Too much drama.




Do whatever you have to, to ignore him. Doesn't sound like you've done that so far. Block him from email and messages. He sounds like a stalker in the making. That's why he refuses to move on. He wants you, and only you. He doesn't want you to move on either.


So stay off the phone with him. Stop emailing him, and stop messaging him. Block him from all. If you are serious about ignoring him, you'll do all of that. If not, you are only goading him. So stop.