I am not jealous or anything, but this is a big deal, it makes me wonder what else he hasn't told me. Isn't this something you mention at some point?? I am pregnant so I am easily irritated, so ladies would you be irritated about this or am I just being a moron?
Yes, I would be irritated if I found out my husband had been engaged and not mentioned it. The fact that he at one time felt that he wanted to spend his entire life with someone is a big deal to me. Even though I'm the one who happily ended up with him, that's something I'd have wanted to know.
I would just ask him straight out (without nagging) why he didn't feel the need to mention it, and if there is anything else you two should discuss.
There are plenty of things from my past that I am sure I haven't told my husband. That's doesn't make me secretive or a liar, but it's impossible to tell someone everything you've ever been through. It's not as though you've ever asked him if he was previously engaged and he denied it.
I really don't think this is a big deal and I'm not really sure why you think it is. And I don't think this is a red flag telling you that you need to pry into his past to see what else you don't know. I don't believe it means that your husband has anything to hide. He apparently didn't find this past relationship significant or relevant to his relationship with you.
But I don't think you're a moron, lol, just a little hormonal :)
I had a similar situation where my husband was engaged before me. He had told me about it but not right away. I had difficulty with it. I wondered what could have been wrong that he would get engaged then three months later break it off...it made me feel very insecure about our engagement. He had explained to me that it was the biggest mistak'e of his life. He also said that he was settling because he didn't think there was anything out there for him.
I believe in telling your significant other some details about past relationships. I'm not talking full disclosure but at least tell me who you have been with and how serious it was. If I were you...I would feel a little upset about it. I think he should have told you...especially if you find out years later...and from someone else. That is really hard.
I guess you have to talk to him about it and find a way to let it go. Good luck!
Yes, I'd be irritated. I think it is something you can get past, but 7 years! That is ridiculous. It does make you think---Why wouldn't he want you to know something like that? Was it at least a short engagement, or maybe a HS engagement type of thing? Not to say you can't work past this, but here is an excellent opportunity to lay out your cards on the table and let him know you need him to be completely honest with you from now on or he knows what will happen.
Yeah more likely you are very feeling sensitive. I do believe that you love him of course! I guess he prefer not talk about that situation but he should say that to you long time ago but well. I suggest you chat with him about his situation was previously engaged and probably would make you feel calm and okay.
Since it has NOTHING to do with the two of you as a couple, I don't believe you should be irritated. There is a difference between hiding something and just not mentioning it. Unless he lied about ever having been in a serious relationship, you have nothing to worry about.
I can only laugh. I just found out my husband had a car stolen 5 years ago! And the california highway patrol just called him to say they recovered it. We have only been together a year and a half. Some things are just not mentioned because they hold no value... unless you have to drive to pick it up!
I think that yes it should have been brought up in the past but no one is perfect. There is no excuse for why he did not tell you but if you have been married 7 years I would hope that you can trust him. tell him how you feel and see how he responds. Ask him if there are any other parts of his life he has not told you about. I hope it all works out and will have you in my prayers.
On the one hand maybe he didnt think it was important but on the other hand it seems to be important to you. Its been 7 years and he married you but I would ask if there was anything else he needed to tell you. But it is the past.
Hormones are raging. :-) The past is the past. He is married to you, loves you and soon there will be a new addition. Try to see past what you have discovered. If you are concerned ask him more about his past.
She obviously wasn't worth mentioning.
You've got the ring and your having his baby.
Be happy and leave the past in the past.
Did you ask him why he feel it was not necessary mentioning the fact before now?
P.S. Don't start questioning his trust. You either trust him or you don't. Do you love him? You cannot love without trust.
no no. you are a woman so you are easily irritated.
you're just being insecured and emotional. that's quite normal for someone in your condition. at least he married you,right?
I don't think it is anything you should be too concerned about.
yeahh what you are feeling is normal..but its just his past..
nah. it is part of the past. he gave you his present and future.
UMMMM.... SO?????? We all have a past.. I bet he doesn't know all of yours either
Tuesday, March 31, 2009
Have you ever kept a secret to not hurt your husband or wife?
Yes! Everyone has a right to privacy even from their husband/wife.
No, not from the first time we said hello. I have lived with lies and so had he... so we made a vow of honesty right from the start. And I was right, my oldest has a bigger mouth than his oldest... that was agreed over time. We now laugh at how honest we are because even the small things that never mattered we never lied about.
No, I can't think of any. I'm insanely honest. Even when I shouldn't be. I'm working on it. Seriously, I am.
NO, I have never kept a secret from my husband but...
I had a secret kept from me for 9months!!!
No. I honestly cannot think of a secret I have kept from my husband. So even if I have a secret...... I don't even know it!
I have kept a secert from my husband to avoid a fight or arguement
No. Secrets hurt more than they help. I am honest and deal with what comes.
YESS ALL THE TIME
Yes.
yes. Who hasnt?
No, not from the first time we said hello. I have lived with lies and so had he... so we made a vow of honesty right from the start. And I was right, my oldest has a bigger mouth than his oldest... that was agreed over time. We now laugh at how honest we are because even the small things that never mattered we never lied about.
No, I can't think of any. I'm insanely honest. Even when I shouldn't be. I'm working on it. Seriously, I am.
NO, I have never kept a secret from my husband but...
I had a secret kept from me for 9months!!!
No. I honestly cannot think of a secret I have kept from my husband. So even if I have a secret...... I don't even know it!
I have kept a secert from my husband to avoid a fight or arguement
No. Secrets hurt more than they help. I am honest and deal with what comes.
YESS ALL THE TIME
Yes.
yes. Who hasnt?
Do you ever take off your wedding ring?
If I am doing a messy job or handling raw meat while cooking I will usually remove it until I'm done.
Yes my ring is really loose and i take it off when i take a shower and when i do dishes and housework or if i am gardening or putting lotion on... i am not a jewelery person and so i feel i dont need a ring to show anyone i am married i know and was at the ceremony so i am married in gods eyes and in my hubbys eyes
Yes, I take it off to shower. I hate when soap gets caught in it.
I put it right back on, though.
Oh, I forgot..I do take it off to make meat patties. I'm not a fan of ground beef getting caught in it, either.
Only to have it cleaned. It's a shadow band since my husband designed my engagement ring, so it has some funny bends that tend to trap the dirt. Otherwise, no.
Not often. Sometimes my finger needs to breathe. But I never go out in public without my ring.
My husband is a Police Officer, and cannot wear any jewelry on duty, including his ring.
Of course. I don't wear a lot of jewelry usually so many times I go without it. And my husband can't wear it at work and then when he's travelling for work he's afraid it could get lost, so he's stopped wearing it altogether.
I take mine off for work because I am a waitress and I dip my hands in bleach water a gazillion times a day. I wish I could wear it to work but my husband says it will be ruined if I do and he payed too much for it to get ruined. :(
Yes. I took it off and left it at a relatives weekend home. Even when I got it back, a few weeks later, I left it off for months. I just got used to wearing my anniversary bands instead.
For utilitarian purposes like those above, yes. But my wife died almost a year ago and I still can't bring myself to take it off and put it away. In my heart, I'm still married.
When I clean the house.
When the ring needs to be cleaned.
When I was pregnant. My fingers were bloated and the ring was uncomfortable.
Not anymore. We had them tattooed on the day after Thanksgiving last year. I am not allowed to wear mine at work anymore so I quit wearing it at all.
Some people stop wearing a wedding ring after a bit. It doesn't mean much to stop wearing one if you keep your values close.
One of my friends takes off her wedding ring every time she has a fight with her husband. She won't put it back on until he has apologized. Horrid; isn't it?
Only for washing the kids, applying lotions, showers, doing my hair/makeup. I never leave the house without it on.
actually no..i haven't taken it off since my husband put it on my finger..not sure why..i don't see anything wrong with removing it to clean, shower ect..i just don't
For sure. Especially when tinkering around with electrical appliances such as PCs.
GOD YESS MY HUSBAND MAKES ME SICK AND IM VERY EMBARRASED TO BE WITH HIM SORRY ITS THE TRUTH YOU ASKED
Seldom but I have. My band is not that big but the diamond comes off all the time. I don't like it on when I'm cleaning or sleeping. It snags on stuff.
Well, I know my mom takes it off and puts it in her make-up bag when she's in the shower.
When showering, putting on lotion and sleeping
Sure do. To wash up, put on lotion, and sometimes I just want it off to be comfortable.
Just did for the first time today, because we might be getting a divorce
before bed.....when making dinner......putting on lotion and doing my hair.
yeah, when i'm out with my buddies and i'm hoping to get some strange.
yes I don't wear it anymore after I found out he cheated
To clean.
Nope :-D
Yes my ring is really loose and i take it off when i take a shower and when i do dishes and housework or if i am gardening or putting lotion on... i am not a jewelery person and so i feel i dont need a ring to show anyone i am married i know and was at the ceremony so i am married in gods eyes and in my hubbys eyes
Yes, I take it off to shower. I hate when soap gets caught in it.
I put it right back on, though.
Oh, I forgot..I do take it off to make meat patties. I'm not a fan of ground beef getting caught in it, either.
Only to have it cleaned. It's a shadow band since my husband designed my engagement ring, so it has some funny bends that tend to trap the dirt. Otherwise, no.
Not often. Sometimes my finger needs to breathe. But I never go out in public without my ring.
My husband is a Police Officer, and cannot wear any jewelry on duty, including his ring.
Of course. I don't wear a lot of jewelry usually so many times I go without it. And my husband can't wear it at work and then when he's travelling for work he's afraid it could get lost, so he's stopped wearing it altogether.
I take mine off for work because I am a waitress and I dip my hands in bleach water a gazillion times a day. I wish I could wear it to work but my husband says it will be ruined if I do and he payed too much for it to get ruined. :(
Yes. I took it off and left it at a relatives weekend home. Even when I got it back, a few weeks later, I left it off for months. I just got used to wearing my anniversary bands instead.
For utilitarian purposes like those above, yes. But my wife died almost a year ago and I still can't bring myself to take it off and put it away. In my heart, I'm still married.
When I clean the house.
When the ring needs to be cleaned.
When I was pregnant. My fingers were bloated and the ring was uncomfortable.
Not anymore. We had them tattooed on the day after Thanksgiving last year. I am not allowed to wear mine at work anymore so I quit wearing it at all.
Some people stop wearing a wedding ring after a bit. It doesn't mean much to stop wearing one if you keep your values close.
One of my friends takes off her wedding ring every time she has a fight with her husband. She won't put it back on until he has apologized. Horrid; isn't it?
Only for washing the kids, applying lotions, showers, doing my hair/makeup. I never leave the house without it on.
actually no..i haven't taken it off since my husband put it on my finger..not sure why..i don't see anything wrong with removing it to clean, shower ect..i just don't
For sure. Especially when tinkering around with electrical appliances such as PCs.
GOD YESS MY HUSBAND MAKES ME SICK AND IM VERY EMBARRASED TO BE WITH HIM SORRY ITS THE TRUTH YOU ASKED
Seldom but I have. My band is not that big but the diamond comes off all the time. I don't like it on when I'm cleaning or sleeping. It snags on stuff.
Well, I know my mom takes it off and puts it in her make-up bag when she's in the shower.
When showering, putting on lotion and sleeping
Sure do. To wash up, put on lotion, and sometimes I just want it off to be comfortable.
Just did for the first time today, because we might be getting a divorce
before bed.....when making dinner......putting on lotion and doing my hair.
yeah, when i'm out with my buddies and i'm hoping to get some strange.
yes I don't wear it anymore after I found out he cheated
To clean.
Nope :-D
Have you been burned, had a bad break up, had guys hitting on your girlfriend, girls manipulating you etc.....?
To the point where you say, "screw it, I am gonna be a sleazebag like everyone else - Date multiple women, mess with others guy's women, lie and manipulate"?
yes i hate my life and feel like going crazy too we should probably meet lol jk
It is tempting to become an asshole after being burned, esp. if you're truly one of the good ones and find yourself being screwed over consistently, but I try not to let someone else's crappy actions affect the type of person that I am and want to be.
Yep, actually for about a year I did whatever I wanted to do with whoever I wanted to do it with and didnt care what anyone thought or how they felt. It was all about me. People deal with a shattered heart in different ways and I guess that was my way to try to cope with it.
Nope. At the end of the day, I am accountable to, and responsible for, my conscience, which would not allow this kind of behavior. Don't play victim--it's thoroughly unattractive.
Learn, and move forward. Period.
Yes, i stopped looking went depressed and went crazy
Then i f ound the love of my life
It what I deal with every day!!!
Nope.. but do what makes you feel manly...
nope
yes i hate my life and feel like going crazy too we should probably meet lol jk
It is tempting to become an asshole after being burned, esp. if you're truly one of the good ones and find yourself being screwed over consistently, but I try not to let someone else's crappy actions affect the type of person that I am and want to be.
Yep, actually for about a year I did whatever I wanted to do with whoever I wanted to do it with and didnt care what anyone thought or how they felt. It was all about me. People deal with a shattered heart in different ways and I guess that was my way to try to cope with it.
Nope. At the end of the day, I am accountable to, and responsible for, my conscience, which would not allow this kind of behavior. Don't play victim--it's thoroughly unattractive.
Learn, and move forward. Period.
Yes, i stopped looking went depressed and went crazy
Then i f ound the love of my life
It what I deal with every day!!!
Nope.. but do what makes you feel manly...
nope
How do you measure??????????????????
the male sex organ????????
With a ruler....? Um..?
With a ruler I would imagine, but then I could just be a genius. But if you are a dude and you haven't measured it yet then something could be horribly wrong with you. :) Happy Measuring!
Tape measure; both length and girth are used (and exaggerated appropriately)
first take a tape measure and do it long ways then take the same tape measure and do it round ways and then let us all know the result
On the TOP side.
Most men are 5-6 inches. Virtually all who claim >7 are liars (or just wrong).
not up with you!
from the tip of his index finger to the pinkie
get it hard then use a ruler
By the brain cells in the man's head
With a ruler....? Um..?
With a ruler I would imagine, but then I could just be a genius. But if you are a dude and you haven't measured it yet then something could be horribly wrong with you. :) Happy Measuring!
Tape measure; both length and girth are used (and exaggerated appropriately)
first take a tape measure and do it long ways then take the same tape measure and do it round ways and then let us all know the result
On the TOP side.
Most men are 5-6 inches. Virtually all who claim >7 are liars (or just wrong).
not up with you!
from the tip of his index finger to the pinkie
get it hard then use a ruler
By the brain cells in the man's head
Married but decided moving out for a little while would help. Seems to have made it worse. Now am not allowed?
My wife and I have been married for 11 years now with 2 daughters. But lately things haven't been that great. Both my wife and I had very successful careers but I alone was laid off a few months ago and finding work has been hard. Still unemployed collecting unemployment. Ever since I was laid off I haven't been the same. Our communication with one another has gone by the wayside along with sexual intimacy. We have both said some things recently that were hurtful. To make a long story short. She had mentioned why don't you go spend some time with your folks for a couple of weeks and clear your head. I thought about entertaining the idea. But decided I didn't want to be cause my folks live out of state. So I asked a friend if I could stay with him for a couple of weeks. So that is what I did. Now I regret doing it because now she won't let me move back in and decided to move to a different address. (Somewhere cheaper that she could afford by herself). Because now she thinks that I was giving up and leaving her and the kids. Now that we have been living separately for over a month. Now we spend time with each other quite frequently so that I can spend some time with the kids as a family and even stay the night when she asks. She says she doesn't want a divorce but just a break to be friends for now and a father to the kids and she just wants me to be happy. I don't know whether to give up or keep trying. I am still in love her and physically attracted to her. Also our 12th Anniversary is coming up.
Giving up after 11 years of marriage (with children too) would be a terrible shame and not the best course in my opinion. Clearly life has handed you guys a tough blow right now. SO see it for what it is and don't bale on the most important thing(s) in your life just because life sucks right now. THESE things will pass in time and if you lose sight of what Is MOST important because of a few rough breaks you will certainly live to regret it - as will everyone else.
Keeping together a life long family, uniting in hard times, keeping love strong & secure, learning how to communicate and share and support and encourage eachother in bad times, showing children that FAMILY matters above all else and that marriage is ABOUT sticking it out even when times get rough - COME ON - don't let this go...and for what? Money, pride, discouragement, depression, failure to TALK to eachother?
Your anniversary is coming up? I say USE this an a PRIME opportunity to SHOW her, TELL her, express to her how important she and your family really are. OPEN those channels of communication again - throw pride to the wind and just DO IT. Do something surprise and special for her and TELL HER you love her, you don't want to lose her and your life together, your marriage, your family matter FAR MORE than anything else in the world and you want to MAKE THINGS work and hang together even in these hard times! YOU've got to open those sharing, expressing, talking, honesty communication lines though - she needs to feel loved, wanted, more important than anything else in your world and YOU no doubt need the same thing!
I've been married for 22 years myself - I KNOW from where I speak here. 22 years of marriage doesn't happen without facing and over coming difficulties along the way. Don't be one of those awful sad numbers who gave up when the going got rough and took the EASY WAY OUT (divorce!) - that never fixed anything! COme on - buck up, swallow your pride and make the move! YOU CAN DO IT!
<Was that a good pep talk for you I hope? : ) >
Take what you can get at this point. She's the one who told you to leave and now wont' let you back in and moved Whats up with that. Hope she doesnt have someone else on the side. But if you love her just keep being there and see what happens.
If you love her let it go for a month or 2 more. After that time if she still wants to live separate from you. You should start thinking about divorcing. Because putting it off forever will just cause you more problems.
Dude, the wench set you up and you fell for it. Never believe that a female does anything but for her own good. That is rule one. No matter how nice it seems or how thoughtful it would appear to be, whatever she does for you is always as a means to an end for her. A female is always watching out for themselves and working to gain the advantage, no matter how nice they seem or so forth.
you need to keep talking. Make it clear to her you want to be back to having your marriage including living together. You cant keep on like this, it isnt fair. She is getting all the good parts of the deal and you get the emotional rollercoaster. You need to decide too if you want to and are willing to continue with things as they are. There will be another good woman out there ready to give you what you need, when you are ready to make that transition.
Giving up after 11 years of marriage (with children too) would be a terrible shame and not the best course in my opinion. Clearly life has handed you guys a tough blow right now. SO see it for what it is and don't bale on the most important thing(s) in your life just because life sucks right now. THESE things will pass in time and if you lose sight of what Is MOST important because of a few rough breaks you will certainly live to regret it - as will everyone else.
Keeping together a life long family, uniting in hard times, keeping love strong & secure, learning how to communicate and share and support and encourage eachother in bad times, showing children that FAMILY matters above all else and that marriage is ABOUT sticking it out even when times get rough - COME ON - don't let this go...and for what? Money, pride, discouragement, depression, failure to TALK to eachother?
Your anniversary is coming up? I say USE this an a PRIME opportunity to SHOW her, TELL her, express to her how important she and your family really are. OPEN those channels of communication again - throw pride to the wind and just DO IT. Do something surprise and special for her and TELL HER you love her, you don't want to lose her and your life together, your marriage, your family matter FAR MORE than anything else in the world and you want to MAKE THINGS work and hang together even in these hard times! YOU've got to open those sharing, expressing, talking, honesty communication lines though - she needs to feel loved, wanted, more important than anything else in your world and YOU no doubt need the same thing!
I've been married for 22 years myself - I KNOW from where I speak here. 22 years of marriage doesn't happen without facing and over coming difficulties along the way. Don't be one of those awful sad numbers who gave up when the going got rough and took the EASY WAY OUT (divorce!) - that never fixed anything! COme on - buck up, swallow your pride and make the move! YOU CAN DO IT!
<Was that a good pep talk for you I hope? : ) >
Take what you can get at this point. She's the one who told you to leave and now wont' let you back in and moved Whats up with that. Hope she doesnt have someone else on the side. But if you love her just keep being there and see what happens.
If you love her let it go for a month or 2 more. After that time if she still wants to live separate from you. You should start thinking about divorcing. Because putting it off forever will just cause you more problems.
Dude, the wench set you up and you fell for it. Never believe that a female does anything but for her own good. That is rule one. No matter how nice it seems or how thoughtful it would appear to be, whatever she does for you is always as a means to an end for her. A female is always watching out for themselves and working to gain the advantage, no matter how nice they seem or so forth.
you need to keep talking. Make it clear to her you want to be back to having your marriage including living together. You cant keep on like this, it isnt fair. She is getting all the good parts of the deal and you get the emotional rollercoaster. You need to decide too if you want to and are willing to continue with things as they are. There will be another good woman out there ready to give you what you need, when you are ready to make that transition.
What was the last big argument you had with your spouse and what was it about?
$$$$$ that we dont have and my daughter is getting married this April. He brings it up daily and I just let loose big time. I reminded him his daughter will be getting married herself one day and he will want to do the same.
Um, that he makes me feel unappreciated and unloved because he never has sex with me...
We haven't had a serious argument in months come to think of it.
Our last arguement was over money just two days ago.
He spent money that we don't have ..... on something that we don't need.
Um, that he makes me feel unappreciated and unloved because he never has sex with me...
We haven't had a serious argument in months come to think of it.
Our last arguement was over money just two days ago.
He spent money that we don't have ..... on something that we don't need.
Have you ever fought with your husband or wife over in-laws?
All the time! well, it's not that we fight all the time, but the few times that we've fought are because of my abusive brother in law, a Royal Loser who totally takes advantage of his little brother (my husband) any time he has a chance (we are talking about money, cars, gas, food, toilet paper, phone, clothes, everything, you name it! One time he pawned our car a month after we paid it off, another time he lived in our house while we were on vacation without asking anybody! Instead of going to the grocery store he goes to my pantry, he uses our car when he has to "put miles" in it, he uses our phone so he doesn't use his minutes. ARRRGH!)...... and you know what the worst part is? that it's a lost battle for me, since family ties are stronger than anything in this world (at least for some people). It sucks!!!!!!!!
Yes but we don't anymore. It was more of an "early marriage" issue for us. We've worked through it and gotten past that! After a certain point, it's really pointless to argue over in-laws. The become less of an upfront problem and of a secondary irritant in comparison to the new family you and your spouse are building.
I used to dislike my father-in-law cause I thought he was too interfering and yes it did cause arguments, he was at fault too but then I tried to understand it from his point of views, dads are overprotective no matter if their daughters are 2 years old or 25, we've really made the effort with eachother to get along better and it's worked out best for everyone. It really does feel better just to apologize and start anew, life is too short for causing fights amongst family,
Seth.
My husband fought with his parents over me. He felt his mother had disrespected me and he gathered up our family and left their home. As we were leaving his father threw in a couple of jabs like if we leave like that then don't come back. It took him and his parents a long while to work that one out. She was disrespectful, but I don't think she was smart enough to even know what she was doing.
Red
LOL!! I'm sure almost everyone can say yes.
It's hard and it happens. To be fair, try to keep in mind they came before you in your spouse's life. We sometimes have issues over moms, but I try to remember this: this IS the woman that raised the man I love after all. As long as he remembers that the moment we got married I became #1 (and vice-versa), we are generally ok. Arguments make you grow as a couple as long as you remember the goal of an argument is to better an issue (aka find a bottom line and compromise)...not to fester in it.
My father in law is a nightmare, my husband and him only started speaking again about a year ago, my father in law says things that are totally out of line brings up the past which is unnecessary and makes my husband feel bad its all I can do not to snap.
Yes his are something else and now we don't talk with the SIS inlaws at all and we are both happier with this.
nope, but i've fought with the in laws about my husband. they purely suck ace.. can't stand them
Most every one does at some time or another.
Yes but we don't anymore. It was more of an "early marriage" issue for us. We've worked through it and gotten past that! After a certain point, it's really pointless to argue over in-laws. The become less of an upfront problem and of a secondary irritant in comparison to the new family you and your spouse are building.
I used to dislike my father-in-law cause I thought he was too interfering and yes it did cause arguments, he was at fault too but then I tried to understand it from his point of views, dads are overprotective no matter if their daughters are 2 years old or 25, we've really made the effort with eachother to get along better and it's worked out best for everyone. It really does feel better just to apologize and start anew, life is too short for causing fights amongst family,
Seth.
My husband fought with his parents over me. He felt his mother had disrespected me and he gathered up our family and left their home. As we were leaving his father threw in a couple of jabs like if we leave like that then don't come back. It took him and his parents a long while to work that one out. She was disrespectful, but I don't think she was smart enough to even know what she was doing.
Red
LOL!! I'm sure almost everyone can say yes.
It's hard and it happens. To be fair, try to keep in mind they came before you in your spouse's life. We sometimes have issues over moms, but I try to remember this: this IS the woman that raised the man I love after all. As long as he remembers that the moment we got married I became #1 (and vice-versa), we are generally ok. Arguments make you grow as a couple as long as you remember the goal of an argument is to better an issue (aka find a bottom line and compromise)...not to fester in it.
My father in law is a nightmare, my husband and him only started speaking again about a year ago, my father in law says things that are totally out of line brings up the past which is unnecessary and makes my husband feel bad its all I can do not to snap.
Yes his are something else and now we don't talk with the SIS inlaws at all and we are both happier with this.
nope, but i've fought with the in laws about my husband. they purely suck ace.. can't stand them
Most every one does at some time or another.
Hypothetical Situation...?
I think my new wife is trying to tell me something. She keeps buying phalluses and putting them all over the house. What I mean by that is she is buying toy rockets/cylindrical shaped space ships and putting them on top of the TV and record player, enormously tall wine bottles now litter the top of the fridge and the counters, and a bunch of cylinder shaped pillows all over the bed.
Why is she doing this to me?
She sends me other hints too... like a box of candy for Valentine's Day with a trial pack of enzyte inside. I mean... WTF?
As far as being physical with her goes... we do it at least 4-6 times a night and usually once in the morning... dang!!!!!!! Why me?!?!?!?
cause you are a cone head!
You need to take a few days off and step up the sex. She wants more.
lmao... she got a sense of ha!ha!... most men would be in their glory and your complaining..toughen up soldier
Why is she doing this to me?
She sends me other hints too... like a box of candy for Valentine's Day with a trial pack of enzyte inside. I mean... WTF?
As far as being physical with her goes... we do it at least 4-6 times a night and usually once in the morning... dang!!!!!!! Why me?!?!?!?
cause you are a cone head!
You need to take a few days off and step up the sex. She wants more.
lmao... she got a sense of ha!ha!... most men would be in their glory and your complaining..toughen up soldier
Do you think this could be the end? 10 PTS!?
My wife keeps telling me she loves me. She makes breakfast for me, and she does our clothes. I bring her flowers every few days and I massage her aching shoulders. I work a full-time job and take side work to not only make sure ends meet, but to make sure we have plenty of money to go rent a cabin in the woods for a long romantic weekend together.
The other day I noticed she had bought some "stuff". Could this be the end of our marriage?
Be prepared to be owned.
I don't think it means its the end, it just means she might want to try and live out some weird fantasy with you. Has she mentioned the stuff she bought to you yet, or did you find it? You should just ask her about it. And if she is planning some freaky deaky S & M type stuff, as long as it doesn't make you feel degraded or uncomfortable, maybe you should go for it. After all, you're the only guy she's ever going to have sex with til death do you part, so make her happy. Besides, if you have any naughty fantasies you want her to try out, she'll be much more willing.
What do you mean by stuff?
Sex toys?
Cos that's only the beginning, not the end.
EDIT:
Ok, she obviously is into BDSM or something like that, she obviously feels comfortable enough to share her fantasies with you. Be mature and experience this stuff with her.
Ask her exactly what it is she likes and have a look on the net for info, but it sound like a BDSM or latex fetish...nothing wrong with that!
What kind of stuff?
Ah. In what way is this the end? The handle with the chain and ball is called a mace, by the way. It sounds like she wants to have some fun with some sex games. It's not like it was a real mace, after all. Give it a try. You might like it.
There must be more than that to make you think it the end. How does she act other wise? Maybe she's practicing with the stuff until she's comfortable with it so she can present it to you. Unless there's more I think your in for a good time (if your into that that is).
I guess you are upset because she did not use the stuff on you? Are you thinking that she might be cheating on you? I would have a good talk with her on one of those long romantic weekends in the woods.
If she is not using the stuff with you it is very suspicious. She maybe using it with someone else. I suggest talking to her about the stuff.
If you don't comunicate with her, how would you know and how could you know if there is still a way to work things out.
It depends on what the stuff she bought are?!!?
If your marriage is stable then I do not see why this would be the end of your marriage...
Sorry, you sound like a naive virgin school boy who's insecure about his first girlfriend, LOL.
well did you ask her why she bought what she did? if not then you need to go ask her and get rid of the suspisions that you have.
Honey,
This question is impossible to answer without any idea of what she purchased. Please give details.
Thanks :)
depends on what the stuff is. sit down and have a long heart to heart talk with your wife
maybe she wants to get freaky with ya!
The other day I noticed she had bought some "stuff". Could this be the end of our marriage?
Be prepared to be owned.
I don't think it means its the end, it just means she might want to try and live out some weird fantasy with you. Has she mentioned the stuff she bought to you yet, or did you find it? You should just ask her about it. And if she is planning some freaky deaky S & M type stuff, as long as it doesn't make you feel degraded or uncomfortable, maybe you should go for it. After all, you're the only guy she's ever going to have sex with til death do you part, so make her happy. Besides, if you have any naughty fantasies you want her to try out, she'll be much more willing.
What do you mean by stuff?
Sex toys?
Cos that's only the beginning, not the end.
EDIT:
Ok, she obviously is into BDSM or something like that, she obviously feels comfortable enough to share her fantasies with you. Be mature and experience this stuff with her.
Ask her exactly what it is she likes and have a look on the net for info, but it sound like a BDSM or latex fetish...nothing wrong with that!
What kind of stuff?
Ah. In what way is this the end? The handle with the chain and ball is called a mace, by the way. It sounds like she wants to have some fun with some sex games. It's not like it was a real mace, after all. Give it a try. You might like it.
There must be more than that to make you think it the end. How does she act other wise? Maybe she's practicing with the stuff until she's comfortable with it so she can present it to you. Unless there's more I think your in for a good time (if your into that that is).
I guess you are upset because she did not use the stuff on you? Are you thinking that she might be cheating on you? I would have a good talk with her on one of those long romantic weekends in the woods.
If she is not using the stuff with you it is very suspicious. She maybe using it with someone else. I suggest talking to her about the stuff.
If you don't comunicate with her, how would you know and how could you know if there is still a way to work things out.
It depends on what the stuff she bought are?!!?
If your marriage is stable then I do not see why this would be the end of your marriage...
Sorry, you sound like a naive virgin school boy who's insecure about his first girlfriend, LOL.
well did you ask her why she bought what she did? if not then you need to go ask her and get rid of the suspisions that you have.
Honey,
This question is impossible to answer without any idea of what she purchased. Please give details.
Thanks :)
depends on what the stuff is. sit down and have a long heart to heart talk with your wife
maybe she wants to get freaky with ya!
I was wondering if someone has?
a web cam on would they show a symbol on there messenger??? I'm just wondering, I noticed my husband has one on and I never noticed it before. I'm at work and thought I would ask, maybe I need to sneak home and check huh??????
you should buy a program called specator, they sell it on line or at frys like 50 bucks shows everthing he is doing on the computer from where ever you are and he will not know. it super cool
send him an IM asking him to view his cab , and if he says no then ask what he's doing and who's watching him , and is he watching someone else , but it might be more fun for you to just sneak home and suprise him
Yes I do believe that you can see it on messenger..and yes I would sneak home and see what he is doing if you don't trust him. Or just write him and let him know you see that he has a web cam on..then see what he says ?
u shouldn't head home and check it. install a software that you can see what he's doing. only cost u $10-$30.
you should buy a program called specator, they sell it on line or at frys like 50 bucks shows everthing he is doing on the computer from where ever you are and he will not know. it super cool
send him an IM asking him to view his cab , and if he says no then ask what he's doing and who's watching him , and is he watching someone else , but it might be more fun for you to just sneak home and suprise him
Yes I do believe that you can see it on messenger..and yes I would sneak home and see what he is doing if you don't trust him. Or just write him and let him know you see that he has a web cam on..then see what he says ?
u shouldn't head home and check it. install a software that you can see what he's doing. only cost u $10-$30.
I need advice here plz read i
She denied me back then because she choosed to stay with her abusive bf who hits her and treated her bad and also is a drugi. She lost her v to him at 15. I had not seen her since i was 15 i em now 23. I have a good life , i have a lamborghini, have my own house.
P.s. We had kissed many times, and had sex so she said she was into me but loved her loser bf.
I had not talked to her ever since i changed my #. Note that she treated me bad like ignore me, talk smack like i'm just hating on her. So we stopped talking and got into a fight.
I really want to see her face when she sees me. theres this big party going down this week at my buds house and word is she will be there.
The question is what would you do if you were her in that moment?, and should i approach her or just ignore her and have my bud say you remember him.
If any of you live in Los angeles hit me up. I will invite you!.
Ignore the crap out of her. And if she comes up to you, don't phase her. If you still like her though be nice!
It sounds like u deserve better it shes an adult she made the decision that she was going to stay with her bf that is a druggie and a bad influence. People like that don't normally change and don't want to change. As you said you have a good life don't screw that up trying to get with her again when you could find a woman that is perfect for you that is sensible and caring who really loves you, hope this helps
well i am from in england so don't think i would make it to the party but i really think you play it cool and just pretend you haven't even realized she is there. by the sounds of it she doesn't deserve you as you have tried to be there for her and she obviously isn't ready to make the decision to leave the bf. show her whats she missed out on and have a good time.
I think that if you really wanna see her, then you should approach her and talk to her yourself. See how she's doing, strike up a conversation with her. Who knows maybe you two could be friends, or possibly have a relationship again or something. Are you still interested in her? You never know, could be meant to be for you two to see each other again. good luck.
Never let the girl be the confident one in the relationship...because then she can do whatever the hell she wants and your feelings don't matter. I say forget the past because it sounds like she has a lot of issues. Don't be the kind of guy who "helps you get through your problems". That's a bunch of unnecessary crap that you will have to put up with. Go find yourself a girl you're into and have some fun. You're still young.
You basically answered your own question.... You were young, 8 years have passed and you are doing good for yourself. So do you really want to let someone back into your life that treated you like that? And on the same note, Why should you care if she is there or sees you.... She didn't care then.
You're obviously better off. Keep it that way and remember to keep your head up :)
i live in l.a. ghahahaha but it's really up to you. but as the bigger, better man you should approach her. make small talk. catch up on things and mend your relationship with her
I think you should just leave her be, she has treated you badly and said cruel things. She doesn't really want to leave the abusive bf
Ignore her treat her like she has treated you you were just a back up for her. if you Ignore a women and act like your not interested then they start to chase you
if you want to get back together,just tell her she was always right.girls love to hear their right. if you dont i cant help you.
Ignore her, don't get mixed up with her. I'm not usually a judgmental person but she will most likely screw up your life.
I would sell the Lambo and buy myself a life.
She sounds like a very promiscuous loser!
MOVE ON!
ignore her she doesnt deserve to be talked to by you
well,make sure you show her what she has missed out on. you are better off without her and just be happy.
OK.. WHY? I say just let things happen as they happen. Don't force things one way or another. That was years ago..you both should by now be different people. If you see her, be an adult. Don't let old dried up feelings rule your life. Or are they old and dried up? I think not. I think you want her to think she made a huge mistake and look at you as her knight in shinning armor and if it don't happen you will again be crushed. Save the heartache and expect nothing.. that may be what you will get. And if not proceed with extreme caution, she hurt you before she might just do it again.
How can I say what I would do if I were her? I have no clue as to where her head is or how she feels about you or life in general. There isn't anyway to know. All things will be whats supposed to be.
P.s. We had kissed many times, and had sex so she said she was into me but loved her loser bf.
I had not talked to her ever since i changed my #. Note that she treated me bad like ignore me, talk smack like i'm just hating on her. So we stopped talking and got into a fight.
I really want to see her face when she sees me. theres this big party going down this week at my buds house and word is she will be there.
The question is what would you do if you were her in that moment?, and should i approach her or just ignore her and have my bud say you remember him.
If any of you live in Los angeles hit me up. I will invite you!.
Ignore the crap out of her. And if she comes up to you, don't phase her. If you still like her though be nice!
It sounds like u deserve better it shes an adult she made the decision that she was going to stay with her bf that is a druggie and a bad influence. People like that don't normally change and don't want to change. As you said you have a good life don't screw that up trying to get with her again when you could find a woman that is perfect for you that is sensible and caring who really loves you, hope this helps
well i am from in england so don't think i would make it to the party but i really think you play it cool and just pretend you haven't even realized she is there. by the sounds of it she doesn't deserve you as you have tried to be there for her and she obviously isn't ready to make the decision to leave the bf. show her whats she missed out on and have a good time.
I think that if you really wanna see her, then you should approach her and talk to her yourself. See how she's doing, strike up a conversation with her. Who knows maybe you two could be friends, or possibly have a relationship again or something. Are you still interested in her? You never know, could be meant to be for you two to see each other again. good luck.
Never let the girl be the confident one in the relationship...because then she can do whatever the hell she wants and your feelings don't matter. I say forget the past because it sounds like she has a lot of issues. Don't be the kind of guy who "helps you get through your problems". That's a bunch of unnecessary crap that you will have to put up with. Go find yourself a girl you're into and have some fun. You're still young.
You basically answered your own question.... You were young, 8 years have passed and you are doing good for yourself. So do you really want to let someone back into your life that treated you like that? And on the same note, Why should you care if she is there or sees you.... She didn't care then.
You're obviously better off. Keep it that way and remember to keep your head up :)
i live in l.a. ghahahaha but it's really up to you. but as the bigger, better man you should approach her. make small talk. catch up on things and mend your relationship with her
I think you should just leave her be, she has treated you badly and said cruel things. She doesn't really want to leave the abusive bf
Ignore her treat her like she has treated you you were just a back up for her. if you Ignore a women and act like your not interested then they start to chase you
if you want to get back together,just tell her she was always right.girls love to hear their right. if you dont i cant help you.
Ignore her, don't get mixed up with her. I'm not usually a judgmental person but she will most likely screw up your life.
I would sell the Lambo and buy myself a life.
She sounds like a very promiscuous loser!
MOVE ON!
ignore her she doesnt deserve to be talked to by you
well,make sure you show her what she has missed out on. you are better off without her and just be happy.
OK.. WHY? I say just let things happen as they happen. Don't force things one way or another. That was years ago..you both should by now be different people. If you see her, be an adult. Don't let old dried up feelings rule your life. Or are they old and dried up? I think not. I think you want her to think she made a huge mistake and look at you as her knight in shinning armor and if it don't happen you will again be crushed. Save the heartache and expect nothing.. that may be what you will get. And if not proceed with extreme caution, she hurt you before she might just do it again.
How can I say what I would do if I were her? I have no clue as to where her head is or how she feels about you or life in general. There isn't anyway to know. All things will be whats supposed to be.
Is this wrong of me to get back at my in-laws?
OK i just married my wife back 3 weeks ago we just got back from the honeymoon and well i am still peeved at her family because before the wedding when we had like her whole family down for it and all well i had just gotten a great dane puppy a second one and well her dad just kicks it as hard as he can because he got mad at spike(my dog) for wanting to be petted and all that made me so mad her family has like screwed with me from day one but its just i am so fed up with it all and my wife is pregnant with twins(Nicholas James mercer and Kristen Lean Mercer do on August 13th) and well i am so mad at her family still that i told my wife that i don't want the twins any were near them because i am tiered of this BS...... i mean some of my friends have told me i am wrong to use my kids as leverage and a weapon but i don't see it like that..... i am just wanting to know what every1 else thinks
You wrote;
....her dad just kicks (dog) as hard as he can because he got mad at spike(my dog) for wanting to be petted...
Her dad is a very disturbed man for REAL...and he must always be avoided by you. He will do to the kids what he did to the dog.... Don;t let this go by! Any of it!!! Get into marriage counseling and tell the counselor all the abuses they have heaped on you and the dog, and etc.
This must be agreed to fast and your wife must agree to keep them at bay. If she insists in their coming over, and you forgetting the matters,l you leave! Stay out until they are gone if they are in your home, certainly, don't go near them....If they show at your door, do not let them in. If they keep ringing, call the cops!!! They are abusive and dangerous, and YOUR wife must take a stand against them, and she Will be met with their anger, but you are her NEW family...
Her dad need psychiatric tests at an adult psych unit of a hospital for emotional and behavioral disorders, plus the 6 anxiety disorders and probably ongoing therapy and medication maybe from a psychiatrist. for REAL~!!!Don;t let this go.
If wife will NOT go to counseling with you, and don't get made when you ask her, just be very insistent, if she Still refuses, YOU GO ALONE
The marriage, that case, might be dead if she will not side with your never having to be near them because of their abuse...
Another option: move 1200 miles or more away. Also, you MUST tonight go to cops and report in full what he did to dog, and you in the past, and then call ASPCA toll free number, and report and file a complaint against him.
take Dog to vet and have story written down by doc and have dog checked out. Use the official report against him, in court. He is a maniac for real. His wife is probably afraid of him, but he will surely put his foot down if he doesn;t get his way. YOUR WIFE MUST totally be on your side only. YOU CANNOT be their target of abuse EVER again.
It's due not do. A man who would kick a puppy isn't much of a man. However, these people will be in your life until they die and your wife loves them, so try to get over it. I hope he's better with babies than he is with dogs.
yes you are wrong don't put your kids in that mess.
As a "victim" of meddlesome stupid former in laws I say do what you like!
It is a pitty you didn't kick the father in law how dare he.
Please do not hold the children as a lever against them, remember they are your wife's family. What dose the wife think you should do?
That is what is important not what everyone else thinks.
When the children do arrive take the in-law aside tell them what you are feeling and hopefully the past can be left behind and you can start a new. If they are not prepared to make any changes you will then need to do what ever you have to. Good luck
You wrote;
....her dad just kicks (dog) as hard as he can because he got mad at spike(my dog) for wanting to be petted...
Her dad is a very disturbed man for REAL...and he must always be avoided by you. He will do to the kids what he did to the dog.... Don;t let this go by! Any of it!!! Get into marriage counseling and tell the counselor all the abuses they have heaped on you and the dog, and etc.
This must be agreed to fast and your wife must agree to keep them at bay. If she insists in their coming over, and you forgetting the matters,l you leave! Stay out until they are gone if they are in your home, certainly, don't go near them....If they show at your door, do not let them in. If they keep ringing, call the cops!!! They are abusive and dangerous, and YOUR wife must take a stand against them, and she Will be met with their anger, but you are her NEW family...
Her dad need psychiatric tests at an adult psych unit of a hospital for emotional and behavioral disorders, plus the 6 anxiety disorders and probably ongoing therapy and medication maybe from a psychiatrist. for REAL~!!!Don;t let this go.
If wife will NOT go to counseling with you, and don't get made when you ask her, just be very insistent, if she Still refuses, YOU GO ALONE
The marriage, that case, might be dead if she will not side with your never having to be near them because of their abuse...
Another option: move 1200 miles or more away. Also, you MUST tonight go to cops and report in full what he did to dog, and you in the past, and then call ASPCA toll free number, and report and file a complaint against him.
take Dog to vet and have story written down by doc and have dog checked out. Use the official report against him, in court. He is a maniac for real. His wife is probably afraid of him, but he will surely put his foot down if he doesn;t get his way. YOUR WIFE MUST totally be on your side only. YOU CANNOT be their target of abuse EVER again.
It's due not do. A man who would kick a puppy isn't much of a man. However, these people will be in your life until they die and your wife loves them, so try to get over it. I hope he's better with babies than he is with dogs.
yes you are wrong don't put your kids in that mess.
As a "victim" of meddlesome stupid former in laws I say do what you like!
It is a pitty you didn't kick the father in law how dare he.
Please do not hold the children as a lever against them, remember they are your wife's family. What dose the wife think you should do?
That is what is important not what everyone else thinks.
When the children do arrive take the in-law aside tell them what you are feeling and hopefully the past can be left behind and you can start a new. If they are not prepared to make any changes you will then need to do what ever you have to. Good luck
Does he see me as his future wife?
yesterday i was on the phone with my new bf and he made a joke about something and i said to him that i have pity with his future wife, he said wat r u talking about? dont u wanna be my future wife? i said "yes but maybe later ur gonna dump me and stuff". he said then that i never have to be insecure about us and that he is being serious about us. he then asked me at wat age i wanted to have his kids, i told him at 26yrs and he said oohh i thought 23yrs and we laughed.
but am now kinda wondering, is he seeing me as his future wife and mother of his kids or wat? wat do u guys think? we are both19 and still go to school
He may see you as the person he wants to spend the rest of his life with. Yes your only 19 but that doesn't mean it couldn't happen! I'm married to the man i started dating when we were both 16 and we have 2 kids and very happy so if this is something you want go for it!! It could work out for you!
Many poeple say things when they are in a weird situation like that, that they might think is what they want at the time but your mind is always changing. If you are ment to be with one another, things will turn out how they are ment to be. It is all time. I wouldn't worry about it because things in life should not be pre planned. One day you will see
He really likes you and is just "testing the water" to see how you feel about him. Anything is possible down the line and it sounds like in his mind you are someone that he could see a future with. just give it some time....good luck.
He is giving you respect and honesty and loves you. It might change so enjoy it but dont worry about it. Let things happen naturally. But if he is really new then be careful.
Probably, which is normal at your age. Just keep talking about it for a while and just focus on school and having fun for now.
Whatever. Even if he is serious, you are 19. It will change. And there's no reason to settle down at 19 anyway.
He probably loves u that much that he (NOW) wants u 2 become his future wife...
Ure at the beginning- it's hard 2 find out if u r or not, U'll find out in a few years..
Stop worrying and just enjoy yourself. You'll find out soon enough, no need to rush.
He said you don't have to be insecure about us and that he is serious,so.....there is your answer.
why don't you ask him. can't you talk to him.
NO
Nope honey...he is probably stil crazy about new love so dont get ur hopes high out of this.
but am now kinda wondering, is he seeing me as his future wife and mother of his kids or wat? wat do u guys think? we are both19 and still go to school
He may see you as the person he wants to spend the rest of his life with. Yes your only 19 but that doesn't mean it couldn't happen! I'm married to the man i started dating when we were both 16 and we have 2 kids and very happy so if this is something you want go for it!! It could work out for you!
Many poeple say things when they are in a weird situation like that, that they might think is what they want at the time but your mind is always changing. If you are ment to be with one another, things will turn out how they are ment to be. It is all time. I wouldn't worry about it because things in life should not be pre planned. One day you will see
He really likes you and is just "testing the water" to see how you feel about him. Anything is possible down the line and it sounds like in his mind you are someone that he could see a future with. just give it some time....good luck.
He is giving you respect and honesty and loves you. It might change so enjoy it but dont worry about it. Let things happen naturally. But if he is really new then be careful.
Probably, which is normal at your age. Just keep talking about it for a while and just focus on school and having fun for now.
Whatever. Even if he is serious, you are 19. It will change. And there's no reason to settle down at 19 anyway.
He probably loves u that much that he (NOW) wants u 2 become his future wife...
Ure at the beginning- it's hard 2 find out if u r or not, U'll find out in a few years..
Stop worrying and just enjoy yourself. You'll find out soon enough, no need to rush.
He said you don't have to be insecure about us and that he is serious,so.....there is your answer.
why don't you ask him. can't you talk to him.
NO
Nope honey...he is probably stil crazy about new love so dont get ur hopes high out of this.
How long after being married did you wait to have children?
What do you mean waited? Ever heard of a shotgun wedding?
im getting married in september and we have always said we wnat at the most 5 years to be together and enjoy being amrried and just the 2 of us. we wanna travela nd do things like that before we have kids... make sure you have time togteher.. you should wait atleats like a yeara dn a half or 2. enjoy this time you have alone with your hubby! :)
I waited 3 years. It was great. You both should agree on it so noone(usually the man) is surprised when it happens.
We are waiting a year. I would have waited longer but I just turned 31 and want/need to get started!
I've been married 2 1/2 years and i still do not have kids...
2 yrs
5 years. Best thing we ever did.
at least 9 months :)
im getting married in september and we have always said we wnat at the most 5 years to be together and enjoy being amrried and just the 2 of us. we wanna travela nd do things like that before we have kids... make sure you have time togteher.. you should wait atleats like a yeara dn a half or 2. enjoy this time you have alone with your hubby! :)
I waited 3 years. It was great. You both should agree on it so noone(usually the man) is surprised when it happens.
We are waiting a year. I would have waited longer but I just turned 31 and want/need to get started!
I've been married 2 1/2 years and i still do not have kids...
2 yrs
5 years. Best thing we ever did.
at least 9 months :)
Has your guy ever played with or seemed interested in your bras and undies when you weren
My new guy seems very interested in my panty drawer! LOL!
never been interested in my gfs panties, but more about getting them off her.
I have been dressed up as a girl though, it was kinda fun (halloween) she made me go all out, shaved legs, bra, panties, heels, makeup, you name it. Its what i get for saying "you buy it, and ill wear it"
Well, it does seem a little unusual.
No my husband is scared of bras....can't work them. LOL
I would be a little concerned if I were you.
down rite strange!!!!!!!!!!!
never been interested in my gfs panties, but more about getting them off her.
I have been dressed up as a girl though, it was kinda fun (halloween) she made me go all out, shaved legs, bra, panties, heels, makeup, you name it. Its what i get for saying "you buy it, and ill wear it"
Well, it does seem a little unusual.
No my husband is scared of bras....can't work them. LOL
I would be a little concerned if I were you.
down rite strange!!!!!!!!!!!
How do you make the first time hurt less?
I have herd the first time of sex hurts like hell. How do you make the first time hurt less? I really want to know.
Get married first.
There%26#039;s only one way, penetration. I%26#039;ve heard that you can do it yourself with a sex toy, but it%26#039;s gonna hurt either way. I guess the only good thing about that option is that you won%26#039;t have the negative memory of the first guy who did that. Inevitably, the pain ruins that first experience, especially if he freaks out from the blood.
Lubrication for sure. Foreplay would help with that too. It will draw blood to the area and offer the body%26#039;s natural lubrication. But it will hurt a bit still probably. Not like hell. And it gets better after that. Just relax as much as you can. See if you can start off with a massage or something like that.
its not as bad as you think but yes it hurts for one be 100% sure you are ready take your time lots of foreplay relax don%26#039;t hold your breath take long deep breath inhale and then at that moment exhale don%26#039;t tense up i know that%26#039;s hard to say but it is a muscle if you tense up it will hurt even more make sure your partner knows to take it slow because it is your first time use lots of lubrication ky jelly%26#039;s good and take your time i cant say it enough slow is better make sure you are extremely turned on (you may even want to consider asking him to finger you with alot of lube just slowly ) when you are ready for it to begin let him know and at first just ask him to insert the head a couple times the a lil more then a lil as you are ready make sure you are in a place where you can relax and if need be make noise scream yell whatever you feel inside at that moment let it out enjoy it just be sure you are comfortable and ready good luck have fun!
Do it with the person you really love. Don%26#039;t do it just because your friends do it. Just keep your focus on your passion for your partner, and you%26#039;ll never notice the pain of %26quot;first-entry%26quot;.
A very good foreplay will do. Romantic setting. no one is forced or pressured to do it.
i hope you%26#039;re already of legal age to have sex... if you%26#039;re too young, it sure would hurt like hell..
No it does not. what hurts you is the wrong belief that you think it will.
don%26#039;t worry and relax.
when I had sex the first time I was so tense that it took my boyfriend hours. then I did not even feel it. ( I mean the hurt : )))
It doesn%26#039;t hurt at all. Trust me, I%26#039;m sure all your friends are telling you all kinds of crap about sex, I bet none of them have had it! Don%26#039;t worry about it, no it won%26#039;t hurt you, either of you!
Make sure your partner is poorly endowed, use lots of lube, and go very slowly.
buy KY lubricant at walgreens. have fun.
take it very slow and easy. Make sure your heart is in it all the way and your body will answer.
Honestly, I don%26#039;t even remember if it did or not now. It was almost 20 years ago-lol.
I definitely would%26#039;ve been wiser with the person and the timing though :(
Try to relax, don%26#039;t rush it, and use some lube :)
kiss and cuddle a lot and for a long time.. and take it slow... i hope you%26#039;re a major!!
%0D%0A
Get married first.
There%26#039;s only one way, penetration. I%26#039;ve heard that you can do it yourself with a sex toy, but it%26#039;s gonna hurt either way. I guess the only good thing about that option is that you won%26#039;t have the negative memory of the first guy who did that. Inevitably, the pain ruins that first experience, especially if he freaks out from the blood.
Lubrication for sure. Foreplay would help with that too. It will draw blood to the area and offer the body%26#039;s natural lubrication. But it will hurt a bit still probably. Not like hell. And it gets better after that. Just relax as much as you can. See if you can start off with a massage or something like that.
its not as bad as you think but yes it hurts for one be 100% sure you are ready take your time lots of foreplay relax don%26#039;t hold your breath take long deep breath inhale and then at that moment exhale don%26#039;t tense up i know that%26#039;s hard to say but it is a muscle if you tense up it will hurt even more make sure your partner knows to take it slow because it is your first time use lots of lubrication ky jelly%26#039;s good and take your time i cant say it enough slow is better make sure you are extremely turned on (you may even want to consider asking him to finger you with alot of lube just slowly ) when you are ready for it to begin let him know and at first just ask him to insert the head a couple times the a lil more then a lil as you are ready make sure you are in a place where you can relax and if need be make noise scream yell whatever you feel inside at that moment let it out enjoy it just be sure you are comfortable and ready good luck have fun!
Do it with the person you really love. Don%26#039;t do it just because your friends do it. Just keep your focus on your passion for your partner, and you%26#039;ll never notice the pain of %26quot;first-entry%26quot;.
A very good foreplay will do. Romantic setting. no one is forced or pressured to do it.
i hope you%26#039;re already of legal age to have sex... if you%26#039;re too young, it sure would hurt like hell..
No it does not. what hurts you is the wrong belief that you think it will.
don%26#039;t worry and relax.
when I had sex the first time I was so tense that it took my boyfriend hours. then I did not even feel it. ( I mean the hurt : )))
It doesn%26#039;t hurt at all. Trust me, I%26#039;m sure all your friends are telling you all kinds of crap about sex, I bet none of them have had it! Don%26#039;t worry about it, no it won%26#039;t hurt you, either of you!
Make sure your partner is poorly endowed, use lots of lube, and go very slowly.
buy KY lubricant at walgreens. have fun.
take it very slow and easy. Make sure your heart is in it all the way and your body will answer.
Honestly, I don%26#039;t even remember if it did or not now. It was almost 20 years ago-lol.
I definitely would%26#039;ve been wiser with the person and the timing though :(
Try to relax, don%26#039;t rush it, and use some lube :)
kiss and cuddle a lot and for a long time.. and take it slow... i hope you%26#039;re a major!!
%0D%0A
How many women husbands in the military on active duty divorce them when they are away?
I have heard of several cases of this happening. The man in the army on station in iraq, she gets lonely because hes away so much so she files for divorce and gets the child and hes just *ucked
It seems very vicious of a woman to do to him so how comon is that
Sadly, and apparently this does happen frequently. I do feel like it's a little harsh of a woman to do, but I've never been put in that position so I can't really judge. I do think it's important that a woman be self sufficient in general before getting married, but ESPECIALLY in a marriage where the husband is in the military, as he more than likely will be spending alot of time away from home. I have family members that are military and it can be very difficult being left alone especially if you have children.
It seems very vicious of a woman to do to him so how comon is that
Sadly, and apparently this does happen frequently. I do feel like it's a little harsh of a woman to do, but I've never been put in that position so I can't really judge. I do think it's important that a woman be self sufficient in general before getting married, but ESPECIALLY in a marriage where the husband is in the military, as he more than likely will be spending alot of time away from home. I have family members that are military and it can be very difficult being left alone especially if you have children.
If a couple signs their legal forms for getting married ....?
but for whatever reason the ceremony is not completed .. they never say their "I do" .. then what status are they in ? Married? Or what ?
In PA you fill out an application, then you get your marriage license, you have 60 days to use it, if not, then it's void. If the license was signed by someone that had the authority to do it then it was legal and is are considered married.
The forms have to be signed by the legal official that oversaw the vows. Also, the forms have to be filed with the courthouse.
If all of that happened, they are married - ceremony or not.
I think they would be married? Do you mean their marriage liscense?
In PA you fill out an application, then you get your marriage license, you have 60 days to use it, if not, then it's void. If the license was signed by someone that had the authority to do it then it was legal and is are considered married.
The forms have to be signed by the legal official that oversaw the vows. Also, the forms have to be filed with the courthouse.
If all of that happened, they are married - ceremony or not.
I think they would be married? Do you mean their marriage liscense?
Should I tell my niece her husband is cheating on her?
My daughter and her husband already saw her fiancee at the time kissing another girl and she married him any way. Now it's happening again. My nephew walked in on her husband with another woman, but no ones talking or telling her. I don't know what to do because this is my sisters daughter. I really don't want to get in the middle of any of it and I've been trying to talk my nephew into talking but I'm not even sure if I should be doing that. I'm scared my niece is going to get an STD or something.
Any advice would be greatly appreciated.
Talk to your sister. Telling your niece is not a good idea, because first she won't believe you, and when she realizes it's true (IF she does), she will resent you. It would be better coming from her mom.
Not logical, but common.
I would stay out of it. The messenger often gets shot.
If your ex-husband was able to keep cheating for 4 years without you getting any kind of a gut feeling that something's not right, he must be exceptionally (even pathologically) good at leading a double life. Most people give away their true character one way or another; you don't have to "walk in" on someone to know if they respect you and value you or not.
If it were me I would have to tell! Maybe she could forgive the kissing thing, and he probably fed her some line about being nervous about the wedding and needed to feel like he could still be attractive to other women BLAH< BLAH<BLAH!!! But now that they are married I think she really needs to know NOT just because of an STD but because its her husband and he should be faithful to his wife!
Why are those who are really concerned always the last ones to hear? This is a hard question: you shouldn't get involved in their marital affairs, but then again this is so mean to her. I'd talk to him first I think, and tell him everybody knows about his ways and you are about to tell your niece, unless he is man enough to tell her himself. Who knows they have a mutual arrangement to have lovers at the side?
No. You mind your own business and here is why: She knew he was unfaithful and married him anyway. She should be getting tested for STDS since they haven't been married long, they both could have picked something up long beforehand. What will happen is that you will tell her, she will forgive him and you will no longer be allowed to darken their doorstep (as they will put it). Not to mention the rest of the family will see you as a budinsky and a home wrecker of a different kind. Your treading dangerous waters on this one.
Your niece is your first priority. You should tell her what her husband is doing and then leave it alone. She is an adult if she decides to stay with him after she realizes what he is doing then that's her problem; you did your part. But you cannot stand by and let this happen. Talk to her and tell her what you know.
Not only should you tell her ASAP, but tell her with the people who also know about the cheating. Like your nephew. The more people she sees that *know* he's cheating on her, the more she'll believe you guys. You're her family; & she can't deny the truth from her family.
Good luck, & I'm sorry you've been put in this position.
tell her fast. she needs to know what she's dealing with. only then can she assess the situation and decide what to do about her marriage. i think if she finds out that you knew and didn't tell her she will be really hurt and feel like everyone is laughing behind her back. i am sure that you don't want to hurt her but if you really love her do it
Yes you need to tell her, as uncomfortable as it may be for you to get in the middle. She has a right to know, especially before children get involved, if she doesn't have any yet. Let her make an informed decision as to whether or not she wants to stay in the marriage.
Look at it this way:
This is your niece, she is related to you, blood for crying out loud. She needs to know what is going on. It would be different if it were some stranger or someone who isn't related but you need to tell her!! How would you feel if it were your daughter and she didn't know? Good luck!!
say nothing
I'm not kidding.
If you say something, this is going to EXPLODE in your face.
all those people who told you to tell her? I will bet you that NONE OF THEM are adults. I'll bet you that EVERY ONE OF THEM is still in their teenage years. Head in the clouds, not understanding psychology in the slightest degree.
see Mrs. G's answer? THAT is the thinking of an ADULT! You children who know nothing about real life...just wait. It's NOTHING like what you think it is.
Yes, wouldn't you want to know? She might be mad or not believe you, but at least the idea will be in her head and hopefully she'll realize that he's no good. Everyone handles these types of situations differently, but she needs to know like ASAP.
Talk to your neice. She will more than likely respect and listen to you over the other person. Tell her your worried for her, express your concerns. And let her know you are there for her! If I was in her position and my aunt knew something like that and didn't tell me, I'd be sooooo mad!
Well sometimes the truth hurts but ultimatley it is what you need to hear. I would not hesitate to tell someone but only because I would want to know. If I knew my friends were hiding something like that from me I would consider that a betrayal.
mind your own business. others know and by diffusion, she will hear of it all soon enuf. the poster who said you will be the one hated is right. if it comes from you in any way, you will be blamed.
mind your own business.
I would tell your sister and let her give her daughter the information. It's a lot easier to break down in front of your mother and you're more likely to take advice from a parent than anyone else.
Talk to your sister... and then the two of you can talk to your niece.
She needs to be told... how would you feel if your family knew that you were getting cheated on and did nothing?
You should get your nephew to tell her husband that he knows and give him a chance to come clean, then if the husband won't tell her he's cheating and tell her how you know he's cheating.
Put yourself in her shoes. Wouldn't you want to know? If she finds out you knew and didn't tell her she will be hurt even more.
Tell and don't get a child to do this! I would tell and what she does with it is her business but make sure the kids are safe!
Smooches
You should tell her she has a right to know. sometimes when we are in love we are blind to what that person is doing. If she does nothing after you tell her then its her lost.
Duh!!! YES!
I am very glad you mentioned the STD because that is what I was going to bring up when I saw your question. Not only can she get an STD but do you want to wait for her to find out after he gets some other woman pregnant and it is all the harder on her? She simply has to be told. What amazes me is that your nephew walked in on him and he did not get scared enough to admit it to her himself! That sure is arrogant. The fact is, she is going to find out eventually what kind of a man he is. Don't let years of her life pass by wasting her time with this man before she has a chance to be aware and do something about it. Don't let her get sick or die from whatever diseases he could be bringing home. Tell her....it is the right thing to do.
If its for real and no doubt that her husband is cheating. Then you could do a couple of things.
A) talk to him and tell him that everyone knows and give him a week say to tell his wife.
B) tell her, she will be mad and i bet she will take it out on you, "dont shoot the messenger" . However there are enough people who have seen this.
C) tell her in front of husband, again sparks may fly. but you have truth on your side.
D) tell your sister, her mum, let her break the news maybe with you there.
She may choose to stay with him and believe he wont do it again, thats her choice so be prepared for that.
I for one would like to know if i was being cheated on so i could end the relationship. I believe in trust, and unless they entered a relationship with certain rules that its ok to have outside relations, then she should know.
This is quite the predicament for you and I understand where you are coming from. I have 6 nieces and nephews and I would tell them in a heartbeat. Family always comes first no matter what and imagine yourself in the same situation and how you would feel if your niece knew and didn't tell you. I think it hurts even worse than the cheating to discover someone close to you knew and never told you. My nephew was faced with this a few years ago when he called my husband and said a female answered that wasn't me and he was scared to tell me, but the first thing he said was "you know I love you right" then he told me what happened. I was never angry at him for telling me and it actually prevented quite a heartache for me.
Any advice would be greatly appreciated.
Talk to your sister. Telling your niece is not a good idea, because first she won't believe you, and when she realizes it's true (IF she does), she will resent you. It would be better coming from her mom.
Not logical, but common.
I would stay out of it. The messenger often gets shot.
If your ex-husband was able to keep cheating for 4 years without you getting any kind of a gut feeling that something's not right, he must be exceptionally (even pathologically) good at leading a double life. Most people give away their true character one way or another; you don't have to "walk in" on someone to know if they respect you and value you or not.
If it were me I would have to tell! Maybe she could forgive the kissing thing, and he probably fed her some line about being nervous about the wedding and needed to feel like he could still be attractive to other women BLAH< BLAH<BLAH!!! But now that they are married I think she really needs to know NOT just because of an STD but because its her husband and he should be faithful to his wife!
Why are those who are really concerned always the last ones to hear? This is a hard question: you shouldn't get involved in their marital affairs, but then again this is so mean to her. I'd talk to him first I think, and tell him everybody knows about his ways and you are about to tell your niece, unless he is man enough to tell her himself. Who knows they have a mutual arrangement to have lovers at the side?
No. You mind your own business and here is why: She knew he was unfaithful and married him anyway. She should be getting tested for STDS since they haven't been married long, they both could have picked something up long beforehand. What will happen is that you will tell her, she will forgive him and you will no longer be allowed to darken their doorstep (as they will put it). Not to mention the rest of the family will see you as a budinsky and a home wrecker of a different kind. Your treading dangerous waters on this one.
Your niece is your first priority. You should tell her what her husband is doing and then leave it alone. She is an adult if she decides to stay with him after she realizes what he is doing then that's her problem; you did your part. But you cannot stand by and let this happen. Talk to her and tell her what you know.
Not only should you tell her ASAP, but tell her with the people who also know about the cheating. Like your nephew. The more people she sees that *know* he's cheating on her, the more she'll believe you guys. You're her family; & she can't deny the truth from her family.
Good luck, & I'm sorry you've been put in this position.
tell her fast. she needs to know what she's dealing with. only then can she assess the situation and decide what to do about her marriage. i think if she finds out that you knew and didn't tell her she will be really hurt and feel like everyone is laughing behind her back. i am sure that you don't want to hurt her but if you really love her do it
Yes you need to tell her, as uncomfortable as it may be for you to get in the middle. She has a right to know, especially before children get involved, if she doesn't have any yet. Let her make an informed decision as to whether or not she wants to stay in the marriage.
Look at it this way:
This is your niece, she is related to you, blood for crying out loud. She needs to know what is going on. It would be different if it were some stranger or someone who isn't related but you need to tell her!! How would you feel if it were your daughter and she didn't know? Good luck!!
say nothing
I'm not kidding.
If you say something, this is going to EXPLODE in your face.
all those people who told you to tell her? I will bet you that NONE OF THEM are adults. I'll bet you that EVERY ONE OF THEM is still in their teenage years. Head in the clouds, not understanding psychology in the slightest degree.
see Mrs. G's answer? THAT is the thinking of an ADULT! You children who know nothing about real life...just wait. It's NOTHING like what you think it is.
Yes, wouldn't you want to know? She might be mad or not believe you, but at least the idea will be in her head and hopefully she'll realize that he's no good. Everyone handles these types of situations differently, but she needs to know like ASAP.
Talk to your neice. She will more than likely respect and listen to you over the other person. Tell her your worried for her, express your concerns. And let her know you are there for her! If I was in her position and my aunt knew something like that and didn't tell me, I'd be sooooo mad!
Well sometimes the truth hurts but ultimatley it is what you need to hear. I would not hesitate to tell someone but only because I would want to know. If I knew my friends were hiding something like that from me I would consider that a betrayal.
mind your own business. others know and by diffusion, she will hear of it all soon enuf. the poster who said you will be the one hated is right. if it comes from you in any way, you will be blamed.
mind your own business.
I would tell your sister and let her give her daughter the information. It's a lot easier to break down in front of your mother and you're more likely to take advice from a parent than anyone else.
Talk to your sister... and then the two of you can talk to your niece.
She needs to be told... how would you feel if your family knew that you were getting cheated on and did nothing?
You should get your nephew to tell her husband that he knows and give him a chance to come clean, then if the husband won't tell her he's cheating and tell her how you know he's cheating.
Put yourself in her shoes. Wouldn't you want to know? If she finds out you knew and didn't tell her she will be hurt even more.
Tell and don't get a child to do this! I would tell and what she does with it is her business but make sure the kids are safe!
Smooches
You should tell her she has a right to know. sometimes when we are in love we are blind to what that person is doing. If she does nothing after you tell her then its her lost.
Duh!!! YES!
I am very glad you mentioned the STD because that is what I was going to bring up when I saw your question. Not only can she get an STD but do you want to wait for her to find out after he gets some other woman pregnant and it is all the harder on her? She simply has to be told. What amazes me is that your nephew walked in on him and he did not get scared enough to admit it to her himself! That sure is arrogant. The fact is, she is going to find out eventually what kind of a man he is. Don't let years of her life pass by wasting her time with this man before she has a chance to be aware and do something about it. Don't let her get sick or die from whatever diseases he could be bringing home. Tell her....it is the right thing to do.
If its for real and no doubt that her husband is cheating. Then you could do a couple of things.
A) talk to him and tell him that everyone knows and give him a week say to tell his wife.
B) tell her, she will be mad and i bet she will take it out on you, "dont shoot the messenger" . However there are enough people who have seen this.
C) tell her in front of husband, again sparks may fly. but you have truth on your side.
D) tell your sister, her mum, let her break the news maybe with you there.
She may choose to stay with him and believe he wont do it again, thats her choice so be prepared for that.
I for one would like to know if i was being cheated on so i could end the relationship. I believe in trust, and unless they entered a relationship with certain rules that its ok to have outside relations, then she should know.
This is quite the predicament for you and I understand where you are coming from. I have 6 nieces and nephews and I would tell them in a heartbeat. Family always comes first no matter what and imagine yourself in the same situation and how you would feel if your niece knew and didn't tell you. I think it hurts even worse than the cheating to discover someone close to you knew and never told you. My nephew was faced with this a few years ago when he called my husband and said a female answered that wasn't me and he was scared to tell me, but the first thing he said was "you know I love you right" then he told me what happened. I was never angry at him for telling me and it actually prevented quite a heartache for me.
How do I end this relationship?
I have posted on here several times about my alleged gay fiance. Anyways, I want to end it with him, but I don%26#039;t know how. I do really love him, but i%26#039;m almost positive he has some serious problems or he%26#039;s gay. He%26#039;s going to be so mad because he spent a lot of money coming to see me these last two years in airfare and expenses. He also spent a lot of money on the ring. Should I offer to pay him back in installments? I feel horrible that he has made such an effort to make this work, but he won%26#039;t have intercourse with me, and I%26#039;m sure he never will. I don%26#039; think I can go the rest of my life without sex! Also, how do I do this without feeling like a giant a## Any advice on doing this without hurting him would be great.
Its amazing that you are concerned about hurting him, when quite obviously if he is never going to have sex with you and is having gay relationships he SURE is hurting you...or trying to.
I don%26#039;t completely know the dynamics here. I feel you must have known he had gay tendancies or that something was wrong for a long time, so why has it gone so far?
If it is HE that pursued you and you couldn%26#039;t find a way to push back the %26quot;come on%26quot; then I think I can guess that he must be doing this either to try to END his gay tendencies, or he wants children. EITHER way, YOU get hurt...and also potential children from this relationship. But then there would have to be sex for that, right? I am confused!!!!
Anyway if you truly loved him, you wouldn%26#039;t be asking for a way to end this at all. So apparently TRUE love is not there and your common sense is alive and working well.
Some of these types can be quite pushy and quite charming. But the bottom line is HE spent all the money of his own accord. Break-ups are always a possibility when we go with ANYONE, so he should know this the same as all people do. I don%26#039;t know if there has ever been a break-up without hurting someone or both people! I don%26#039;t know if it is possible.
What I DO know is that this relationship is NOT healthy or RIGHT for you and you are the one that you have to be %26quot;true%26quot; to because no one else will do it for you!
Just send a note with a flower of %26quot;Thanks for whatever........%26quot; And say it very plainly that you want to END ALL CONTACT. If you feel you MUST give a reason.......do it the best you can. OR just say you don%26#039;t feel that you love him or EVER can love him, the way he WANTS you to. POINT BLANK!
Tell him to NOT contact you again. Do it politely, but FIRMLY and stick to it!!!!!!!!!!!!
Then, be smarter and happier with the rest of your life..........have a background check done the next time.....that is the going thing, now!
Blessings and hope this helps a little,
Bunny7
Just tell him you are looking for a long term relationship, and you don%26#039;t see that with him. If you want to add he hasn%26#039;t been honest with you about certain things, you can. If you want to give the ring back, you can. I wouldn%26#039;t pay him back for the airfare. That was his choice. He did lead you on. He should only get the ring back. Nothing more.
You give him the ring back and you are 100% even because he knew the whole time that this %26quot;might%26quot; not work. If he can%26#039;t/won%26#039;t have intercourse than something is profoundly wrong and he has known that all along. You are totally making the right call. You deserve physical love in marriage. It is such a cool part of the package.
No you dont have to pay him anything! He did those things because he wanted to. If he wont sleep with you maybe its something else.. religious reasons.. or maybe like my husband who works way to hard and is way to stressed to even think about sex with me right now... have you ever had sex together?
Just be genuwine and tell him that you arent trying to hurt him. Good luck. Im sorry for you. My best friend found out her husband was gay a few years ago and it really messed her up. I hope it all works out for you.
Give back the ring. It%26#039;s no different than %26quot;normal%26quot; engagements where you give back the ring if the marriage doesn%26#039;t take place.
Look to be friends and let him go be whatever he is, and you should do the same.
why won%26#039;t he have sex? is he someone who doesn%26#039;t want premarital sex maybe? that wouldn%26#039;t make him gay...you say you love him but want to split because no sex---that%26#039;s not love~ give him the ring back and move on before you really hurt him~
You don%26#039;t owe him anything for travel expenses. At least give him the ring back. Some don%26#039;t and that is greedy and trashy.
You don%26#039;t owe him anything for travel expenses. Explain to him how you feel and give him the ring back.
Why end it if you love him
He chose to come out and see you so you don%26#039;t owe him any money. You do need to return the ring, it was given and accepted as a condition of future marriage and if the marriage isn%26#039;t going to happen the ring needs to be returned.
The best way to break it off is to just do it. like ripping off a band aid you have to just do it. Don%26#039;t be disrespectful or accuse him of anything, but be firm. I wouldn%26#039;t say anything to him about thinking he is gay. He may not be and you breaking up with him and making that accusation would be devastating to him. Just tell him that you have thought about it and you aren%26#039;t sure that he is the person that you want to spend the rest of your life with and you need time to think.
Be strong and you are making the right decision.
You mean you got engaged without ever discussing why he won%26#039;t have sex? Is it possible he wants to wait because of religious beliefs? He has spent a lot of time and money on you, I think you should at least let him explain if he hasn%26#039;t already.
When a spouse refuses to %26quot;consumate%26quot; the marriage it is grounds for annulment, so if he refuses to have sex before or after marriage I think you have a good reason to end it. It is not the most important part of a relationship, but still very important nonetheless.
All the best with your decision.
IF you really do love this person, why don%26#039;t you have a serious talk w/him? Tell him of your feelings on the %26quot;sex%26quot; issue %26amp; do get to the bottom of it once %26amp; for all. You stated he has some serious problems or he%26#039;s gay. IF he%26#039;s gay, I truly don%26#039;t believe he%26#039;d go as far as to get himself engaged to a female knowing full well this is not his sexual preference. It could be something physical. In fact, it could be something that if he%26#039;d see a competent Dr. he could just get help w/whatever it is. Is it really worth while to truly love someone as you state you do w/o first finding out the complete truth instead of throwing it all away?! If I truly loved someone, felt he had a problem, I certainly wouldn%26#039;t abandon him w/o first seeing what my true options are. IF you honestly DO love him, I would feel he is worth fighting for. You just seem a bit eager to let him go, then worry about %26quot;paying him back%26quot; for maybe misleading him? There has to be a different reason things are the way you state they are, but you%26#039;re just willing to let them go w/o finding a solution. If you don%26#039;t honestly care about him, are afraid to tell him, I feel you at least owe him the truth, don%26#039;t you? Give him the ring back %26amp; he can do what he wants w/it. He must have enjoyed his time w/you or he wouldn%26#039;t have gone as far w/you as he has. So, I%26#039;d figure he at least did enjoy the time spent w/you. I feel you should just be honest w/him. Honesty is the BEST policy...Best to you...:)
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Its amazing that you are concerned about hurting him, when quite obviously if he is never going to have sex with you and is having gay relationships he SURE is hurting you...or trying to.
I don%26#039;t completely know the dynamics here. I feel you must have known he had gay tendancies or that something was wrong for a long time, so why has it gone so far?
If it is HE that pursued you and you couldn%26#039;t find a way to push back the %26quot;come on%26quot; then I think I can guess that he must be doing this either to try to END his gay tendencies, or he wants children. EITHER way, YOU get hurt...and also potential children from this relationship. But then there would have to be sex for that, right? I am confused!!!!
Anyway if you truly loved him, you wouldn%26#039;t be asking for a way to end this at all. So apparently TRUE love is not there and your common sense is alive and working well.
Some of these types can be quite pushy and quite charming. But the bottom line is HE spent all the money of his own accord. Break-ups are always a possibility when we go with ANYONE, so he should know this the same as all people do. I don%26#039;t know if there has ever been a break-up without hurting someone or both people! I don%26#039;t know if it is possible.
What I DO know is that this relationship is NOT healthy or RIGHT for you and you are the one that you have to be %26quot;true%26quot; to because no one else will do it for you!
Just send a note with a flower of %26quot;Thanks for whatever........%26quot; And say it very plainly that you want to END ALL CONTACT. If you feel you MUST give a reason.......do it the best you can. OR just say you don%26#039;t feel that you love him or EVER can love him, the way he WANTS you to. POINT BLANK!
Tell him to NOT contact you again. Do it politely, but FIRMLY and stick to it!!!!!!!!!!!!
Then, be smarter and happier with the rest of your life..........have a background check done the next time.....that is the going thing, now!
Blessings and hope this helps a little,
Bunny7
Just tell him you are looking for a long term relationship, and you don%26#039;t see that with him. If you want to add he hasn%26#039;t been honest with you about certain things, you can. If you want to give the ring back, you can. I wouldn%26#039;t pay him back for the airfare. That was his choice. He did lead you on. He should only get the ring back. Nothing more.
You give him the ring back and you are 100% even because he knew the whole time that this %26quot;might%26quot; not work. If he can%26#039;t/won%26#039;t have intercourse than something is profoundly wrong and he has known that all along. You are totally making the right call. You deserve physical love in marriage. It is such a cool part of the package.
No you dont have to pay him anything! He did those things because he wanted to. If he wont sleep with you maybe its something else.. religious reasons.. or maybe like my husband who works way to hard and is way to stressed to even think about sex with me right now... have you ever had sex together?
Just be genuwine and tell him that you arent trying to hurt him. Good luck. Im sorry for you. My best friend found out her husband was gay a few years ago and it really messed her up. I hope it all works out for you.
Give back the ring. It%26#039;s no different than %26quot;normal%26quot; engagements where you give back the ring if the marriage doesn%26#039;t take place.
Look to be friends and let him go be whatever he is, and you should do the same.
why won%26#039;t he have sex? is he someone who doesn%26#039;t want premarital sex maybe? that wouldn%26#039;t make him gay...you say you love him but want to split because no sex---that%26#039;s not love~ give him the ring back and move on before you really hurt him~
You don%26#039;t owe him anything for travel expenses. At least give him the ring back. Some don%26#039;t and that is greedy and trashy.
You don%26#039;t owe him anything for travel expenses. Explain to him how you feel and give him the ring back.
Why end it if you love him
He chose to come out and see you so you don%26#039;t owe him any money. You do need to return the ring, it was given and accepted as a condition of future marriage and if the marriage isn%26#039;t going to happen the ring needs to be returned.
The best way to break it off is to just do it. like ripping off a band aid you have to just do it. Don%26#039;t be disrespectful or accuse him of anything, but be firm. I wouldn%26#039;t say anything to him about thinking he is gay. He may not be and you breaking up with him and making that accusation would be devastating to him. Just tell him that you have thought about it and you aren%26#039;t sure that he is the person that you want to spend the rest of your life with and you need time to think.
Be strong and you are making the right decision.
You mean you got engaged without ever discussing why he won%26#039;t have sex? Is it possible he wants to wait because of religious beliefs? He has spent a lot of time and money on you, I think you should at least let him explain if he hasn%26#039;t already.
When a spouse refuses to %26quot;consumate%26quot; the marriage it is grounds for annulment, so if he refuses to have sex before or after marriage I think you have a good reason to end it. It is not the most important part of a relationship, but still very important nonetheless.
All the best with your decision.
IF you really do love this person, why don%26#039;t you have a serious talk w/him? Tell him of your feelings on the %26quot;sex%26quot; issue %26amp; do get to the bottom of it once %26amp; for all. You stated he has some serious problems or he%26#039;s gay. IF he%26#039;s gay, I truly don%26#039;t believe he%26#039;d go as far as to get himself engaged to a female knowing full well this is not his sexual preference. It could be something physical. In fact, it could be something that if he%26#039;d see a competent Dr. he could just get help w/whatever it is. Is it really worth while to truly love someone as you state you do w/o first finding out the complete truth instead of throwing it all away?! If I truly loved someone, felt he had a problem, I certainly wouldn%26#039;t abandon him w/o first seeing what my true options are. IF you honestly DO love him, I would feel he is worth fighting for. You just seem a bit eager to let him go, then worry about %26quot;paying him back%26quot; for maybe misleading him? There has to be a different reason things are the way you state they are, but you%26#039;re just willing to let them go w/o finding a solution. If you don%26#039;t honestly care about him, are afraid to tell him, I feel you at least owe him the truth, don%26#039;t you? Give him the ring back %26amp; he can do what he wants w/it. He must have enjoyed his time w/you or he wouldn%26#039;t have gone as far w/you as he has. So, I%26#039;d figure he at least did enjoy the time spent w/you. I feel you should just be honest w/him. Honesty is the BEST policy...Best to you...:)
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Why is my ex mad @ no contact?
My ex and I were friends in high school many years before we dated our freshman year of college. We broke up, he moved hours away, I stayed in college where I live. I would talk to him as friends, which upset my husband (I married someone else, people do this often). I decided that for the sake of my marriage its time my ex and I do not keep our friendship and go our separate ways. I told him goodbye forever, pretty much. He got angry and started insulting me, my marriage, and anything else he could grasp word wise to insult me with. Why is he so upset? He said he doesn't want me, nor does he want anything to do with me. But he still talks to me and got angry.
Maybe he feels like your cutting him off because of your husband. Husbands come first and some people dont see it that way. He angry but his insults are unwarranted. If your marriage is better without him in it then dont talk to him. Friends say sh!! to eachother all the time but to insult your marriage is a no no.
Just avoid and ignore this guy.
Maybe he feels like your cutting him off because of your husband. Husbands come first and some people dont see it that way. He angry but his insults are unwarranted. If your marriage is better without him in it then dont talk to him. Friends say sh!! to eachother all the time but to insult your marriage is a no no.
Just avoid and ignore this guy.
What
Been divorced for awhile and I'm finally interested in this guy. I'm a little shy until I warm up.
Here's the scenario taking place at work!
I am pretty sure this guy at work and I are having a bit of sexual tension between us. In fact, I'm absolutely convinced of it.
There have been numerous times where we stare at each. Like if I come into the cafeteria and he's there, he'll lift his head up and stare into my eyes and it's like we're talking w/o speaking. We have done this countless time. We been in a hallway before and I'll be at one end of it and he'll be at the other and we lock eyes and stay locked until we come near and then I've said "hello and he replies, hello and how are you." Other times it's like he gets so close to me and w/o touching me I feel this intense chemistry/energy. I've noticed a few times that when I'm going one way and he's going the other - he'll like turn around and come back my way. Sometimes I feel like we both keep our heads down when we are near each other - other times not.
Once he looked up under his brow and gave me this sly smile as he held eye contact with me.
Another time he came into cafe and when I turned around his eyes were looking at my boots - he was checking my high heeled boots out.
Do you think this guy is interested in me? We work in seperate teams and never together. We both seem shy but it feels as though I have sexual chemistry with him. Would he keep looking for 1.5 years at me if he wasn't interested in me?
I sometimes freeze up around him and notice that he has gotten very red in the face when he's around me - not at all times but sometimes.
There is definitely some tension and chemistry there. However, before you visualize yourself bedding this hottie, actually engage him in a conversation. Talk about the weather or something. Make yourself a little more available to him and see what happens. You don't want to read too much into it because he may have a girlfriend or be married then you will be hurt. After three or four conversations, if he is truly interested and available he will make his move. You are just kinda making it a little easier for him. Ya dig? Much love.
I think maybe you should either invite him over for dinner or go out. Sounds like both of you are interested in each other. Maybe he thinks you aren't interested or somebody told him you are still married. If it were me I would give him a note so your not the talk of the office asking him about a date or dinner and see where it goes from there.
Hello! What's the problem here? We can cut the sexual tension with a knife! Next time you two are close talk to him and actually have a REAL conversation! Don't keep playing these games with him. You don't want some other woman to take him off the market. Make your move girl!
Are you sure that he is just shy too and not married or in a relationship?
If he isn't - seems like you should ask him out for coffee or something as something is definitely there.
Well you two don't seem that shy to me what with all that eye locking and all! Why don't you initiate a conversation after all of this time? He definitely seems interested.
I think he might be interested in you. But find out if he is married.
GO FOR IT,YOU ONLY LIVE 1 TIME! p.s. put those boots on again!
Here's the scenario taking place at work!
I am pretty sure this guy at work and I are having a bit of sexual tension between us. In fact, I'm absolutely convinced of it.
There have been numerous times where we stare at each. Like if I come into the cafeteria and he's there, he'll lift his head up and stare into my eyes and it's like we're talking w/o speaking. We have done this countless time. We been in a hallway before and I'll be at one end of it and he'll be at the other and we lock eyes and stay locked until we come near and then I've said "hello and he replies, hello and how are you." Other times it's like he gets so close to me and w/o touching me I feel this intense chemistry/energy. I've noticed a few times that when I'm going one way and he's going the other - he'll like turn around and come back my way. Sometimes I feel like we both keep our heads down when we are near each other - other times not.
Once he looked up under his brow and gave me this sly smile as he held eye contact with me.
Another time he came into cafe and when I turned around his eyes were looking at my boots - he was checking my high heeled boots out.
Do you think this guy is interested in me? We work in seperate teams and never together. We both seem shy but it feels as though I have sexual chemistry with him. Would he keep looking for 1.5 years at me if he wasn't interested in me?
I sometimes freeze up around him and notice that he has gotten very red in the face when he's around me - not at all times but sometimes.
There is definitely some tension and chemistry there. However, before you visualize yourself bedding this hottie, actually engage him in a conversation. Talk about the weather or something. Make yourself a little more available to him and see what happens. You don't want to read too much into it because he may have a girlfriend or be married then you will be hurt. After three or four conversations, if he is truly interested and available he will make his move. You are just kinda making it a little easier for him. Ya dig? Much love.
I think maybe you should either invite him over for dinner or go out. Sounds like both of you are interested in each other. Maybe he thinks you aren't interested or somebody told him you are still married. If it were me I would give him a note so your not the talk of the office asking him about a date or dinner and see where it goes from there.
Hello! What's the problem here? We can cut the sexual tension with a knife! Next time you two are close talk to him and actually have a REAL conversation! Don't keep playing these games with him. You don't want some other woman to take him off the market. Make your move girl!
Are you sure that he is just shy too and not married or in a relationship?
If he isn't - seems like you should ask him out for coffee or something as something is definitely there.
Well you two don't seem that shy to me what with all that eye locking and all! Why don't you initiate a conversation after all of this time? He definitely seems interested.
I think he might be interested in you. But find out if he is married.
GO FOR IT,YOU ONLY LIVE 1 TIME! p.s. put those boots on again!
Could i use my Maiden name after im divorced? with out court?
Wondering if i can use my maiden name after im divorced?
is it legal?.
if not. can i for letters? e mails? friends? Anything with out legal papers? & if its legal how do i go about it?
are any of you Woman going back to your maiden name?
If you want your maiden name "back" after the divorce, you'd have to bring it up at court to ask the judge for the "ok". There's usually no problem, where the judge will have no problem with granting you to have your maiden name back. I got my maiden name back after my 1st marriage. I had a few female relatives that was granted them to have their maiden name back with no problem. They had kids, but I didn't.
If you are not divorced yet, you can ask your attorney to include a clause which states your maiden name is to be restored.
Once you are divorced, you need to get a new driver's license, social security card and notify your creditors of the name change.
If you are already divorced, legally you can't use your maiden name unless you change it through the court system
When I got divorced I took my maiden name back as fast as I could. In the united states you can not legally use it without a legal name change. You can get the name change for free if it is filed with the divorce papers. They wouldn't let me use my maiden name until I actually had the court papers in hand. I couldn't change anything after court I had to wait for the papers.
Not legally but yes for emails, friends, etc. I can call myself anything I want as long as it's something not being recorded or used for legal documentation like health insurance, paychecks, etc. That all has to be under your legal name. I don't know how it varies State to State but where I live you have to petition to be given your maiden name back & your husband has to agree to that in the divorce. Once agreed that you can have your name back, you just legally change it again just like you did when you got married.
I took my maiden name back when I signed the divorce papers. It was free if you do it at the time you fill out the decree. Otherwise you have to go back through Court and pay fees to get your name back. Once you have the decree finalized you have to re-apply for everything to put your maiden back on everything. DL, SS etc.
I think you can - but it is different for every country/state.
My mother just made a statutory declaration in front of a Justice of the Peace (who sited original documents with her maiden name on it) declaring that she wanted to be known by her maiden name.
YOU CAN ON EVERYTHING BUT NOT YOUR SS CARD OR YOUR DL
is it legal?.
if not. can i for letters? e mails? friends? Anything with out legal papers? & if its legal how do i go about it?
are any of you Woman going back to your maiden name?
If you want your maiden name "back" after the divorce, you'd have to bring it up at court to ask the judge for the "ok". There's usually no problem, where the judge will have no problem with granting you to have your maiden name back. I got my maiden name back after my 1st marriage. I had a few female relatives that was granted them to have their maiden name back with no problem. They had kids, but I didn't.
If you are not divorced yet, you can ask your attorney to include a clause which states your maiden name is to be restored.
Once you are divorced, you need to get a new driver's license, social security card and notify your creditors of the name change.
If you are already divorced, legally you can't use your maiden name unless you change it through the court system
When I got divorced I took my maiden name back as fast as I could. In the united states you can not legally use it without a legal name change. You can get the name change for free if it is filed with the divorce papers. They wouldn't let me use my maiden name until I actually had the court papers in hand. I couldn't change anything after court I had to wait for the papers.
Not legally but yes for emails, friends, etc. I can call myself anything I want as long as it's something not being recorded or used for legal documentation like health insurance, paychecks, etc. That all has to be under your legal name. I don't know how it varies State to State but where I live you have to petition to be given your maiden name back & your husband has to agree to that in the divorce. Once agreed that you can have your name back, you just legally change it again just like you did when you got married.
I took my maiden name back when I signed the divorce papers. It was free if you do it at the time you fill out the decree. Otherwise you have to go back through Court and pay fees to get your name back. Once you have the decree finalized you have to re-apply for everything to put your maiden back on everything. DL, SS etc.
I think you can - but it is different for every country/state.
My mother just made a statutory declaration in front of a Justice of the Peace (who sited original documents with her maiden name on it) declaring that she wanted to be known by her maiden name.
YOU CAN ON EVERYTHING BUT NOT YOUR SS CARD OR YOUR DL
Thursday, March 26, 2009
Would you rather give up your spouse OR all of your retirement savings, pensions, assets, etc.?
Now that's a tough call. I'd have to work till death OR lose the wife and retire at 65 or so.
Of course, at 65 my wife will be an old bag -- so show me the money!
oh that is really sad. i would live in a box under a bridge if that was the only way i could be with my fella. if he told me tomorrow that he wants to live in a tent and train hop through canada, i would gladly go with him. because being home with my tv, computer and electricity sounds terrible without him. and being homeless sounds wonderful if i just get to be with him. i feel sorry for you. it is sad that you don't have love.
Neither. I would want the option for an alternative lifestyle.
If you have a wish to loose the wife, the assumption would be that you no longer love her. If she still loves you; then, the kindest thing that you could do would be honest with her. It would be emotionally hard on her at first; but, perhaps, once it all sinks in--that, you cannot make someone love you, the idea of an open marriage might be agreeable to the both of you (Think about it: If you do not love her, it would not bother you to see her with another man... You'd want for her to be happy; but, for financial reasons, you could tell her that you'd like to stay married). With all that you say that you have financially, and assuming that you make more money than she does, she might not want to give up the comfortable life style that you have built together.
For your wife to stay faithful to you until she is an "old bag" would be heartless on your part, especially when it is assumed you do not love her.
In essence, an alternative life style would allow you to, "lose the wife," and (Not "OR") keep the money.
Eddie you know my situation with my husband pretty well, but as the father of my children and the super hard worker he has been with his physical health not being so good, for it I would have to say no. I would give up everything I have or anything good that I might get to make the really important stuff in marriage to work better. I can't take it with me when I go anyway, I just want his heart.
I know it sounds hateful, but I really think I would give up my spouse. I love him, don't get me wrong....but, when I'm old and frail and have medical expenses, love isn't going to pay for them. Being old is expensive, trust me I know. I have worked as a home health aide and I saw first hand how much these people had to spend on equipment, supplies, prescriptions, etc.
Well, of course you know what I'm going to say, and you're right. If I was married to a nice guy, I would want to keep him, though.
I would lose the money and keep my man. You can make more money, you can't always find love like that again.
well seeing the the financial crisis took all of my savings, retirement.. i have no choice but to keep him.
I'll take hubby over any money or possessions any day!
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I'm keeping the hubs.
id say spouse. since i haven't had a good relationship, id give that up
Ha..I can't give up hubby.. he "IS" my retirement! Poor guy! He is so used and abused.
don't even have to think about this one...spouse for sure.
give it all and keep my husband
defint the money ,, i love my spouse and money couldn't buy me that
Of course, at 65 my wife will be an old bag -- so show me the money!
oh that is really sad. i would live in a box under a bridge if that was the only way i could be with my fella. if he told me tomorrow that he wants to live in a tent and train hop through canada, i would gladly go with him. because being home with my tv, computer and electricity sounds terrible without him. and being homeless sounds wonderful if i just get to be with him. i feel sorry for you. it is sad that you don't have love.
Neither. I would want the option for an alternative lifestyle.
If you have a wish to loose the wife, the assumption would be that you no longer love her. If she still loves you; then, the kindest thing that you could do would be honest with her. It would be emotionally hard on her at first; but, perhaps, once it all sinks in--that, you cannot make someone love you, the idea of an open marriage might be agreeable to the both of you (Think about it: If you do not love her, it would not bother you to see her with another man... You'd want for her to be happy; but, for financial reasons, you could tell her that you'd like to stay married). With all that you say that you have financially, and assuming that you make more money than she does, she might not want to give up the comfortable life style that you have built together.
For your wife to stay faithful to you until she is an "old bag" would be heartless on your part, especially when it is assumed you do not love her.
In essence, an alternative life style would allow you to, "lose the wife," and (Not "OR") keep the money.
Eddie you know my situation with my husband pretty well, but as the father of my children and the super hard worker he has been with his physical health not being so good, for it I would have to say no. I would give up everything I have or anything good that I might get to make the really important stuff in marriage to work better. I can't take it with me when I go anyway, I just want his heart.
I know it sounds hateful, but I really think I would give up my spouse. I love him, don't get me wrong....but, when I'm old and frail and have medical expenses, love isn't going to pay for them. Being old is expensive, trust me I know. I have worked as a home health aide and I saw first hand how much these people had to spend on equipment, supplies, prescriptions, etc.
Well, of course you know what I'm going to say, and you're right. If I was married to a nice guy, I would want to keep him, though.
I would lose the money and keep my man. You can make more money, you can't always find love like that again.
well seeing the the financial crisis took all of my savings, retirement.. i have no choice but to keep him.
I'll take hubby over any money or possessions any day!
$
I'm keeping the hubs.
id say spouse. since i haven't had a good relationship, id give that up
Ha..I can't give up hubby.. he "IS" my retirement! Poor guy! He is so used and abused.
don't even have to think about this one...spouse for sure.
give it all and keep my husband
defint the money ,, i love my spouse and money couldn't buy me that
What does this mean? when a girlfriend says this?
Were In 2 diffrent Worlds.
It could mean different things.. It could mean that you two are totally the opposite of each other, or it could mean that you think one way of something, and she thinks another. Or it could mean you are going one way and she's going the other.
Imminent Breakup
it means she is doing another guy or about to .....dump the girl...do you really need this???
It could mean different things.. It could mean that you two are totally the opposite of each other, or it could mean that you think one way of something, and she thinks another. Or it could mean you are going one way and she's going the other.
Imminent Breakup
it means she is doing another guy or about to .....dump the girl...do you really need this???
Sister and her abusive, controlling men!?
My older sister is 28 and acts alot younger. She cries and whines about her life because shes a meth addict but REFUSES to get a real job and a good boyfriend. She always ends up with abusive, controlling guys. When she finally ends up with a really good guy she leaves him for an ex convict who has no job, car, and is on drugs. She has four kids and wont even speak to any of them. Their all adopted out except one that she claims she misses and would do anything to get her back, but when she was allowed to visit her she never even shows up. Me and my sister use to be pretty close but after her insane acts im starting to really dislike her and not want to even be around her and i just cant feel sorry for her anymore because she does all of this to herself and does nothing but cry about it. She doesnt try to do any better when she really could! am i wrong for not helping her anymore? what could i do to try to help her?
sounds like a typical meth addict try talking her into going to REHAB or AA there is reaslly nothign you can do for a person who is on meth until they stop but then it takes over a year to get their minds straightneded out again
First off all you can do is pray for your sister. She has to be the one who wants to change and really admit that she has a problem. I know you want to help her, but she is adult and accountable for her own action. Just keep her in your prays and God will answer. You can also encourage her. Good luck.
help her children im sure there having a rough time. I know you think that this might sound wrong but rehab might be good 4 her
The only thing that you can do is for the children and tell her to get help getting clean
sounds like a typical meth addict try talking her into going to REHAB or AA there is reaslly nothign you can do for a person who is on meth until they stop but then it takes over a year to get their minds straightneded out again
First off all you can do is pray for your sister. She has to be the one who wants to change and really admit that she has a problem. I know you want to help her, but she is adult and accountable for her own action. Just keep her in your prays and God will answer. You can also encourage her. Good luck.
help her children im sure there having a rough time. I know you think that this might sound wrong but rehab might be good 4 her
The only thing that you can do is for the children and tell her to get help getting clean
How do i explain to my hubby that I injured myself while
So, I banged my knee pretty badly when climbing down from the chandelier this afternoon. How am I supposed to explain this to my husband when he gets home from work today?
Oh. I thought you were gonna say you had your gash bashed.
I would say you were dusting the "light fittings" and fell and busted your knee. Become a House cleaner, then you don't have to explain your "visiting" to your husband at all.
so..... didn't you just the question how to tell your friend's that you were in a mental hospital like 2 days ago....i'm betting this is a lie and never happened and you have too much time on your hands.....get a life
Tell him you were practicing a strip tease to surprise him with when he got home and you got over excited and fell over the back of the couch or some other piece of furniture.
Tell him you fell down the stairs. Thats what I told my wife when I got herpes.
Tell him you and I were gardening again. I just used this excuse yesterday. So please remember that if Byron mentions it, ok?
Tell him you were changing the light bulbs.
Another one with a good sense of humour
The best defense is a good offense. Accuse him of sleeping with your mother.
Tell him you got violated in Trang.
From your avatar it looks like a gay marraige,
Not that there's anything wrong with that.
But really, why should we care what you tell him?
Tell him it's ok cause it was with a woman instead...uh..I'll play the other woman.
i dont get it??
Yeah, yeah, yeah...go troll somewhere else!
Oh. I thought you were gonna say you had your gash bashed.
I would say you were dusting the "light fittings" and fell and busted your knee. Become a House cleaner, then you don't have to explain your "visiting" to your husband at all.
so..... didn't you just the question how to tell your friend's that you were in a mental hospital like 2 days ago....i'm betting this is a lie and never happened and you have too much time on your hands.....get a life
Tell him you were practicing a strip tease to surprise him with when he got home and you got over excited and fell over the back of the couch or some other piece of furniture.
Tell him you fell down the stairs. Thats what I told my wife when I got herpes.
Tell him you and I were gardening again. I just used this excuse yesterday. So please remember that if Byron mentions it, ok?
Tell him you were changing the light bulbs.
Another one with a good sense of humour
The best defense is a good offense. Accuse him of sleeping with your mother.
Tell him you got violated in Trang.
From your avatar it looks like a gay marraige,
Not that there's anything wrong with that.
But really, why should we care what you tell him?
Tell him it's ok cause it was with a woman instead...uh..I'll play the other woman.
i dont get it??
Yeah, yeah, yeah...go troll somewhere else!
Should I keep waiting for her?
After waiting a month after first agreeing to a date then giving a "my life is complicated" response I asked this girl if she cleared things up. She explained that this guy she was with wanted to take a break and that she doesn't want to get close to me only to hurt me if the other guy comes around; he was a friend so she doesn't want to hurt him either. I tried to get an upfront rejection from her but she stalled with "I don't know". She said all she can give me is a "not right now". Even when I asked her if I should move on she said "maybe, but i don't really know".
I dropped it and told her we should "just be friends" but in a manner that suggested we should part ways. But she still catches up with me after class everyday to talk with me on our way to our dorms. Also we got together outside of class to study together too (she even woke up really early to meet when I couldn't stay up the previous night). I decided to test the waters again today and asked if she wanted to just hang out over spring break and she agreed...
I'm really lost as to what she thinks of me.should I hang on and keep pursuing (3rd times the charm?) or drop it and forget her (which might be hard with her still trying to talk to me).
hmm... this is hard because you really can't tell what she wants. From what you wrote though it looks like she's just leading you on. She's obviously still hooked on her ex, so if i were you i'd move on to a girl who's into you as much as your into her. Because this girl seems like she's just using you for her convenience. Maybe if you tell her how you feel and that you need to move on, she won't keep trying to talk to you. idk. this is a tough situation!
hope this helps! :)
"just be friends", lol, seriously, just be her friends and be there for her.... cause everyone needs friends and who know maybe someday it will become more than that!
I couldn't even get through the first sentence you wrote before I gave up on the way way way over thought novel you just wrote.
STOP WAITING!
Find someone who likes you for you.
Just try it, what do you have to loose at this point besides your sanity?
I dropped it and told her we should "just be friends" but in a manner that suggested we should part ways. But she still catches up with me after class everyday to talk with me on our way to our dorms. Also we got together outside of class to study together too (she even woke up really early to meet when I couldn't stay up the previous night). I decided to test the waters again today and asked if she wanted to just hang out over spring break and she agreed...
I'm really lost as to what she thinks of me.should I hang on and keep pursuing (3rd times the charm?) or drop it and forget her (which might be hard with her still trying to talk to me).
hmm... this is hard because you really can't tell what she wants. From what you wrote though it looks like she's just leading you on. She's obviously still hooked on her ex, so if i were you i'd move on to a girl who's into you as much as your into her. Because this girl seems like she's just using you for her convenience. Maybe if you tell her how you feel and that you need to move on, she won't keep trying to talk to you. idk. this is a tough situation!
hope this helps! :)
"just be friends", lol, seriously, just be her friends and be there for her.... cause everyone needs friends and who know maybe someday it will become more than that!
I couldn't even get through the first sentence you wrote before I gave up on the way way way over thought novel you just wrote.
STOP WAITING!
Find someone who likes you for you.
Just try it, what do you have to loose at this point besides your sanity?
A weird situation.. Opinions please?
Well, today my friend seemed a little stressed out and not her usual self, so I confronted her about what was wrong. She said that it was about her parents and they were getting really mad at her older brother (who is 16) because they think he is racist towards white people (the whole family is white though) and she explained that her brother only seemed to have black friends, and they would constantly only see him with black people. I was sort of confused and had no clue what to say to comfort her :S what do you all think of this really weird situation? Oh, she also said that her parents don't even know her brothers friends because hes' too embarrassed to introduce them to his parents.
This does sound odd . . . Maybe the African-American friends of his are in the "cool crowd" and he wants to be there too.
I would assume that the parents are probably slightly racist against black people and that's given there son the opposite affect.
So he's been hanging around with black people as its the typical rebellion teen thing to do.
This would also explain why the son doesnt want to show his parents his black friends.
sounds like that her parents are the ones who are racists not her brother. I would just say to her "look I'm sorry for whats going on with your brother. maybe your parents should be more open minded and get to know his friends before they judge" that's a tough situation and I feel sorry for her brother. she just really wanted you to listen. i don't think she expected an answer from you. just be her friend. if she needs to talk let her talk. it probably helps her best to just vent.
I think you should say " Maybe he's just going through a phase. It might be a little weird but he's just being himself." Good luck and best of wishes.
This does sound odd . . . Maybe the African-American friends of his are in the "cool crowd" and he wants to be there too.
I would assume that the parents are probably slightly racist against black people and that's given there son the opposite affect.
So he's been hanging around with black people as its the typical rebellion teen thing to do.
This would also explain why the son doesnt want to show his parents his black friends.
sounds like that her parents are the ones who are racists not her brother. I would just say to her "look I'm sorry for whats going on with your brother. maybe your parents should be more open minded and get to know his friends before they judge" that's a tough situation and I feel sorry for her brother. she just really wanted you to listen. i don't think she expected an answer from you. just be her friend. if she needs to talk let her talk. it probably helps her best to just vent.
I think you should say " Maybe he's just going through a phase. It might be a little weird but he's just being himself." Good luck and best of wishes.
Guys: Virginity or experience?
Sorry I am a girl, but I wanted to share my opinion.
Girls do not have sex before they think they might have unhappy relationships in their marriage (which I cannot understand) in my country. People should do what feels right.
No guy should punish their gf or wives for feeling close to someone before themselves and opening themselves to that person,
Instead, guys should be happy that the girl -after being with the other person- decided that she was happy with them. She has chosen you, enjoy it without questioning her experience and virginity.
Virginity. Why wouldn't a guy want better proof that his wife is a decent person? Also, I don't like other guy's seconds.
experience
It doesn't matter to me too much, as long as the girl who isn't a virgin isn't a slut.
definetely Experience
Virgin.. I really like the thought of being the teacher.
Does practice on yourself count ???
? i am a girl
Girls do not have sex before they think they might have unhappy relationships in their marriage (which I cannot understand) in my country. People should do what feels right.
No guy should punish their gf or wives for feeling close to someone before themselves and opening themselves to that person,
Instead, guys should be happy that the girl -after being with the other person- decided that she was happy with them. She has chosen you, enjoy it without questioning her experience and virginity.
Virginity. Why wouldn't a guy want better proof that his wife is a decent person? Also, I don't like other guy's seconds.
experience
It doesn't matter to me too much, as long as the girl who isn't a virgin isn't a slut.
definetely Experience
Virgin.. I really like the thought of being the teacher.
Does practice on yourself count ???
? i am a girl
WHAT DO I DO?!?!?!?!?!?!?
arrrgghhh!
Okay well on the last day of school before spring break me and this guy hooked up and now he's my bf (we're in grade 8) and earlier today I was texting my friend from preschool and she told me that she likes him! She said that if me and him weren't going out she would've asked him out!
What should I do? Should I tell my bf about this?
What do I do if he dumps me for her? Then I would loose a bf and a bff.
Your friend should respect your feelings about him and move on. Don't tell your boyfriend about it because that'll just put thoughts in his head. Good Luck Hun!
ur friend is dum for saying that...so dont tell ur boyfriendd...just keep it to urself because if he finds out then he might start having feelings for her because guys at that age are just like that...but if it really bothers u then u shud talk to ur boyfriend abt it to see wat he does ....and if he dumps u for her then hes a jerk and ur bff was never ur bff to begin with so dont feel bad....a bff shud not be after a guy ur with...hes ur bf and she shud understand that...but i guess she doesnt and u dont need a bf or a bff like that...
Don't tell your bf, that could confuse everybody's
emotions. Just talk to your friend.
tell her how you feel.
if shes really your friend she won't
stab you in the back
Carry on regardless!
At the end of the day you are worrying about things that might be and not what actually is. Just get on with your life.
no you tell your friend he is your guy,,and not to ask him out- she should respect that
punch your bf in the face
Okay well on the last day of school before spring break me and this guy hooked up and now he's my bf (we're in grade 8) and earlier today I was texting my friend from preschool and she told me that she likes him! She said that if me and him weren't going out she would've asked him out!
What should I do? Should I tell my bf about this?
What do I do if he dumps me for her? Then I would loose a bf and a bff.
Your friend should respect your feelings about him and move on. Don't tell your boyfriend about it because that'll just put thoughts in his head. Good Luck Hun!
ur friend is dum for saying that...so dont tell ur boyfriendd...just keep it to urself because if he finds out then he might start having feelings for her because guys at that age are just like that...but if it really bothers u then u shud talk to ur boyfriend abt it to see wat he does ....and if he dumps u for her then hes a jerk and ur bff was never ur bff to begin with so dont feel bad....a bff shud not be after a guy ur with...hes ur bf and she shud understand that...but i guess she doesnt and u dont need a bf or a bff like that...
Don't tell your bf, that could confuse everybody's
emotions. Just talk to your friend.
tell her how you feel.
if shes really your friend she won't
stab you in the back
Carry on regardless!
At the end of the day you are worrying about things that might be and not what actually is. Just get on with your life.
no you tell your friend he is your guy,,and not to ask him out- she should respect that
punch your bf in the face
How to approach a guy who doesn
So I have a crush on a guy, but I don't know him (not even his name). I see him at school occasionally in the hallway, but he passes by without even looking at me, never smiles or shows any sign of interest. I also see him at the gym-every day-and spend most of my time looking at him, and he of course not even noticing I exist. A friend of mine doesn't know him either but she told me most people think he's an idiot. From the looks of it, he doesn't seem very friendly either. But I want to get to know him. How do I get to know him without making a fool out of myself? I've never had a bf before, if that helps. So I'm very inexperienced, but I REALLY like this guy. But approaching him doesn't seem like a good idea, nor do I know how to. Help?
Talk to him, its the only way you'll get to know him.
Or, you can get a friend to talk to him, but it'd be better if you did it yourself.
(You wouldn't have to worry about your friend falling for him, and him falling for her)
Walk up to him say hi. Smile and make eye contact.
Compliment him on something.
Flirt.
Talk to him, its the only way you'll get to know him.
Or, you can get a friend to talk to him, but it'd be better if you did it yourself.
(You wouldn't have to worry about your friend falling for him, and him falling for her)
Walk up to him say hi. Smile and make eye contact.
Compliment him on something.
Flirt.
How can I make my crush on my best friend a bit less obvious?
I didn't tell anyone I liked him, but I guess it's sorta of obvious. I don't wanna stop talking to him so no, that's not an option. Everyone (and our Algebra teacher) keeps asking me and him things like "Do you two go out", "You two would make a nice couple", and "Why don't you just go to the movies together. Then sit in the back and smooch". It feels so weird!
Maybe the teachers comments were a good thing. Perhaps your crush *should* know. Then, you two can ease your way into the relationship you dream about.
But if it is that-much of a problem, then maybe you should cut-back on the talking.
Good luck!
Maybe the teachers comments were a good thing. Perhaps your crush *should* know. Then, you two can ease your way into the relationship you dream about.
But if it is that-much of a problem, then maybe you should cut-back on the talking.
Good luck!
Does this girl like me?
Does this girl like me?
Recently She started saying Hi to me less but in gym I see her looking at me alot, .and recently when she says hi she makes her best friend say it to, also if she sees me talking with someone she will wait until I'm done and she will say she would of said hi earlier but didn't want to interrupt me,& when I walk bye her class she will call me and wave.
*I was at my bu stop one day and when she saw me she yelled my name so then I went to go talk 2 her , she then asked me if I get annoyed that she says Hi everytime she sees me and I said no its np. And when I got on the bus her & her best friend saved me a seat.
One day I passed by her two different times and both times 2 different guys had there arms around her. Then friday i was getting on the bus with my cuzin and i turned behind me and there she was with one of my friends but I kept seeing her looking at me by the reflection of the window. Then on the bus she was talking to my friend the whole bus ride but she would keep looking at me??
im thinking she doesn't since she hangs out with alot of guys.Plus recently I see this guy talking to her alot on her facebook so im thinking somethings gonna happen between them.
anywayz 2day I was walking 2 the bus stop with my cuzin when I heard my name being called and when I turned around she was in the car with her sis and her sis bf, her best friend, her friend's bf and that guy whos been talking 2 her alot on facebook and hanging out with. She yelled my name and told me to have a good march break. So Does Or Did She like me?
I hear wedding bells...
Recently She started saying Hi to me less but in gym I see her looking at me alot, .and recently when she says hi she makes her best friend say it to, also if she sees me talking with someone she will wait until I'm done and she will say she would of said hi earlier but didn't want to interrupt me,& when I walk bye her class she will call me and wave.
*I was at my bu stop one day and when she saw me she yelled my name so then I went to go talk 2 her , she then asked me if I get annoyed that she says Hi everytime she sees me and I said no its np. And when I got on the bus her & her best friend saved me a seat.
One day I passed by her two different times and both times 2 different guys had there arms around her. Then friday i was getting on the bus with my cuzin and i turned behind me and there she was with one of my friends but I kept seeing her looking at me by the reflection of the window. Then on the bus she was talking to my friend the whole bus ride but she would keep looking at me??
im thinking she doesn't since she hangs out with alot of guys.Plus recently I see this guy talking to her alot on her facebook so im thinking somethings gonna happen between them.
anywayz 2day I was walking 2 the bus stop with my cuzin when I heard my name being called and when I turned around she was in the car with her sis and her sis bf, her best friend, her friend's bf and that guy whos been talking 2 her alot on facebook and hanging out with. She yelled my name and told me to have a good march break. So Does Or Did She like me?
I hear wedding bells...
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