I feel very overwhelmed with my kids and my husband isn

I have four children. My son is 16 and was born with Cystic Fibrosis, and is not doing well because of all of the problems with his lungs, he is in the hospital currently. My daughter who is 13 was in an accident which left her paralyzed and unable to walk and do basic things (her mind is fine though), but she is quadriplegic and requires so much care. I have a nurse who comes in and helps me out and so does my sister sometimes, but I still feel very overwhelmed with all the care my son and daughter require plus keeping an eye on my active twins and giving them the attention they need (I also have 4 year old identical twins). My husband has not been helping me much, the only things he does really is go to work or goes out with his friends. He does not spend enough time with our children and doesn't seem to want to deal with their problems, he just leaves all of their care up to me. I feel the only good thing he does is make enough money for us. I was a nurse but I had to quit the job to be a full time mother the my four kids. I love my children more than anything and would do anything for them and I do the best i can to take care of the four of them, but what can I do to feel less overwhelmed? How can I get my husband to start helping me more and what should I do if he won't start helping? I asked him if we could see a marriage counselor but he doesn't want to go.



I think you need too sit down and tell him how stressful this is for you,


and you need to help me instead of going out with your friends, i understand you have prioratys but so do i.... and a big one in both of our lives is our children, Who need our support..... both of us.... not just me and i feel like i have taken on alot lately and i can handle it but it would be nice to have some help.... you know from you i understand you have work but when you dont it would be nice for you too help me soemthing along the lines of that.... Good Luck!




You need a vacation. Tell your husband to take a week vacation from his work while you're off visiting someone OUT OF STATE. He needs to experience the load without you, he will not fully appreciate what you're going through until he does himself, just do it.




You have alot on your plate your a great mom for helping and being there for them. On the other hand you need to give your husband a reality cheak if he doesnt want to talk to no one then i would say i want a divorce in order to shake him up and for him to change his ways thats what i had to do with my husband and if he really loves you he will! good luck