Is this wrong of me to get back at my in-laws?

OK i just married my wife back 3 weeks ago we just got back from the honeymoon and well i am still peeved at her family because before the wedding when we had like her whole family down for it and all well i had just gotten a great dane puppy a second one and well her dad just kicks it as hard as he can because he got mad at spike(my dog) for wanting to be petted and all that made me so mad her family has like screwed with me from day one but its just i am so fed up with it all and my wife is pregnant with twins(Nicholas James mercer and Kristen Lean Mercer do on August 13th) and well i am so mad at her family still that i told my wife that i don't want the twins any were near them because i am tiered of this BS...... i mean some of my friends have told me i am wrong to use my kids as leverage and a weapon but i don't see it like that..... i am just wanting to know what every1 else thinks



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....her dad just kicks (dog) as hard as he can because he got mad at spike(my dog) for wanting to be petted...





Her dad is a very disturbed man for REAL...and he must always be avoided by you. He will do to the kids what he did to the dog.... Don;t let this go by! Any of it!!! Get into marriage counseling and tell the counselor all the abuses they have heaped on you and the dog, and etc.





This must be agreed to fast and your wife must agree to keep them at bay. If she insists in their coming over, and you forgetting the matters,l you leave! Stay out until they are gone if they are in your home, certainly, don't go near them....If they show at your door, do not let them in. If they keep ringing, call the cops!!! They are abusive and dangerous, and YOUR wife must take a stand against them, and she Will be met with their anger, but you are her NEW family...





Her dad need psychiatric tests at an adult psych unit of a hospital for emotional and behavioral disorders, plus the 6 anxiety disorders and probably ongoing therapy and medication maybe from a psychiatrist. for REAL~!!!Don;t let this go.





If wife will NOT go to counseling with you, and don't get made when you ask her, just be very insistent, if she Still refuses, YOU GO ALONE


The marriage, that case, might be dead if she will not side with your never having to be near them because of their abuse...





Another option: move 1200 miles or more away. Also, you MUST tonight go to cops and report in full what he did to dog, and you in the past, and then call ASPCA toll free number, and report and file a complaint against him.





take Dog to vet and have story written down by doc and have dog checked out. Use the official report against him, in court. He is a maniac for real. His wife is probably afraid of him, but he will surely put his foot down if he doesn;t get his way. YOUR WIFE MUST totally be on your side only. YOU CANNOT be their target of abuse EVER again.




It's due not do. A man who would kick a puppy isn't much of a man. However, these people will be in your life until they die and your wife loves them, so try to get over it. I hope he's better with babies than he is with dogs.




yes you are wrong don't put your kids in that mess.




As a "victim" of meddlesome stupid former in laws I say do what you like!




It is a pitty you didn't kick the father in law how dare he.


Please do not hold the children as a lever against them, remember they are your wife's family. What dose the wife think you should do?


That is what is important not what everyone else thinks.


When the children do arrive take the in-law aside tell them what you are feeling and hopefully the past can be left behind and you can start a new. If they are not prepared to make any changes you will then need to do what ever you have to. Good luck