Me - my lunch.
No not today.
Nope, whats the point of this question?
I'm not sure.
Wednesday, April 8, 2009
What
People these days are so worried about living their lives in the modern times..but why? People got along just fine in the olden days. Actually people got along way better then we do now. Relationships were stronger due to a more sound moral structure. Also men/women were more inclined to be a support system for their mate. Family's did things together more often, resulting in a better upbringing for children. Even in the work environment...do you notice how people dress for interviews or even on the job. Jeans, holy shirts, short dresses. What ever happen to a nice pair of slacks and an appropriate shirt for a "LADY" even a modest skirt. Men dress pants and a button down? I'd prefer to live back then. Mind you I'm 20 and feel this way... anyone else?
Nothing is wrong with the old fashion way. A lot of folks don't pass on down the values or views of good up bringing. We spend so much time on things that means so little the the little things that means a lot are foreign to most family nowadays. Sorry to say but it going to get worst if folks don't teach their kids the good old fashion way.
yeah. i agree.
and the tv shows for kids today? what happened to sesame street from when i was a kid, none of the wierd sexual innuendos like on hannah montana.
and why is wrong to be married at age 20?
Yes...i feel the same way. I actually posted just a few minutes ago about relationships and how people aren't honest anymore...etc.
those days are gone
its time to start something new
we cant relive the past
Its easy to look on the past as being better then the present. We are not there!
My boyfriend and I have this argument all the time. I have to remind him that if things went back to those ways we also wouldn't have all the good things that we do now. Sure there wasn't divorce...this also meant that if a man beat his wife she would stay anyway....sure famlies were more stable but that is because women didn't work. I agree that people look like garbage at work however in order to have the great personal freedom we have today it means that some will do things that others don't like.
Before the sexual revolution women were in a crappy spot. Imagine what it must have been like to have to rely solely on the males in your life. Maybe you have a great dad but what about women who don't. Imagine if after graduating high school your only options were to get married and have babies (yes birth control was illeagle) or have a lower paying job then a man (double wage standards)...hey until fairly recently in many states it was legal for a man to rape his wife...
I'm not a feminist, I just appriciate the face that I'm a 25 year old female who owns a small business (not likely back then!) and lives alone (scandalous!) I do wish that people dressed better though!
PS there are not a lot of Ladies anymore, gentelman either! sad
Nothing is wrong with the old fashion way. A lot of folks don't pass on down the values or views of good up bringing. We spend so much time on things that means so little the the little things that means a lot are foreign to most family nowadays. Sorry to say but it going to get worst if folks don't teach their kids the good old fashion way.
yeah. i agree.
and the tv shows for kids today? what happened to sesame street from when i was a kid, none of the wierd sexual innuendos like on hannah montana.
and why is wrong to be married at age 20?
Yes...i feel the same way. I actually posted just a few minutes ago about relationships and how people aren't honest anymore...etc.
those days are gone
its time to start something new
we cant relive the past
Its easy to look on the past as being better then the present. We are not there!
My boyfriend and I have this argument all the time. I have to remind him that if things went back to those ways we also wouldn't have all the good things that we do now. Sure there wasn't divorce...this also meant that if a man beat his wife she would stay anyway....sure famlies were more stable but that is because women didn't work. I agree that people look like garbage at work however in order to have the great personal freedom we have today it means that some will do things that others don't like.
Before the sexual revolution women were in a crappy spot. Imagine what it must have been like to have to rely solely on the males in your life. Maybe you have a great dad but what about women who don't. Imagine if after graduating high school your only options were to get married and have babies (yes birth control was illeagle) or have a lower paying job then a man (double wage standards)...hey until fairly recently in many states it was legal for a man to rape his wife...
I'm not a feminist, I just appriciate the face that I'm a 25 year old female who owns a small business (not likely back then!) and lives alone (scandalous!) I do wish that people dressed better though!
PS there are not a lot of Ladies anymore, gentelman either! sad
Girl taking problems major crisis?
There is a very ugghhh girl that i hate and she hates me and i LOVES my boyfriend and her and my boyfriend are friends. I hate her she is really Ugly and stupid! help! P.S - she is spreading rumors about me!
tell your boyfriend about it and tell him you don't feel comfortable that he is talking to her since she hates you and shes starting rumors. dont let them get to you. she is ovb. jealous of you and your boyfriend
i know how the bf feels. most of my friends and bf hate eachother. but i have an odd taste in people soo. i'd probably just let them fight or whatever. talk to your bf though. he's probably more helpful than i am
wow u sound so immature
i bet shes not even saying anything about you
if she is just kick her ***
but if shes just there and you hate her for like no reason then u just need to suck it up and talk to her and become friends
tell your boyfriend about it and tell him you don't feel comfortable that he is talking to her since she hates you and shes starting rumors. dont let them get to you. she is ovb. jealous of you and your boyfriend
i know how the bf feels. most of my friends and bf hate eachother. but i have an odd taste in people soo. i'd probably just let them fight or whatever. talk to your bf though. he's probably more helpful than i am
wow u sound so immature
i bet shes not even saying anything about you
if she is just kick her ***
but if shes just there and you hate her for like no reason then u just need to suck it up and talk to her and become friends
Are there any words of wisdom you like to pass along to me?
Keep your family first in everything you ever do.
Never let anyone tell you that you can't do or accomplish something.
Don't worry about life much, just go with the flow and try to make the best of every day.
think before you talk, always put Jesus first in every you do, no matter what you are doing always do your best
Never let anyone tell you that you can't do or accomplish something.
Don't worry about life much, just go with the flow and try to make the best of every day.
think before you talk, always put Jesus first in every you do, no matter what you are doing always do your best
Okay i never kissed a guy and im 15 lol A little help?
nothing to embarrassing but i have never kissed a guy. lol my boy friend said the only reason is because im not easy (lol he should know it took him 2 yrs to get me) so i need help what do i do!?! ugh im so embarrassed but i need help. I really want to kiss him but i don't want to be a bad kisser soooo help? does it come naturally?
Well if u want to blow his socks off.
Ask him what he likes when kissing.
When you know what he likes then you will drive him crazy.
Don't worry , kissing is a lot easier then you think it is.
have you ever kissed anyone on the cheek? it's the same thing, you only change the part of the face. remember how you kiss on the cheek? like not banging your head against their face, not slobering, not making your lips rock hard, just making it nice and soft? it's exactly the same thing when kising on the lips.
don't be nervous. it's the easiest thing. when he'll kiss you you'll know how to respond.
what's he waiting for anyway?
Don't rush waiting a while and being sure is much more worth the wait.
it comes naturally, follow his lead and dont be nervous!
Well if u want to blow his socks off.
Ask him what he likes when kissing.
When you know what he likes then you will drive him crazy.
Don't worry , kissing is a lot easier then you think it is.
have you ever kissed anyone on the cheek? it's the same thing, you only change the part of the face. remember how you kiss on the cheek? like not banging your head against their face, not slobering, not making your lips rock hard, just making it nice and soft? it's exactly the same thing when kising on the lips.
don't be nervous. it's the easiest thing. when he'll kiss you you'll know how to respond.
what's he waiting for anyway?
Don't rush waiting a while and being sure is much more worth the wait.
it comes naturally, follow his lead and dont be nervous!
How has your life been different than what you imagined?
I thought I was going to do really well in college and be a doctor. I thought I was going to find a really cool guy and have a wonderful relationship. I thought I would lose a bunch of weight and become more attractive so that I could kind of say "shove it" to the people who were mean to me in school. I thought I was going to make lots of money and live in a several million dollar house. I used to drive around and look at them, lusting after them and knowing that I was smart enough to acquire one for myself. Then Christianity started slipping in. I started feeling guilty for eating as much as I do. When I pass a big house, I now feel ashamed and I feel guilty about the people who have nothing. Everything I once had pleasure in is now tainted by a reality that keeps creeping up on me and screaming, "People are starving! People are in pain! Do something! You're going to hell!" I can't shake these thoughts, but I still haven't changed enough. So it's like I'm still living selfishly, only now it's tainted with fear all day. I hope I'll get the guts or whatever to just leave this materialistic stuff behind and throw myself into serving people. If I don't do that, I'm very afraid of the consequences. I'm even wondering if I've waited so long and done so many bad things that it's too late for me. I don't know. Nothing feels the same, and I find myself envying people who still live in the comfortable ignorance I once had.
at my age i thought i would be married with children. i am very disappointed about this but the only thing i can do is move on in life and enjoy myself until it happens. and if it doesn't i just still have to enjoy life. i only have one!
at my age i thought i would be married with children. i am very disappointed about this but the only thing i can do is move on in life and enjoy myself until it happens. and if it doesn't i just still have to enjoy life. i only have one!
Question for those 21 about a clingy MIL?
I would prefer if the answers came from adults only please. Basically my boyfriend and I have been together for 2.5 years now, I'm 27 and we're expecting our first child together. Most of the 2.5 years have been living apart, just neighboring states 2.5 hrs away while he finishes getting his degree. He has his own apartment and his parents live about 45 minutes away from him. He goes home every weekend and comes to stay with me 1 weekend a month and whenever he has breaks from school. I have stayed with him as well. He is an only child, never brought a girl or woman home until me and though I love his parents and I know they like me as well his mother seems SOO clingy it can be quite annoying sometimes. Some examples of the most extreme cases were one period I stayed with him for about 2 weeks after having not seen him for around 2 months. She called him every single day without fail for the most ridiculous reasons like to tell him about something on tv, something her dog did or whatever. A few weeks ago he had spring break and although he and I had plans to go out of town together they invited us to go on a trip with them. We both agreed it would be a good idea to go, and we would spend the first half of the break with them and then he would come home with me to finish it off. Well without warning or asking us last minute they changed the date of the trip so that we'd have less time at the end of spring break. Once we got back from the trip we basically said our goodbyes and loaded up the car to head to my place. His mother called him twice within 10 minutes to ask him to come back and for us to stay there longer. He kept telling her we were on the expressway. The second call was to ask him if he could come back early, I mean seriously he goes home every weekend and I see him a weekend a month. We had about 3 days left of his spring break. Is it just me or is that too much? I don't want to seem unreasonable but it would be nice to have my boyfriend to myself for the short periods of time I have him for. I don't think it's asking too much. I know all MIL aren't like that, so I don't want to hear "wait till your kid grows up and meets someone". I WILL NOT be clingy, my mother wasn't like that, neither were any of my ex boyfriends' mothers. So tell me straight if I am overreacting, and if I'm not do you think it will ever go away or get better? With a baby coming later this year I fear things will be even worse, her first grandchild and all *shivers*. Keep in mind I have given you a very short version of some of the things she has done, there are many more stories.
she is clingy. you should observe how she is with her husband. And she probably has some past issues like everyone else. Maybe bring it up to your bf when your not irritated about it and maybe he kinna thinks the same. But when shes at her worst remember its wayy better than a MIL who is a BIOTCH!!!
Either she's a nut or your bf is a momma's boy. You better resolve it now or it'll get worse, trust me, been there.
she is clingy. you should observe how she is with her husband. And she probably has some past issues like everyone else. Maybe bring it up to your bf when your not irritated about it and maybe he kinna thinks the same. But when shes at her worst remember its wayy better than a MIL who is a BIOTCH!!!
Either she's a nut or your bf is a momma's boy. You better resolve it now or it'll get worse, trust me, been there.
HOW TO:PLEASE HELP !!!!!!!!!!!!!!?
okay.. i know this is a twisted twisted question but..
how do i NOT try to help my relationship with my boy toy?
okay i been trying to make this thing work-our whole relationship and he barely tries..
so i told him i wouldnt try anymore....so how do i NOT TRY?
ha, k thanks
If you want to end things, end them. If you don't, then don't play games. Talk to him about it. If you react like this when you're hurt, it probably won't help the situation. Just try to be honest and if he's not decent about it, consider whether or not you want to be in this relationship.
um good question most men these days hate to be put down as the one who is the screw up in the relationship so when u told him that the relationship is messing up and that the relationship needs to improve he probably dont want part of it. dont blaim him tho its not his fault!!! its just that men cant stand the words "we need improvement in relationship" they feel that the way they treat u or the things they say wasent good enough!!! xoxo
Ignore him. If he wants something, let him go get it himself. Fight all urges to take care of him in any way.
how do i NOT try to help my relationship with my boy toy?
okay i been trying to make this thing work-our whole relationship and he barely tries..
so i told him i wouldnt try anymore....so how do i NOT TRY?
ha, k thanks
If you want to end things, end them. If you don't, then don't play games. Talk to him about it. If you react like this when you're hurt, it probably won't help the situation. Just try to be honest and if he's not decent about it, consider whether or not you want to be in this relationship.
um good question most men these days hate to be put down as the one who is the screw up in the relationship so when u told him that the relationship is messing up and that the relationship needs to improve he probably dont want part of it. dont blaim him tho its not his fault!!! its just that men cant stand the words "we need improvement in relationship" they feel that the way they treat u or the things they say wasent good enough!!! xoxo
Ignore him. If he wants something, let him go get it himself. Fight all urges to take care of him in any way.
She wants some space? Drinking and Drug Abuse?
Hey. Me and my exgirlfriend have already broken up twice. We just had our second breakup. We broke up because I was neglecting her. Now, I realize I really want her back but she is hesitant. She says I have a drug and alcohol problem, and I said I'll fix it but I've made her feel so lonely in the past she doesnt want to jump right back into things. We agreed we need time apart to work on ourselves and then we could "see" each other again. I don't know if she meant "see" like be with, or "see" like just hang out again.
I want to be with her, but I agree I do need to sort out things in my life (graduation, jobs, substance abuse, etc). She said just give her time, and I said OK because it is naturally going to take some time for me to change. I've already decided to stop using substances, not just for her, but for myself. I told her I'd contact her when I thought I was different. She said if I contact her too soon she won't pick up.
What does this mean? Is our relationship over forever? Whens the best time I can call her again?
This is a really big reality check for you, buddy, and you need to recognize it. Not only are you going to lose this relationship if you don't smarten up, but you're going to lose a lot of other things in your life if you don't clean yourself up and do it fast.
Of course she is hesitant to take you back. If you are doing drugs and drinking, you ARE neglecting her, and she deserves better. By doing drugs and drinking all the time, you are showing her that you care more about this, than you do her. And she deserves better than that. She probably still cares about you, enough where she wants to give you some space so that you will come clean. She wants to give you enough time so that when and if you do get back together, she won't have a huge sense of deja vu, and the whole situation will relapse.
She wants you to come clean for good. You need to do whatever you want to do to come completely clean, and keep clean. Give this girl the space that she wants; and a good amount of space. Wait several months of being clean, and then start off slow again becuase you need to rebuild your relationship with her. It's almost like starting from scratch.
You need to prove to her that she is worth coming clean for, and you want to do it for yourself as well. Prove to her that the relationship means something to you.
Yeah I've been in the same situation as her.
Just take it slow and see how it'll work out.
You should really try to work on your drinking and drugs.
That could always help her think more about how you are trying
to make things better for yourself but also for you two.
Move on.You need help getting rid of your addisction.from one addict to the other you must find the cause of you addiction before you can kick it
WHY???? Do people want to live with such drama and disfunction? I just dont get it.
kick the habit quick or she's gone for good
I want to be with her, but I agree I do need to sort out things in my life (graduation, jobs, substance abuse, etc). She said just give her time, and I said OK because it is naturally going to take some time for me to change. I've already decided to stop using substances, not just for her, but for myself. I told her I'd contact her when I thought I was different. She said if I contact her too soon she won't pick up.
What does this mean? Is our relationship over forever? Whens the best time I can call her again?
This is a really big reality check for you, buddy, and you need to recognize it. Not only are you going to lose this relationship if you don't smarten up, but you're going to lose a lot of other things in your life if you don't clean yourself up and do it fast.
Of course she is hesitant to take you back. If you are doing drugs and drinking, you ARE neglecting her, and she deserves better. By doing drugs and drinking all the time, you are showing her that you care more about this, than you do her. And she deserves better than that. She probably still cares about you, enough where she wants to give you some space so that you will come clean. She wants to give you enough time so that when and if you do get back together, she won't have a huge sense of deja vu, and the whole situation will relapse.
She wants you to come clean for good. You need to do whatever you want to do to come completely clean, and keep clean. Give this girl the space that she wants; and a good amount of space. Wait several months of being clean, and then start off slow again becuase you need to rebuild your relationship with her. It's almost like starting from scratch.
You need to prove to her that she is worth coming clean for, and you want to do it for yourself as well. Prove to her that the relationship means something to you.
Yeah I've been in the same situation as her.
Just take it slow and see how it'll work out.
You should really try to work on your drinking and drugs.
That could always help her think more about how you are trying
to make things better for yourself but also for you two.
Move on.You need help getting rid of your addisction.from one addict to the other you must find the cause of you addiction before you can kick it
WHY???? Do people want to live with such drama and disfunction? I just dont get it.
kick the habit quick or she's gone for good
What and where can we go and hang out? my guy friend and i. . .?
That's pretty vague. What are you looking for?
Sneak into a hotel or really nice apartment complex and sit in the hottub. That's always fun.
Miniature golf?
Drive-in
Cook a meal together
Get a video camera, make chin people, and lip-sync bonnie tyler songs
At McD.
Sneak into a hotel or really nice apartment complex and sit in the hottub. That's always fun.
Miniature golf?
Drive-in
Cook a meal together
Get a video camera, make chin people, and lip-sync bonnie tyler songs
At McD.
How many couples do you know that are miserable, but stay together anyway?
With the usual lame excuses, %26quot;I can%26#039;t leave my kids%26quot; {What are you teaching your children by doing this?} Or for financial reasons, fear of being alone...etc. etc.. Just curious as to how many of you know couples like this.
I know many, many people like this.
My parents. They%26#039;re just dependent on each other and I don%26#039;t think it%26#039;s healthy. Not to mention all the crap I went though growing up because my mom wanted kids and my dad didn%26#039;t.
So in short, couples should think of the children!
80% are miserable, that is why you find that the father/mother is cheating is because of that %26#039;%26#039;Lack of happiness%26#039;%26#039;.
about 5 or 6
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I know many, many people like this.
My parents. They%26#039;re just dependent on each other and I don%26#039;t think it%26#039;s healthy. Not to mention all the crap I went though growing up because my mom wanted kids and my dad didn%26#039;t.
So in short, couples should think of the children!
80% are miserable, that is why you find that the father/mother is cheating is because of that %26#039;%26#039;Lack of happiness%26#039;%26#039;.
about 5 or 6
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Why is it all about sex???
I recently got dumped by my ex gf after it turned out she was a slapper. She gave me a handjob and then dumped me 3 days later. I was later talkin to a mate of mine who used to go out with her a few times and it turns out shes done it a million times before. The last 3 girls before her who I liked turned out to be pretty much the same.
Why are relationships all about sex?
I never want another relationship now. I got better things to do in my life.
Why is it all about sex? I feel like ive been used.
Omg,
This is so strange reading this from a boy's side of the story!
Usually it's the other way around :|
But tbh babe, not all relationships are about sex, i think you may just be hanging out with the wrong girls.
Maybe you should change your taste or get to know girl a bit better before getting into a relationship with them.
it depends on who you are with. some people make it that way, but you have to just sort of wait around until you find a relationship with someone who wants you for more than sex. i have been with lots of guys who just wanted that, and i was hurt again and again, but i have been in my current relationship for a year and it about more than sex. Girls are slutty, and most of the time its because they think that is what guys want, try to show them that you want more. they will either take it and you will end up in a great relationship or they will leave you and in that case they are simply not worth it.
Not all relationships are just about that. But there are a lot of people who think it is and that is all they want. You just have to take your time in dating and in a relationship. Know that when your are dating someone, you do not have to have sex with then right away. Wait a while and see how the relationship goes before doing anything like that. Sex should be special and not just something you because you like it or just bored.
Wow I agree I want to give you a hug as well. Its usually vise versa. Don't worry that girl will soon regret what she did to you and what goes around comes around. One day she is really going to care for someone but then he is going to end up breaking her heart. Just forget about it, its really not worth it. You'll soon meet a great girl who loves and respects you. You sound like a great guy though!
Best of luck & be strong!
dude i wanna give u a hug!
its mostly men who only want sex im glad to see that u dont.......sorry i cant help you with your problem you see im da girl most guys wanna F**K then dont care about after. but im just so happy to know there not all the same!
Why are relationships all about sex?
I never want another relationship now. I got better things to do in my life.
Why is it all about sex? I feel like ive been used.
Omg,
This is so strange reading this from a boy's side of the story!
Usually it's the other way around :|
But tbh babe, not all relationships are about sex, i think you may just be hanging out with the wrong girls.
Maybe you should change your taste or get to know girl a bit better before getting into a relationship with them.
it depends on who you are with. some people make it that way, but you have to just sort of wait around until you find a relationship with someone who wants you for more than sex. i have been with lots of guys who just wanted that, and i was hurt again and again, but i have been in my current relationship for a year and it about more than sex. Girls are slutty, and most of the time its because they think that is what guys want, try to show them that you want more. they will either take it and you will end up in a great relationship or they will leave you and in that case they are simply not worth it.
Not all relationships are just about that. But there are a lot of people who think it is and that is all they want. You just have to take your time in dating and in a relationship. Know that when your are dating someone, you do not have to have sex with then right away. Wait a while and see how the relationship goes before doing anything like that. Sex should be special and not just something you because you like it or just bored.
Wow I agree I want to give you a hug as well. Its usually vise versa. Don't worry that girl will soon regret what she did to you and what goes around comes around. One day she is really going to care for someone but then he is going to end up breaking her heart. Just forget about it, its really not worth it. You'll soon meet a great girl who loves and respects you. You sound like a great guy though!
Best of luck & be strong!
dude i wanna give u a hug!
its mostly men who only want sex im glad to see that u dont.......sorry i cant help you with your problem you see im da girl most guys wanna F**K then dont care about after. but im just so happy to know there not all the same!
How can i get them to take me seriously?
ok so i'm 21 and about to start my own ins business, but i don't think none of my employees will take me seriously because i'm younger than them, what should i do
Age in any workplace should never be an issue. It is about respect and the more you respect your employees the more they will respect you. Just a few simple rules:
Never forget you are the Boss and prove it by making the hard decisions and laying out the basic rules.
Never be afraid to take on any work in the office. It is much easier to ask someone to do something if they know you can and would do it yourself.
If the employees have more experience than you - use it. Listen to their advise and make use of their experience and give credit where credit is due.
Always be polite - say please and thank you and don't be afraid to praise their efforts.
Don't take things too seriously and try to maintain a really good sense of humour.
Never loose your temper or reprimand anyone in front of your employees.
Keep your personal life and your finances, business & personal, to yourself.
I have worked for over 40 years in offices and the best bosses I have had, and some were younger than me, followed the above guidelines.
I use them myself now and have for the past 15 years. Hope they work for you as well as they have for me..
remind them who is paying their checks
Age in any workplace should never be an issue. It is about respect and the more you respect your employees the more they will respect you. Just a few simple rules:
Never forget you are the Boss and prove it by making the hard decisions and laying out the basic rules.
Never be afraid to take on any work in the office. It is much easier to ask someone to do something if they know you can and would do it yourself.
If the employees have more experience than you - use it. Listen to their advise and make use of their experience and give credit where credit is due.
Always be polite - say please and thank you and don't be afraid to praise their efforts.
Don't take things too seriously and try to maintain a really good sense of humour.
Never loose your temper or reprimand anyone in front of your employees.
Keep your personal life and your finances, business & personal, to yourself.
I have worked for over 40 years in offices and the best bosses I have had, and some were younger than me, followed the above guidelines.
I use them myself now and have for the past 15 years. Hope they work for you as well as they have for me..
remind them who is paying their checks
Ever feel so horrible you WISH something would happen to you?
In my case, a big fight with the b/f.
I sit here thinking to myself I wish something happens to me on the way home so he can realize what he has and stop being such an ***. Ofcourse nothing harsh. But a fender bender. This is the strangest thought I've ever had. I am also in the worst mood ever so its probably from that. IDk im so confused right now. Help
This is pretty common. It's called a "Defeated Hero" fantasy. In it, you are in an accident or slightly injured (but enough to end up in hospital) and whoever has done you wrong "sees the error of his ways, realizes how special and important you are to him, and mends his behaviors because he was so afraid" when he hears what happened.
Sweetie, that's a delusion, and it won't help a crummy relationship. If your bf is a jerk sometimes, maybe he's not the right bf for you - ever consider just dating someone else? I know it hurts because you care for him, but if he doesn't care for you the same way, why on earth would you wish harm on yourself? Move on to someone who cares for you as much as you care for him, don't waste time on a doofus who doesn't appreciate you - and don't wind yourself up in the hospital over a jerk like that.
hi. I'm feeling just like that right know, but for another reason. I know it sucks, but I'm like failing all of my classes (I'm usually a straight A's students) and right know I feel like getting into a hospital b/c of a disease and forgetting about school.
The thing is that, if that really happened, I would hate myself forever for thinking about it.
The moment I think about that, I feel really bad, so I hope you don't think about it too much, b/c if it really happened, you would hate yrself 4ever.
:D if that person really is your best friend, in a week from know, u will laugh at this fight.
Yes, but not over a relationship and I wished for death. I was depressed. Be careful what you wish for because something a lot worse can happen. Work out the problems in your relationship or maybe you need to get out of it if you're hoping for destructive things to happen to you just to get your boyfriend's attention. Good luck and be careful.
I sit here thinking to myself I wish something happens to me on the way home so he can realize what he has and stop being such an ***. Ofcourse nothing harsh. But a fender bender. This is the strangest thought I've ever had. I am also in the worst mood ever so its probably from that. IDk im so confused right now. Help
This is pretty common. It's called a "Defeated Hero" fantasy. In it, you are in an accident or slightly injured (but enough to end up in hospital) and whoever has done you wrong "sees the error of his ways, realizes how special and important you are to him, and mends his behaviors because he was so afraid" when he hears what happened.
Sweetie, that's a delusion, and it won't help a crummy relationship. If your bf is a jerk sometimes, maybe he's not the right bf for you - ever consider just dating someone else? I know it hurts because you care for him, but if he doesn't care for you the same way, why on earth would you wish harm on yourself? Move on to someone who cares for you as much as you care for him, don't waste time on a doofus who doesn't appreciate you - and don't wind yourself up in the hospital over a jerk like that.
hi. I'm feeling just like that right know, but for another reason. I know it sucks, but I'm like failing all of my classes (I'm usually a straight A's students) and right know I feel like getting into a hospital b/c of a disease and forgetting about school.
The thing is that, if that really happened, I would hate myself forever for thinking about it.
The moment I think about that, I feel really bad, so I hope you don't think about it too much, b/c if it really happened, you would hate yrself 4ever.
:D if that person really is your best friend, in a week from know, u will laugh at this fight.
Yes, but not over a relationship and I wished for death. I was depressed. Be careful what you wish for because something a lot worse can happen. Work out the problems in your relationship or maybe you need to get out of it if you're hoping for destructive things to happen to you just to get your boyfriend's attention. Good luck and be careful.
I need someones advice on drugs(10 points to the best input)?
Hey all. i made a little letter it's about this guy addicted to coke.(name is fake i dont know anyone named kyle) I just wanted some more input on it. I'm not great writer or anything but one of my bestfriends is addicted to coke and and this how i deal with it.
My Love coke
Dear Love,
I am in need of help; I need you more than ever now. Youe the only one that helps through the tough times. My family was never there to comfort me. When my best friend died you were there not them. Why oh why do you taunt me with your pasty white skin. Youe irresistible to me and you know it. Your scent your touch the feel of you when youe inside me running through me. You make all my problems go away. I in debt to this guy who loaned me money. It was all your fault you just had to see me that day, take all of my money from me, but its ok I still love you. I haven seen my family for about 4 months they don like you. But they just don understand you like I do. I know that you only want to help me you only want to love me, be there when times are down. Youe my one true love we will be together till the day I die. No one gets it I just want to be with you only you. We don need anyone in our relationship. Last time I was talking to my sister on the phone she started to cry she said that you were evil your just going destroying my life but not just mine. She said that you were making her life hell and mom and dad to. They said youe not good for me your only going to make me sick then they said if I keep hanging out with you there only one path way I going to go. I just don get it why can I be with you all the time. The other day that guy I owed money to left me a message said if he didn get that money I owed him today that there were going to be serious consciences I don believe him people like that are all talk. I just wanted to write you this letter to let you know I always going to be there for you just like youe always there for me. I love you and no one ever going to take you away from me. There someone knocking on my door I better go and check to see what they want they are knocking pretty hard sound like they are going to break the door down. Well better not keep them waiting. See you soon
Love Kyle
idk they say ppl who do coke r jux lukin 4 a way out of their misery
My Love coke
Dear Love,
I am in need of help; I need you more than ever now. Youe the only one that helps through the tough times. My family was never there to comfort me. When my best friend died you were there not them. Why oh why do you taunt me with your pasty white skin. Youe irresistible to me and you know it. Your scent your touch the feel of you when youe inside me running through me. You make all my problems go away. I in debt to this guy who loaned me money. It was all your fault you just had to see me that day, take all of my money from me, but its ok I still love you. I haven seen my family for about 4 months they don like you. But they just don understand you like I do. I know that you only want to help me you only want to love me, be there when times are down. Youe my one true love we will be together till the day I die. No one gets it I just want to be with you only you. We don need anyone in our relationship. Last time I was talking to my sister on the phone she started to cry she said that you were evil your just going destroying my life but not just mine. She said that you were making her life hell and mom and dad to. They said youe not good for me your only going to make me sick then they said if I keep hanging out with you there only one path way I going to go. I just don get it why can I be with you all the time. The other day that guy I owed money to left me a message said if he didn get that money I owed him today that there were going to be serious consciences I don believe him people like that are all talk. I just wanted to write you this letter to let you know I always going to be there for you just like youe always there for me. I love you and no one ever going to take you away from me. There someone knocking on my door I better go and check to see what they want they are knocking pretty hard sound like they are going to break the door down. Well better not keep them waiting. See you soon
Love Kyle
idk they say ppl who do coke r jux lukin 4 a way out of their misery
I have dreams of my brother
It doesn't happen like everynight or anything, but it does happen here and there. I have dreams about being with my older brother's girl, who is I think 24 or 25 and I'm 21 if that matters. The thing is I am attracted to her in real life, but I don't know what to do. I feel bad but these dreams only make me want her more and more. Like I said, I do feel bad, being my brother's girl and all. But any advice you can give me?
Be very careful not to show your feelings to this girl or to let your brother see this is happening. As brothers you probably have similar taste in women so this is not unusual. Keep your distance as much as possible and find a girl of your own.
Probably because you need a girl! Dont worry just keep ypour distance otherwise the feelings might deepen and then your crazy in love with her dont show any interest or feelings in front of your bruv
Good Luck
Be very careful not to show your feelings to this girl or to let your brother see this is happening. As brothers you probably have similar taste in women so this is not unusual. Keep your distance as much as possible and find a girl of your own.
Probably because you need a girl! Dont worry just keep ypour distance otherwise the feelings might deepen and then your crazy in love with her dont show any interest or feelings in front of your bruv
Good Luck
Does love wear out with time?
True love will never fade in our lives.Our love is for all eternity sweetheart.We are,and will be together forever babe.I love you so much darling,You light up my life.
YES:
love got many forms.initially the love is physical love.we love to touch each others body,we do sex ,we play with each others body.
gradually as time passes the love changes the form and along with Physical it becomes spiritual, in which u like each others presence around u even u r not doing any thing to each others body.
secondly , initially we think only about love ,romance,sex and all that.but in course of life when we get busy in life,kids,family responsibility,jobs and related tensions and other house hold responsiblities the love starts becoming secondry to these tensions and responsibilities.
True love does not wear out but settles into a comfortable best friend relationship. The intitial red hot glow settles into glowing embers.
sometimes...
the key to a good relationship is to keep things fresh do something different a lot so that love wont go away...
YES:
love got many forms.initially the love is physical love.we love to touch each others body,we do sex ,we play with each others body.
gradually as time passes the love changes the form and along with Physical it becomes spiritual, in which u like each others presence around u even u r not doing any thing to each others body.
secondly , initially we think only about love ,romance,sex and all that.but in course of life when we get busy in life,kids,family responsibility,jobs and related tensions and other house hold responsiblities the love starts becoming secondry to these tensions and responsibilities.
True love does not wear out but settles into a comfortable best friend relationship. The intitial red hot glow settles into glowing embers.
sometimes...
the key to a good relationship is to keep things fresh do something different a lot so that love wont go away...
Is it possible to fall in love with someone
When i first heard your delightful voice on the telephone,I fell even more in love with you.Your marvelous kind words swept me away to an enchanted land.Full of miracles and magic.Your love melts my heart babe,You will always be my cute loving darling GF.I can`t get enough of your love.I will be by your side forever more.
I think you can only fall in love with humans, not sound waves.
You simply associate the voice with someone u love - imaginery or real.
lol most deff.!!! i talked to this guy over the phone and his voice waz totally hawt!!! ur voice says a lot about u!
i love my boyfriends voice. i am always saying this to him
I think you can only fall in love with humans, not sound waves.
You simply associate the voice with someone u love - imaginery or real.
lol most deff.!!! i talked to this guy over the phone and his voice waz totally hawt!!! ur voice says a lot about u!
i love my boyfriends voice. i am always saying this to him
When was the last time someone said to you
You,are so adorable babe,I smile every time you tell me,that you love me.I feel so loved by you,and so light headed too.I will treasure your beauty,and your magnificent honesty and love.for all eternity sweetheart and back.You are so amazing,my sweet darling angel.
i don't remember because my kids don't say that to me,when i tell my wife to say that to me she always say that's understood ,why to say that.
don't have any girlfriend so no body say that to me
today-- I tell my children and husband everyday that I love them and they tell me that they love me too. Life is too short not to tell someone that you love them!
Yesterday, my brother and his Mrs, bless, tell me every time we talk or see each other and I tell them. We mean the world to each other.
About an hour and a half ago...my cousin. About 35 minutes ago, my hubby called from work to check on me and our son.
Today, I always tell my husband I love him and he tells me all the time how he feels
Like 3 minutes ago when i came off the phone.
My darling husband and 2 of my daughters say it to me every day!
Just now, got a text saying it from my ex boyfriend!
a few minutes ago...i tell my kids and hubby all the time!!
today<3 (:
An hour ago.. my bf said that to me..
about 10 mins ago lol my partner is sittin right next to me lol
i don't remember because my kids don't say that to me,when i tell my wife to say that to me she always say that's understood ,why to say that.
don't have any girlfriend so no body say that to me
today-- I tell my children and husband everyday that I love them and they tell me that they love me too. Life is too short not to tell someone that you love them!
Yesterday, my brother and his Mrs, bless, tell me every time we talk or see each other and I tell them. We mean the world to each other.
About an hour and a half ago...my cousin. About 35 minutes ago, my hubby called from work to check on me and our son.
Today, I always tell my husband I love him and he tells me all the time how he feels
Like 3 minutes ago when i came off the phone.
My darling husband and 2 of my daughters say it to me every day!
Just now, got a text saying it from my ex boyfriend!
a few minutes ago...i tell my kids and hubby all the time!!
today<3 (:
An hour ago.. my bf said that to me..
about 10 mins ago lol my partner is sittin right next to me lol
Who is the last person that you kissed?
Who was the last person that you really kissed?
Someone who didn't deserve it.
My ex boyfriend.
my boyfriend<3
Someone who didn't deserve it.
My ex boyfriend.
my boyfriend<3
Needing answers!!!pls?
Wot would you do if ya saw ya ex around town or at a party with her new man???wot if she tries to say hi?ignore her?fake a smile to let her know u are doing good?had a bad breakup and dont even wanna see her again.
Just be polite and move on.
Just be polite and move on.
How can i seem older?
i am the yuongest in all my family. i am 13. i am alays trying to prove that i am older and my cusin's treat my like im still in 3rd grade its horibal
You know, being the oldest holds the most responsibility so they can set an example for their younger siblings and followers an example.
So there will be no way you can be "seemed older". Because there is nothing you can do at your age, proving something is sometimes a good deed but a greed at other times.
Your the youngest eh? you can try to become the wisest :p. Not every oldest person is wise.
by learning how to spell, first of all. second, by acting mature.
You know, being the oldest holds the most responsibility so they can set an example for their younger siblings and followers an example.
So there will be no way you can be "seemed older". Because there is nothing you can do at your age, proving something is sometimes a good deed but a greed at other times.
Your the youngest eh? you can try to become the wisest :p. Not every oldest person is wise.
by learning how to spell, first of all. second, by acting mature.
Question About Sex...........?
My sister has been going out with this guy for a few months now and lets just say hes not purest guy around. My sister is a virgin far as I know, but I'm worried she might do something stupid and lose her virginity to this asshole. From rumors I've heard that he has tried to make her do something and I'm not worried about that because it's just rumors, but as of right now as I'm typing this question she is in his truck. My dad is downstairs and she is a nice girl and I think she can do better, but her being in the truck with this guy....should I be worried. I can't imagine what they might be doing, what should I do.
Please no asshole comments
I am glad you are concerned son, this shows you care about her and your heart and mind is where it should be.
Your PARENTS on the other hand should NOT be giving her opportunity to "lose her virginity"When you become a parent, remember this and remember it well and do not make the same mistake as your parents and many others are making.
TBH there's nothing you can really do about it apart from let her make her own decisions or make her own mistakes, it's her life if you think about it. The thing that would be most likely to push her further in to his arms is you criticising him or trying to persuade her to dump him etc. We've all known women who have fallen for guys who are obviously a**eholes & meddling in it never works, it usual has the exact opposite effect.
You should just let it be. Every girl loses her virginity.
If she thinks its the right thing she will do it but if he breaks her heart afterward you should hunt him down and cut off his cock.
Thats what I would do.
talk to her. the best way to keep a girl out of emotional pain is to love her. tell her you're concerned and you think she should wait. and tell her she's worth waiting for.
First step GET OUT TO THE TRUCK! second step SEE WHAT THEY ARE DOING! thrid step if they are doing something bad TELL YOUR DAD!
or tell your dad right before doing anything.
LOOK OUTTA WiiNDOW && iiF YU C SUMTiiN DEN TELL DAD LOL
Well I guess it depends on how old your sister is. If she is an adult then you might have to step back and let her make her own decisions. All you can do is tell her how you feel and give her the best advice you can, however it's up to her to make the right choices.
If she is underage then maybe you can step in a little and try to keep her away from this guy, but you have to be careful not to be too demanding or else it will push her closer to him and then she might end up doing exactly what you are trying to keep her from doing.
I guess your best bet is to be open, honest, sincere & most importantly understanding of her feelings and hope for the best.
Good Luck!!
Please no asshole comments
I am glad you are concerned son, this shows you care about her and your heart and mind is where it should be.
Your PARENTS on the other hand should NOT be giving her opportunity to "lose her virginity"When you become a parent, remember this and remember it well and do not make the same mistake as your parents and many others are making.
TBH there's nothing you can really do about it apart from let her make her own decisions or make her own mistakes, it's her life if you think about it. The thing that would be most likely to push her further in to his arms is you criticising him or trying to persuade her to dump him etc. We've all known women who have fallen for guys who are obviously a**eholes & meddling in it never works, it usual has the exact opposite effect.
You should just let it be. Every girl loses her virginity.
If she thinks its the right thing she will do it but if he breaks her heart afterward you should hunt him down and cut off his cock.
Thats what I would do.
talk to her. the best way to keep a girl out of emotional pain is to love her. tell her you're concerned and you think she should wait. and tell her she's worth waiting for.
First step GET OUT TO THE TRUCK! second step SEE WHAT THEY ARE DOING! thrid step if they are doing something bad TELL YOUR DAD!
or tell your dad right before doing anything.
LOOK OUTTA WiiNDOW && iiF YU C SUMTiiN DEN TELL DAD LOL
Well I guess it depends on how old your sister is. If she is an adult then you might have to step back and let her make her own decisions. All you can do is tell her how you feel and give her the best advice you can, however it's up to her to make the right choices.
If she is underage then maybe you can step in a little and try to keep her away from this guy, but you have to be careful not to be too demanding or else it will push her closer to him and then she might end up doing exactly what you are trying to keep her from doing.
I guess your best bet is to be open, honest, sincere & most importantly understanding of her feelings and hope for the best.
Good Luck!!
Who was the most important person in your life? Can you tell me about him or her?
all of the ppl that are in my life are important to me in one way or another
my mom but she died almost 4years ago.my mom is still the most important person in my life because she taught me everything.I learn from her even though sometimes she gave me some tough love it was always for a reason.I love my dad because he is the only living parent right now who takes care of me and my 5brother and sisters by himself.he is also the most important person in my life.God is always #1 in my life no matter what happens he is the most important person in my life.I know he is always going to be with me no matter what
1.God
2.Parents
3.Siblings
the most important in my life is kevin!!! he is my boyfriend....ummmmm...he never fails to suprise me! he is very cute! ummmmmm.......in surprise its sometimes a hug from behind when im not looking...but the most surprising thing was when he knocked on my window and woke me up! i opened the window for him, i sometimes end up sleeping on his chest.....i don't have sex!when iwake up he has a note saying, "i'll be back tonight." or "im sorry i won't be back, see u at skool." i have been dating him for 2 years now!
since you said "was," i guess that i'll choose someone gone
my dad was extremely influential and important. he was very stubborn and gruff, but he had a big heart and always did what's best. i lost him in 7th grade and it really sucks not having a dad but i'm surviving. he was the ultimate handy man and cared so very much! i could talk with him for hours after school and i loved showing off in front of him on my go-cart. i'll miss him lots.
my mom but she died almost 4years ago.my mom is still the most important person in my life because she taught me everything.I learn from her even though sometimes she gave me some tough love it was always for a reason.I love my dad because he is the only living parent right now who takes care of me and my 5brother and sisters by himself.he is also the most important person in my life.God is always #1 in my life no matter what happens he is the most important person in my life.I know he is always going to be with me no matter what
1.God
2.Parents
3.Siblings
the most important in my life is kevin!!! he is my boyfriend....ummmmm...he never fails to suprise me! he is very cute! ummmmmm.......in surprise its sometimes a hug from behind when im not looking...but the most surprising thing was when he knocked on my window and woke me up! i opened the window for him, i sometimes end up sleeping on his chest.....i don't have sex!when iwake up he has a note saying, "i'll be back tonight." or "im sorry i won't be back, see u at skool." i have been dating him for 2 years now!
since you said "was," i guess that i'll choose someone gone
my dad was extremely influential and important. he was very stubborn and gruff, but he had a big heart and always did what's best. i lost him in 7th grade and it really sucks not having a dad but i'm surviving. he was the ultimate handy man and cared so very much! i could talk with him for hours after school and i loved showing off in front of him on my go-cart. i'll miss him lots.
Fear of getting me pregnant or somebody else?
So, my bf %26amp; I have been going out for 3 years. Getting straight down to it, we%26#039;ve never had sex. Yes, we fool around all the time. But, when it comes to him actually inserting, he never wants to. I%26#039;ll ask all the time, %26quot; Why don%26#039;t you want to?%26quot; And he answers,%26quot; Because I%26#039;m afraid of getting you pregnant.%26quot; I%26#039;ve also asked him if he%26#039;s seeing anyone else. He says, of course not. So, I%26#039;m totally confused on why he wouldn%26#039;t want to. And, I understand where he%26#039;s coming from...but, its not like we%26#039;re going to have unprotected sex. So, do you think something else is going on w/ him?
i am living that exact thing right now. I am totally paranoid of getting my g/f pregnant. im not cheating or anything its just that a child is not what we need right now and i am pro life she is pro choice so its like kinda need to be careful. Just try and assure him your on the pill taking it corectly have him use condoms or pull out if hes about to be done. this can reduce chances and make him feel a little less worried. also tell him to empty his tank before hand then there is even less c__m so its one more step. The pill, condom, and pulling out if he is sreally worried should help put him at rest. Plus let him know about your shedule me knowing when my g/f is on helps me feel a little more secure about not being pregnant.
IS HE A VIRGIN.. if he is he could just be afraid to have sex period, he might think you wont like it or something on that line. and if he really is scared of getting you prego, then just try talking to him about it like ask him and try to fix it. CONDOMS, BIRTH CONTROL, MORNING AFTER PILL, and im not sayign this is goo but just if you do get prego ABORTIONS. there are plenty of ways to get out of it. and as far as the %26quot;seeing another person%26quot; goes, i dont know i highly doubt it.
well i think he%26#039;ll do it in the coming days.(you know what you are doing by mentioning %26quot;unprotected sex%26quot;).a rubber maybe handy.just be prim and proper in the days to come.and dont make any move.if he makes a move just move away (as if you didnt want any!) soon he will be knocking on the door!
i dont think so i think hes telling the truth, all you got to do is take that fear away from him nd assure him that the risk is not very likely when having protected sex
You should ask maybe hes a virgin and is just hiding it, or hes just not that really serious with you.
no protection is 100 % foolproof unless ur planing to use the pill. a condom, spremacide cuz one alone u can still get pregnant so maybe seriously he is worried about it
he could be totally opposite from other guys and just not be ready to go all the way...shocker.
he might just want to save it for marriage
This sound weird to me. I can understand the not wanting to get pregnant, but I have never heard of a man going sooo far and then backing out at the last step. Usually things get pretty heated up and backing out the last thing on the mind. Are you his first?
Maybe he could be a little scared. Offer to take birth control on top of using something else. I don%26#039;t want to get pregnant but I still find a way to have sex.
Basically if he wanted to, he would find a way. Even if he asked you to use 5 different things. Why hasn%26#039;t he came up with Ideas and solutions? hmmm..
Good luck I hope it works out.
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i am living that exact thing right now. I am totally paranoid of getting my g/f pregnant. im not cheating or anything its just that a child is not what we need right now and i am pro life she is pro choice so its like kinda need to be careful. Just try and assure him your on the pill taking it corectly have him use condoms or pull out if hes about to be done. this can reduce chances and make him feel a little less worried. also tell him to empty his tank before hand then there is even less c__m so its one more step. The pill, condom, and pulling out if he is sreally worried should help put him at rest. Plus let him know about your shedule me knowing when my g/f is on helps me feel a little more secure about not being pregnant.
IS HE A VIRGIN.. if he is he could just be afraid to have sex period, he might think you wont like it or something on that line. and if he really is scared of getting you prego, then just try talking to him about it like ask him and try to fix it. CONDOMS, BIRTH CONTROL, MORNING AFTER PILL, and im not sayign this is goo but just if you do get prego ABORTIONS. there are plenty of ways to get out of it. and as far as the %26quot;seeing another person%26quot; goes, i dont know i highly doubt it.
well i think he%26#039;ll do it in the coming days.(you know what you are doing by mentioning %26quot;unprotected sex%26quot;).a rubber maybe handy.just be prim and proper in the days to come.and dont make any move.if he makes a move just move away (as if you didnt want any!) soon he will be knocking on the door!
i dont think so i think hes telling the truth, all you got to do is take that fear away from him nd assure him that the risk is not very likely when having protected sex
You should ask maybe hes a virgin and is just hiding it, or hes just not that really serious with you.
no protection is 100 % foolproof unless ur planing to use the pill. a condom, spremacide cuz one alone u can still get pregnant so maybe seriously he is worried about it
he could be totally opposite from other guys and just not be ready to go all the way...shocker.
he might just want to save it for marriage
This sound weird to me. I can understand the not wanting to get pregnant, but I have never heard of a man going sooo far and then backing out at the last step. Usually things get pretty heated up and backing out the last thing on the mind. Are you his first?
Maybe he could be a little scared. Offer to take birth control on top of using something else. I don%26#039;t want to get pregnant but I still find a way to have sex.
Basically if he wanted to, he would find a way. Even if he asked you to use 5 different things. Why hasn%26#039;t he came up with Ideas and solutions? hmmm..
Good luck I hope it works out.
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I WANT TO FIGHT ALL THE TIME I DONT CARE WHO HE IS I WANNA FIGHT THEM ALL WHAT GIVES?
IM REALLY A NICE GUY AND HAVE MANY MALE FRIENDS THAT I DON'T EVER FIGHT WITH. I JUST GET SO MUCH JOY OUT OF FIGHTING. PS I HAVE NEVER STARTED A FIGHT OR JUST HURT AN INNOCENT PERSON I JUST CAN NEVER SAY NO TO ONE.
it's called testosterone..you have an excess amount of it. then again liking fighting isn't really a problem. just join wrestling, boxing, kickbixing, martial arts, or street fighting classes. i think you'll enjoy it....have fun!!
We have so much in common you don't even know. I just want to beat the **** out of someone for pure enjoyment. I mean it relives stress, makes you feel like something, and all those good things. Maybe you should join the marines sometime in life, or join karate, or get a fighting career. Join wrestling or something. Thats probably the best way to go.
Its probably the adrenaline rush you get from fighting
You should let all that out boxing or working out.
Start a career as a boxer. look into it. That is exactly how many of famous, celebrity boxers became so greatly-known. You might as well be a very good one.
You need to see a therapist because all of this ridiculous anger is coming from somewhere and you need to figure that out before you get yourself killed!
hahaha you need to get laid!! Someday some dude is gonna kick the **** out of you. Fighting is so ******* dumb!!
You not a nice guy.
Join kick boxing and let's see how tough you are then.
Well why don't we meet somewhere then? lol jk
WOW YOUR REAL MACHO!
go to therapy?
i feel the same way go home and puch the bed thats what i do
get into boxing or mma...
learn how to control yourself ....
a man with no self control is no man at all ...
it's called testosterone..you have an excess amount of it. then again liking fighting isn't really a problem. just join wrestling, boxing, kickbixing, martial arts, or street fighting classes. i think you'll enjoy it....have fun!!
We have so much in common you don't even know. I just want to beat the **** out of someone for pure enjoyment. I mean it relives stress, makes you feel like something, and all those good things. Maybe you should join the marines sometime in life, or join karate, or get a fighting career. Join wrestling or something. Thats probably the best way to go.
Its probably the adrenaline rush you get from fighting
You should let all that out boxing or working out.
Start a career as a boxer. look into it. That is exactly how many of famous, celebrity boxers became so greatly-known. You might as well be a very good one.
You need to see a therapist because all of this ridiculous anger is coming from somewhere and you need to figure that out before you get yourself killed!
hahaha you need to get laid!! Someday some dude is gonna kick the **** out of you. Fighting is so ******* dumb!!
You not a nice guy.
Join kick boxing and let's see how tough you are then.
Well why don't we meet somewhere then? lol jk
WOW YOUR REAL MACHO!
go to therapy?
i feel the same way go home and puch the bed thats what i do
get into boxing or mma...
learn how to control yourself ....
a man with no self control is no man at all ...
The boy thinks I
I have an employee who I believe doesn't really appreciate the help I give him. I give him generous advice about how to stay healthy in the cold and how to wear his hair. I telling him from the heart about how he should deal with his wife and I sometimes go the extra mile by following him home and watching him to make sure nothing bad happens to him and sometimes when their arguments get too tense I call the house and ask to talk to the wife and give a false name and once I stole her car keys so that she could learn some respect.
I don't want to seem like I am judging the boy to harshly, but I am not completely sure that he really appreciates the heartfelt attention he is getting. He has told me just to let him do his work and pay him, which is fine, of course I will pay him. Once he said he would call the police, and I thought at the time that he was making a joke. But the other day when I was reading the text messages on his phone, his wife referred to me as "the stalker" and I know that she has an immature attitude, but I fear that she may be negatively influencing her husband.
What's an old-timer to do?
I feel for you. I had the same problem when I tapped my ex boyfriend's phone, hacked into his financial statements (to make sure he was balancing his checkbook), quit my job to follow him 24/7 (to make sure he was safe) and slept on his lawn at night to make sure no burglars got him. The nerve of these people when all we are trying to do is look out for them!
I don't want to seem like I am judging the boy to harshly, but I am not completely sure that he really appreciates the heartfelt attention he is getting. He has told me just to let him do his work and pay him, which is fine, of course I will pay him. Once he said he would call the police, and I thought at the time that he was making a joke. But the other day when I was reading the text messages on his phone, his wife referred to me as "the stalker" and I know that she has an immature attitude, but I fear that she may be negatively influencing her husband.
What's an old-timer to do?
I feel for you. I had the same problem when I tapped my ex boyfriend's phone, hacked into his financial statements (to make sure he was balancing his checkbook), quit my job to follow him 24/7 (to make sure he was safe) and slept on his lawn at night to make sure no burglars got him. The nerve of these people when all we are trying to do is look out for them!
Tuesday, March 31, 2009
Been with husband 7 years and just found out he was previously engaged?
I am not jealous or anything, but this is a big deal, it makes me wonder what else he hasn't told me. Isn't this something you mention at some point?? I am pregnant so I am easily irritated, so ladies would you be irritated about this or am I just being a moron?
Yes, I would be irritated if I found out my husband had been engaged and not mentioned it. The fact that he at one time felt that he wanted to spend his entire life with someone is a big deal to me. Even though I'm the one who happily ended up with him, that's something I'd have wanted to know.
I would just ask him straight out (without nagging) why he didn't feel the need to mention it, and if there is anything else you two should discuss.
There are plenty of things from my past that I am sure I haven't told my husband. That's doesn't make me secretive or a liar, but it's impossible to tell someone everything you've ever been through. It's not as though you've ever asked him if he was previously engaged and he denied it.
I really don't think this is a big deal and I'm not really sure why you think it is. And I don't think this is a red flag telling you that you need to pry into his past to see what else you don't know. I don't believe it means that your husband has anything to hide. He apparently didn't find this past relationship significant or relevant to his relationship with you.
But I don't think you're a moron, lol, just a little hormonal :)
I had a similar situation where my husband was engaged before me. He had told me about it but not right away. I had difficulty with it. I wondered what could have been wrong that he would get engaged then three months later break it off...it made me feel very insecure about our engagement. He had explained to me that it was the biggest mistak'e of his life. He also said that he was settling because he didn't think there was anything out there for him.
I believe in telling your significant other some details about past relationships. I'm not talking full disclosure but at least tell me who you have been with and how serious it was. If I were you...I would feel a little upset about it. I think he should have told you...especially if you find out years later...and from someone else. That is really hard.
I guess you have to talk to him about it and find a way to let it go. Good luck!
Yes, I'd be irritated. I think it is something you can get past, but 7 years! That is ridiculous. It does make you think---Why wouldn't he want you to know something like that? Was it at least a short engagement, or maybe a HS engagement type of thing? Not to say you can't work past this, but here is an excellent opportunity to lay out your cards on the table and let him know you need him to be completely honest with you from now on or he knows what will happen.
Yeah more likely you are very feeling sensitive. I do believe that you love him of course! I guess he prefer not talk about that situation but he should say that to you long time ago but well. I suggest you chat with him about his situation was previously engaged and probably would make you feel calm and okay.
Since it has NOTHING to do with the two of you as a couple, I don't believe you should be irritated. There is a difference between hiding something and just not mentioning it. Unless he lied about ever having been in a serious relationship, you have nothing to worry about.
I can only laugh. I just found out my husband had a car stolen 5 years ago! And the california highway patrol just called him to say they recovered it. We have only been together a year and a half. Some things are just not mentioned because they hold no value... unless you have to drive to pick it up!
I think that yes it should have been brought up in the past but no one is perfect. There is no excuse for why he did not tell you but if you have been married 7 years I would hope that you can trust him. tell him how you feel and see how he responds. Ask him if there are any other parts of his life he has not told you about. I hope it all works out and will have you in my prayers.
On the one hand maybe he didnt think it was important but on the other hand it seems to be important to you. Its been 7 years and he married you but I would ask if there was anything else he needed to tell you. But it is the past.
Hormones are raging. :-) The past is the past. He is married to you, loves you and soon there will be a new addition. Try to see past what you have discovered. If you are concerned ask him more about his past.
She obviously wasn't worth mentioning.
You've got the ring and your having his baby.
Be happy and leave the past in the past.
Did you ask him why he feel it was not necessary mentioning the fact before now?
P.S. Don't start questioning his trust. You either trust him or you don't. Do you love him? You cannot love without trust.
no no. you are a woman so you are easily irritated.
you're just being insecured and emotional. that's quite normal for someone in your condition. at least he married you,right?
I don't think it is anything you should be too concerned about.
yeahh what you are feeling is normal..but its just his past..
nah. it is part of the past. he gave you his present and future.
UMMMM.... SO?????? We all have a past.. I bet he doesn't know all of yours either
Yes, I would be irritated if I found out my husband had been engaged and not mentioned it. The fact that he at one time felt that he wanted to spend his entire life with someone is a big deal to me. Even though I'm the one who happily ended up with him, that's something I'd have wanted to know.
I would just ask him straight out (without nagging) why he didn't feel the need to mention it, and if there is anything else you two should discuss.
There are plenty of things from my past that I am sure I haven't told my husband. That's doesn't make me secretive or a liar, but it's impossible to tell someone everything you've ever been through. It's not as though you've ever asked him if he was previously engaged and he denied it.
I really don't think this is a big deal and I'm not really sure why you think it is. And I don't think this is a red flag telling you that you need to pry into his past to see what else you don't know. I don't believe it means that your husband has anything to hide. He apparently didn't find this past relationship significant or relevant to his relationship with you.
But I don't think you're a moron, lol, just a little hormonal :)
I had a similar situation where my husband was engaged before me. He had told me about it but not right away. I had difficulty with it. I wondered what could have been wrong that he would get engaged then three months later break it off...it made me feel very insecure about our engagement. He had explained to me that it was the biggest mistak'e of his life. He also said that he was settling because he didn't think there was anything out there for him.
I believe in telling your significant other some details about past relationships. I'm not talking full disclosure but at least tell me who you have been with and how serious it was. If I were you...I would feel a little upset about it. I think he should have told you...especially if you find out years later...and from someone else. That is really hard.
I guess you have to talk to him about it and find a way to let it go. Good luck!
Yes, I'd be irritated. I think it is something you can get past, but 7 years! That is ridiculous. It does make you think---Why wouldn't he want you to know something like that? Was it at least a short engagement, or maybe a HS engagement type of thing? Not to say you can't work past this, but here is an excellent opportunity to lay out your cards on the table and let him know you need him to be completely honest with you from now on or he knows what will happen.
Yeah more likely you are very feeling sensitive. I do believe that you love him of course! I guess he prefer not talk about that situation but he should say that to you long time ago but well. I suggest you chat with him about his situation was previously engaged and probably would make you feel calm and okay.
Since it has NOTHING to do with the two of you as a couple, I don't believe you should be irritated. There is a difference between hiding something and just not mentioning it. Unless he lied about ever having been in a serious relationship, you have nothing to worry about.
I can only laugh. I just found out my husband had a car stolen 5 years ago! And the california highway patrol just called him to say they recovered it. We have only been together a year and a half. Some things are just not mentioned because they hold no value... unless you have to drive to pick it up!
I think that yes it should have been brought up in the past but no one is perfect. There is no excuse for why he did not tell you but if you have been married 7 years I would hope that you can trust him. tell him how you feel and see how he responds. Ask him if there are any other parts of his life he has not told you about. I hope it all works out and will have you in my prayers.
On the one hand maybe he didnt think it was important but on the other hand it seems to be important to you. Its been 7 years and he married you but I would ask if there was anything else he needed to tell you. But it is the past.
Hormones are raging. :-) The past is the past. He is married to you, loves you and soon there will be a new addition. Try to see past what you have discovered. If you are concerned ask him more about his past.
She obviously wasn't worth mentioning.
You've got the ring and your having his baby.
Be happy and leave the past in the past.
Did you ask him why he feel it was not necessary mentioning the fact before now?
P.S. Don't start questioning his trust. You either trust him or you don't. Do you love him? You cannot love without trust.
no no. you are a woman so you are easily irritated.
you're just being insecured and emotional. that's quite normal for someone in your condition. at least he married you,right?
I don't think it is anything you should be too concerned about.
yeahh what you are feeling is normal..but its just his past..
nah. it is part of the past. he gave you his present and future.
UMMMM.... SO?????? We all have a past.. I bet he doesn't know all of yours either
Have you ever kept a secret to not hurt your husband or wife?
Yes! Everyone has a right to privacy even from their husband/wife.
No, not from the first time we said hello. I have lived with lies and so had he... so we made a vow of honesty right from the start. And I was right, my oldest has a bigger mouth than his oldest... that was agreed over time. We now laugh at how honest we are because even the small things that never mattered we never lied about.
No, I can't think of any. I'm insanely honest. Even when I shouldn't be. I'm working on it. Seriously, I am.
NO, I have never kept a secret from my husband but...
I had a secret kept from me for 9months!!!
No. I honestly cannot think of a secret I have kept from my husband. So even if I have a secret...... I don't even know it!
I have kept a secert from my husband to avoid a fight or arguement
No. Secrets hurt more than they help. I am honest and deal with what comes.
YESS ALL THE TIME
Yes.
yes. Who hasnt?
No, not from the first time we said hello. I have lived with lies and so had he... so we made a vow of honesty right from the start. And I was right, my oldest has a bigger mouth than his oldest... that was agreed over time. We now laugh at how honest we are because even the small things that never mattered we never lied about.
No, I can't think of any. I'm insanely honest. Even when I shouldn't be. I'm working on it. Seriously, I am.
NO, I have never kept a secret from my husband but...
I had a secret kept from me for 9months!!!
No. I honestly cannot think of a secret I have kept from my husband. So even if I have a secret...... I don't even know it!
I have kept a secert from my husband to avoid a fight or arguement
No. Secrets hurt more than they help. I am honest and deal with what comes.
YESS ALL THE TIME
Yes.
yes. Who hasnt?
Do you ever take off your wedding ring?
If I am doing a messy job or handling raw meat while cooking I will usually remove it until I'm done.
Yes my ring is really loose and i take it off when i take a shower and when i do dishes and housework or if i am gardening or putting lotion on... i am not a jewelery person and so i feel i dont need a ring to show anyone i am married i know and was at the ceremony so i am married in gods eyes and in my hubbys eyes
Yes, I take it off to shower. I hate when soap gets caught in it.
I put it right back on, though.
Oh, I forgot..I do take it off to make meat patties. I'm not a fan of ground beef getting caught in it, either.
Only to have it cleaned. It's a shadow band since my husband designed my engagement ring, so it has some funny bends that tend to trap the dirt. Otherwise, no.
Not often. Sometimes my finger needs to breathe. But I never go out in public without my ring.
My husband is a Police Officer, and cannot wear any jewelry on duty, including his ring.
Of course. I don't wear a lot of jewelry usually so many times I go without it. And my husband can't wear it at work and then when he's travelling for work he's afraid it could get lost, so he's stopped wearing it altogether.
I take mine off for work because I am a waitress and I dip my hands in bleach water a gazillion times a day. I wish I could wear it to work but my husband says it will be ruined if I do and he payed too much for it to get ruined. :(
Yes. I took it off and left it at a relatives weekend home. Even when I got it back, a few weeks later, I left it off for months. I just got used to wearing my anniversary bands instead.
For utilitarian purposes like those above, yes. But my wife died almost a year ago and I still can't bring myself to take it off and put it away. In my heart, I'm still married.
When I clean the house.
When the ring needs to be cleaned.
When I was pregnant. My fingers were bloated and the ring was uncomfortable.
Not anymore. We had them tattooed on the day after Thanksgiving last year. I am not allowed to wear mine at work anymore so I quit wearing it at all.
Some people stop wearing a wedding ring after a bit. It doesn't mean much to stop wearing one if you keep your values close.
One of my friends takes off her wedding ring every time she has a fight with her husband. She won't put it back on until he has apologized. Horrid; isn't it?
Only for washing the kids, applying lotions, showers, doing my hair/makeup. I never leave the house without it on.
actually no..i haven't taken it off since my husband put it on my finger..not sure why..i don't see anything wrong with removing it to clean, shower ect..i just don't
For sure. Especially when tinkering around with electrical appliances such as PCs.
GOD YESS MY HUSBAND MAKES ME SICK AND IM VERY EMBARRASED TO BE WITH HIM SORRY ITS THE TRUTH YOU ASKED
Seldom but I have. My band is not that big but the diamond comes off all the time. I don't like it on when I'm cleaning or sleeping. It snags on stuff.
Well, I know my mom takes it off and puts it in her make-up bag when she's in the shower.
When showering, putting on lotion and sleeping
Sure do. To wash up, put on lotion, and sometimes I just want it off to be comfortable.
Just did for the first time today, because we might be getting a divorce
before bed.....when making dinner......putting on lotion and doing my hair.
yeah, when i'm out with my buddies and i'm hoping to get some strange.
yes I don't wear it anymore after I found out he cheated
To clean.
Nope :-D
Yes my ring is really loose and i take it off when i take a shower and when i do dishes and housework or if i am gardening or putting lotion on... i am not a jewelery person and so i feel i dont need a ring to show anyone i am married i know and was at the ceremony so i am married in gods eyes and in my hubbys eyes
Yes, I take it off to shower. I hate when soap gets caught in it.
I put it right back on, though.
Oh, I forgot..I do take it off to make meat patties. I'm not a fan of ground beef getting caught in it, either.
Only to have it cleaned. It's a shadow band since my husband designed my engagement ring, so it has some funny bends that tend to trap the dirt. Otherwise, no.
Not often. Sometimes my finger needs to breathe. But I never go out in public without my ring.
My husband is a Police Officer, and cannot wear any jewelry on duty, including his ring.
Of course. I don't wear a lot of jewelry usually so many times I go without it. And my husband can't wear it at work and then when he's travelling for work he's afraid it could get lost, so he's stopped wearing it altogether.
I take mine off for work because I am a waitress and I dip my hands in bleach water a gazillion times a day. I wish I could wear it to work but my husband says it will be ruined if I do and he payed too much for it to get ruined. :(
Yes. I took it off and left it at a relatives weekend home. Even when I got it back, a few weeks later, I left it off for months. I just got used to wearing my anniversary bands instead.
For utilitarian purposes like those above, yes. But my wife died almost a year ago and I still can't bring myself to take it off and put it away. In my heart, I'm still married.
When I clean the house.
When the ring needs to be cleaned.
When I was pregnant. My fingers were bloated and the ring was uncomfortable.
Not anymore. We had them tattooed on the day after Thanksgiving last year. I am not allowed to wear mine at work anymore so I quit wearing it at all.
Some people stop wearing a wedding ring after a bit. It doesn't mean much to stop wearing one if you keep your values close.
One of my friends takes off her wedding ring every time she has a fight with her husband. She won't put it back on until he has apologized. Horrid; isn't it?
Only for washing the kids, applying lotions, showers, doing my hair/makeup. I never leave the house without it on.
actually no..i haven't taken it off since my husband put it on my finger..not sure why..i don't see anything wrong with removing it to clean, shower ect..i just don't
For sure. Especially when tinkering around with electrical appliances such as PCs.
GOD YESS MY HUSBAND MAKES ME SICK AND IM VERY EMBARRASED TO BE WITH HIM SORRY ITS THE TRUTH YOU ASKED
Seldom but I have. My band is not that big but the diamond comes off all the time. I don't like it on when I'm cleaning or sleeping. It snags on stuff.
Well, I know my mom takes it off and puts it in her make-up bag when she's in the shower.
When showering, putting on lotion and sleeping
Sure do. To wash up, put on lotion, and sometimes I just want it off to be comfortable.
Just did for the first time today, because we might be getting a divorce
before bed.....when making dinner......putting on lotion and doing my hair.
yeah, when i'm out with my buddies and i'm hoping to get some strange.
yes I don't wear it anymore after I found out he cheated
To clean.
Nope :-D
Have you been burned, had a bad break up, had guys hitting on your girlfriend, girls manipulating you etc.....?
To the point where you say, "screw it, I am gonna be a sleazebag like everyone else - Date multiple women, mess with others guy's women, lie and manipulate"?
yes i hate my life and feel like going crazy too we should probably meet lol jk
It is tempting to become an asshole after being burned, esp. if you're truly one of the good ones and find yourself being screwed over consistently, but I try not to let someone else's crappy actions affect the type of person that I am and want to be.
Yep, actually for about a year I did whatever I wanted to do with whoever I wanted to do it with and didnt care what anyone thought or how they felt. It was all about me. People deal with a shattered heart in different ways and I guess that was my way to try to cope with it.
Nope. At the end of the day, I am accountable to, and responsible for, my conscience, which would not allow this kind of behavior. Don't play victim--it's thoroughly unattractive.
Learn, and move forward. Period.
Yes, i stopped looking went depressed and went crazy
Then i f ound the love of my life
It what I deal with every day!!!
Nope.. but do what makes you feel manly...
nope
yes i hate my life and feel like going crazy too we should probably meet lol jk
It is tempting to become an asshole after being burned, esp. if you're truly one of the good ones and find yourself being screwed over consistently, but I try not to let someone else's crappy actions affect the type of person that I am and want to be.
Yep, actually for about a year I did whatever I wanted to do with whoever I wanted to do it with and didnt care what anyone thought or how they felt. It was all about me. People deal with a shattered heart in different ways and I guess that was my way to try to cope with it.
Nope. At the end of the day, I am accountable to, and responsible for, my conscience, which would not allow this kind of behavior. Don't play victim--it's thoroughly unattractive.
Learn, and move forward. Period.
Yes, i stopped looking went depressed and went crazy
Then i f ound the love of my life
It what I deal with every day!!!
Nope.. but do what makes you feel manly...
nope
How do you measure??????????????????
the male sex organ????????
With a ruler....? Um..?
With a ruler I would imagine, but then I could just be a genius. But if you are a dude and you haven't measured it yet then something could be horribly wrong with you. :) Happy Measuring!
Tape measure; both length and girth are used (and exaggerated appropriately)
first take a tape measure and do it long ways then take the same tape measure and do it round ways and then let us all know the result
On the TOP side.
Most men are 5-6 inches. Virtually all who claim >7 are liars (or just wrong).
not up with you!
from the tip of his index finger to the pinkie
get it hard then use a ruler
By the brain cells in the man's head
With a ruler....? Um..?
With a ruler I would imagine, but then I could just be a genius. But if you are a dude and you haven't measured it yet then something could be horribly wrong with you. :) Happy Measuring!
Tape measure; both length and girth are used (and exaggerated appropriately)
first take a tape measure and do it long ways then take the same tape measure and do it round ways and then let us all know the result
On the TOP side.
Most men are 5-6 inches. Virtually all who claim >7 are liars (or just wrong).
not up with you!
from the tip of his index finger to the pinkie
get it hard then use a ruler
By the brain cells in the man's head
Married but decided moving out for a little while would help. Seems to have made it worse. Now am not allowed?
My wife and I have been married for 11 years now with 2 daughters. But lately things haven't been that great. Both my wife and I had very successful careers but I alone was laid off a few months ago and finding work has been hard. Still unemployed collecting unemployment. Ever since I was laid off I haven't been the same. Our communication with one another has gone by the wayside along with sexual intimacy. We have both said some things recently that were hurtful. To make a long story short. She had mentioned why don't you go spend some time with your folks for a couple of weeks and clear your head. I thought about entertaining the idea. But decided I didn't want to be cause my folks live out of state. So I asked a friend if I could stay with him for a couple of weeks. So that is what I did. Now I regret doing it because now she won't let me move back in and decided to move to a different address. (Somewhere cheaper that she could afford by herself). Because now she thinks that I was giving up and leaving her and the kids. Now that we have been living separately for over a month. Now we spend time with each other quite frequently so that I can spend some time with the kids as a family and even stay the night when she asks. She says she doesn't want a divorce but just a break to be friends for now and a father to the kids and she just wants me to be happy. I don't know whether to give up or keep trying. I am still in love her and physically attracted to her. Also our 12th Anniversary is coming up.
Giving up after 11 years of marriage (with children too) would be a terrible shame and not the best course in my opinion. Clearly life has handed you guys a tough blow right now. SO see it for what it is and don't bale on the most important thing(s) in your life just because life sucks right now. THESE things will pass in time and if you lose sight of what Is MOST important because of a few rough breaks you will certainly live to regret it - as will everyone else.
Keeping together a life long family, uniting in hard times, keeping love strong & secure, learning how to communicate and share and support and encourage eachother in bad times, showing children that FAMILY matters above all else and that marriage is ABOUT sticking it out even when times get rough - COME ON - don't let this go...and for what? Money, pride, discouragement, depression, failure to TALK to eachother?
Your anniversary is coming up? I say USE this an a PRIME opportunity to SHOW her, TELL her, express to her how important she and your family really are. OPEN those channels of communication again - throw pride to the wind and just DO IT. Do something surprise and special for her and TELL HER you love her, you don't want to lose her and your life together, your marriage, your family matter FAR MORE than anything else in the world and you want to MAKE THINGS work and hang together even in these hard times! YOU've got to open those sharing, expressing, talking, honesty communication lines though - she needs to feel loved, wanted, more important than anything else in your world and YOU no doubt need the same thing!
I've been married for 22 years myself - I KNOW from where I speak here. 22 years of marriage doesn't happen without facing and over coming difficulties along the way. Don't be one of those awful sad numbers who gave up when the going got rough and took the EASY WAY OUT (divorce!) - that never fixed anything! COme on - buck up, swallow your pride and make the move! YOU CAN DO IT!
<Was that a good pep talk for you I hope? : ) >
Take what you can get at this point. She's the one who told you to leave and now wont' let you back in and moved Whats up with that. Hope she doesnt have someone else on the side. But if you love her just keep being there and see what happens.
If you love her let it go for a month or 2 more. After that time if she still wants to live separate from you. You should start thinking about divorcing. Because putting it off forever will just cause you more problems.
Dude, the wench set you up and you fell for it. Never believe that a female does anything but for her own good. That is rule one. No matter how nice it seems or how thoughtful it would appear to be, whatever she does for you is always as a means to an end for her. A female is always watching out for themselves and working to gain the advantage, no matter how nice they seem or so forth.
you need to keep talking. Make it clear to her you want to be back to having your marriage including living together. You cant keep on like this, it isnt fair. She is getting all the good parts of the deal and you get the emotional rollercoaster. You need to decide too if you want to and are willing to continue with things as they are. There will be another good woman out there ready to give you what you need, when you are ready to make that transition.
Giving up after 11 years of marriage (with children too) would be a terrible shame and not the best course in my opinion. Clearly life has handed you guys a tough blow right now. SO see it for what it is and don't bale on the most important thing(s) in your life just because life sucks right now. THESE things will pass in time and if you lose sight of what Is MOST important because of a few rough breaks you will certainly live to regret it - as will everyone else.
Keeping together a life long family, uniting in hard times, keeping love strong & secure, learning how to communicate and share and support and encourage eachother in bad times, showing children that FAMILY matters above all else and that marriage is ABOUT sticking it out even when times get rough - COME ON - don't let this go...and for what? Money, pride, discouragement, depression, failure to TALK to eachother?
Your anniversary is coming up? I say USE this an a PRIME opportunity to SHOW her, TELL her, express to her how important she and your family really are. OPEN those channels of communication again - throw pride to the wind and just DO IT. Do something surprise and special for her and TELL HER you love her, you don't want to lose her and your life together, your marriage, your family matter FAR MORE than anything else in the world and you want to MAKE THINGS work and hang together even in these hard times! YOU've got to open those sharing, expressing, talking, honesty communication lines though - she needs to feel loved, wanted, more important than anything else in your world and YOU no doubt need the same thing!
I've been married for 22 years myself - I KNOW from where I speak here. 22 years of marriage doesn't happen without facing and over coming difficulties along the way. Don't be one of those awful sad numbers who gave up when the going got rough and took the EASY WAY OUT (divorce!) - that never fixed anything! COme on - buck up, swallow your pride and make the move! YOU CAN DO IT!
<Was that a good pep talk for you I hope? : ) >
Take what you can get at this point. She's the one who told you to leave and now wont' let you back in and moved Whats up with that. Hope she doesnt have someone else on the side. But if you love her just keep being there and see what happens.
If you love her let it go for a month or 2 more. After that time if she still wants to live separate from you. You should start thinking about divorcing. Because putting it off forever will just cause you more problems.
Dude, the wench set you up and you fell for it. Never believe that a female does anything but for her own good. That is rule one. No matter how nice it seems or how thoughtful it would appear to be, whatever she does for you is always as a means to an end for her. A female is always watching out for themselves and working to gain the advantage, no matter how nice they seem or so forth.
you need to keep talking. Make it clear to her you want to be back to having your marriage including living together. You cant keep on like this, it isnt fair. She is getting all the good parts of the deal and you get the emotional rollercoaster. You need to decide too if you want to and are willing to continue with things as they are. There will be another good woman out there ready to give you what you need, when you are ready to make that transition.
What was the last big argument you had with your spouse and what was it about?
$$$$$ that we dont have and my daughter is getting married this April. He brings it up daily and I just let loose big time. I reminded him his daughter will be getting married herself one day and he will want to do the same.
Um, that he makes me feel unappreciated and unloved because he never has sex with me...
We haven't had a serious argument in months come to think of it.
Our last arguement was over money just two days ago.
He spent money that we don't have ..... on something that we don't need.
Um, that he makes me feel unappreciated and unloved because he never has sex with me...
We haven't had a serious argument in months come to think of it.
Our last arguement was over money just two days ago.
He spent money that we don't have ..... on something that we don't need.
Have you ever fought with your husband or wife over in-laws?
All the time! well, it's not that we fight all the time, but the few times that we've fought are because of my abusive brother in law, a Royal Loser who totally takes advantage of his little brother (my husband) any time he has a chance (we are talking about money, cars, gas, food, toilet paper, phone, clothes, everything, you name it! One time he pawned our car a month after we paid it off, another time he lived in our house while we were on vacation without asking anybody! Instead of going to the grocery store he goes to my pantry, he uses our car when he has to "put miles" in it, he uses our phone so he doesn't use his minutes. ARRRGH!)...... and you know what the worst part is? that it's a lost battle for me, since family ties are stronger than anything in this world (at least for some people). It sucks!!!!!!!!
Yes but we don't anymore. It was more of an "early marriage" issue for us. We've worked through it and gotten past that! After a certain point, it's really pointless to argue over in-laws. The become less of an upfront problem and of a secondary irritant in comparison to the new family you and your spouse are building.
I used to dislike my father-in-law cause I thought he was too interfering and yes it did cause arguments, he was at fault too but then I tried to understand it from his point of views, dads are overprotective no matter if their daughters are 2 years old or 25, we've really made the effort with eachother to get along better and it's worked out best for everyone. It really does feel better just to apologize and start anew, life is too short for causing fights amongst family,
Seth.
My husband fought with his parents over me. He felt his mother had disrespected me and he gathered up our family and left their home. As we were leaving his father threw in a couple of jabs like if we leave like that then don't come back. It took him and his parents a long while to work that one out. She was disrespectful, but I don't think she was smart enough to even know what she was doing.
Red
LOL!! I'm sure almost everyone can say yes.
It's hard and it happens. To be fair, try to keep in mind they came before you in your spouse's life. We sometimes have issues over moms, but I try to remember this: this IS the woman that raised the man I love after all. As long as he remembers that the moment we got married I became #1 (and vice-versa), we are generally ok. Arguments make you grow as a couple as long as you remember the goal of an argument is to better an issue (aka find a bottom line and compromise)...not to fester in it.
My father in law is a nightmare, my husband and him only started speaking again about a year ago, my father in law says things that are totally out of line brings up the past which is unnecessary and makes my husband feel bad its all I can do not to snap.
Yes his are something else and now we don't talk with the SIS inlaws at all and we are both happier with this.
nope, but i've fought with the in laws about my husband. they purely suck ace.. can't stand them
Most every one does at some time or another.
Yes but we don't anymore. It was more of an "early marriage" issue for us. We've worked through it and gotten past that! After a certain point, it's really pointless to argue over in-laws. The become less of an upfront problem and of a secondary irritant in comparison to the new family you and your spouse are building.
I used to dislike my father-in-law cause I thought he was too interfering and yes it did cause arguments, he was at fault too but then I tried to understand it from his point of views, dads are overprotective no matter if their daughters are 2 years old or 25, we've really made the effort with eachother to get along better and it's worked out best for everyone. It really does feel better just to apologize and start anew, life is too short for causing fights amongst family,
Seth.
My husband fought with his parents over me. He felt his mother had disrespected me and he gathered up our family and left their home. As we were leaving his father threw in a couple of jabs like if we leave like that then don't come back. It took him and his parents a long while to work that one out. She was disrespectful, but I don't think she was smart enough to even know what she was doing.
Red
LOL!! I'm sure almost everyone can say yes.
It's hard and it happens. To be fair, try to keep in mind they came before you in your spouse's life. We sometimes have issues over moms, but I try to remember this: this IS the woman that raised the man I love after all. As long as he remembers that the moment we got married I became #1 (and vice-versa), we are generally ok. Arguments make you grow as a couple as long as you remember the goal of an argument is to better an issue (aka find a bottom line and compromise)...not to fester in it.
My father in law is a nightmare, my husband and him only started speaking again about a year ago, my father in law says things that are totally out of line brings up the past which is unnecessary and makes my husband feel bad its all I can do not to snap.
Yes his are something else and now we don't talk with the SIS inlaws at all and we are both happier with this.
nope, but i've fought with the in laws about my husband. they purely suck ace.. can't stand them
Most every one does at some time or another.
Hypothetical Situation...?
I think my new wife is trying to tell me something. She keeps buying phalluses and putting them all over the house. What I mean by that is she is buying toy rockets/cylindrical shaped space ships and putting them on top of the TV and record player, enormously tall wine bottles now litter the top of the fridge and the counters, and a bunch of cylinder shaped pillows all over the bed.
Why is she doing this to me?
She sends me other hints too... like a box of candy for Valentine's Day with a trial pack of enzyte inside. I mean... WTF?
As far as being physical with her goes... we do it at least 4-6 times a night and usually once in the morning... dang!!!!!!! Why me?!?!?!?
cause you are a cone head!
You need to take a few days off and step up the sex. She wants more.
lmao... she got a sense of ha!ha!... most men would be in their glory and your complaining..toughen up soldier
Why is she doing this to me?
She sends me other hints too... like a box of candy for Valentine's Day with a trial pack of enzyte inside. I mean... WTF?
As far as being physical with her goes... we do it at least 4-6 times a night and usually once in the morning... dang!!!!!!! Why me?!?!?!?
cause you are a cone head!
You need to take a few days off and step up the sex. She wants more.
lmao... she got a sense of ha!ha!... most men would be in their glory and your complaining..toughen up soldier
Do you think this could be the end? 10 PTS!?
My wife keeps telling me she loves me. She makes breakfast for me, and she does our clothes. I bring her flowers every few days and I massage her aching shoulders. I work a full-time job and take side work to not only make sure ends meet, but to make sure we have plenty of money to go rent a cabin in the woods for a long romantic weekend together.
The other day I noticed she had bought some "stuff". Could this be the end of our marriage?
Be prepared to be owned.
I don't think it means its the end, it just means she might want to try and live out some weird fantasy with you. Has she mentioned the stuff she bought to you yet, or did you find it? You should just ask her about it. And if she is planning some freaky deaky S & M type stuff, as long as it doesn't make you feel degraded or uncomfortable, maybe you should go for it. After all, you're the only guy she's ever going to have sex with til death do you part, so make her happy. Besides, if you have any naughty fantasies you want her to try out, she'll be much more willing.
What do you mean by stuff?
Sex toys?
Cos that's only the beginning, not the end.
EDIT:
Ok, she obviously is into BDSM or something like that, she obviously feels comfortable enough to share her fantasies with you. Be mature and experience this stuff with her.
Ask her exactly what it is she likes and have a look on the net for info, but it sound like a BDSM or latex fetish...nothing wrong with that!
What kind of stuff?
Ah. In what way is this the end? The handle with the chain and ball is called a mace, by the way. It sounds like she wants to have some fun with some sex games. It's not like it was a real mace, after all. Give it a try. You might like it.
There must be more than that to make you think it the end. How does she act other wise? Maybe she's practicing with the stuff until she's comfortable with it so she can present it to you. Unless there's more I think your in for a good time (if your into that that is).
I guess you are upset because she did not use the stuff on you? Are you thinking that she might be cheating on you? I would have a good talk with her on one of those long romantic weekends in the woods.
If she is not using the stuff with you it is very suspicious. She maybe using it with someone else. I suggest talking to her about the stuff.
If you don't comunicate with her, how would you know and how could you know if there is still a way to work things out.
It depends on what the stuff she bought are?!!?
If your marriage is stable then I do not see why this would be the end of your marriage...
Sorry, you sound like a naive virgin school boy who's insecure about his first girlfriend, LOL.
well did you ask her why she bought what she did? if not then you need to go ask her and get rid of the suspisions that you have.
Honey,
This question is impossible to answer without any idea of what she purchased. Please give details.
Thanks :)
depends on what the stuff is. sit down and have a long heart to heart talk with your wife
maybe she wants to get freaky with ya!
The other day I noticed she had bought some "stuff". Could this be the end of our marriage?
Be prepared to be owned.
I don't think it means its the end, it just means she might want to try and live out some weird fantasy with you. Has she mentioned the stuff she bought to you yet, or did you find it? You should just ask her about it. And if she is planning some freaky deaky S & M type stuff, as long as it doesn't make you feel degraded or uncomfortable, maybe you should go for it. After all, you're the only guy she's ever going to have sex with til death do you part, so make her happy. Besides, if you have any naughty fantasies you want her to try out, she'll be much more willing.
What do you mean by stuff?
Sex toys?
Cos that's only the beginning, not the end.
EDIT:
Ok, she obviously is into BDSM or something like that, she obviously feels comfortable enough to share her fantasies with you. Be mature and experience this stuff with her.
Ask her exactly what it is she likes and have a look on the net for info, but it sound like a BDSM or latex fetish...nothing wrong with that!
What kind of stuff?
Ah. In what way is this the end? The handle with the chain and ball is called a mace, by the way. It sounds like she wants to have some fun with some sex games. It's not like it was a real mace, after all. Give it a try. You might like it.
There must be more than that to make you think it the end. How does she act other wise? Maybe she's practicing with the stuff until she's comfortable with it so she can present it to you. Unless there's more I think your in for a good time (if your into that that is).
I guess you are upset because she did not use the stuff on you? Are you thinking that she might be cheating on you? I would have a good talk with her on one of those long romantic weekends in the woods.
If she is not using the stuff with you it is very suspicious. She maybe using it with someone else. I suggest talking to her about the stuff.
If you don't comunicate with her, how would you know and how could you know if there is still a way to work things out.
It depends on what the stuff she bought are?!!?
If your marriage is stable then I do not see why this would be the end of your marriage...
Sorry, you sound like a naive virgin school boy who's insecure about his first girlfriend, LOL.
well did you ask her why she bought what she did? if not then you need to go ask her and get rid of the suspisions that you have.
Honey,
This question is impossible to answer without any idea of what she purchased. Please give details.
Thanks :)
depends on what the stuff is. sit down and have a long heart to heart talk with your wife
maybe she wants to get freaky with ya!
I was wondering if someone has?
a web cam on would they show a symbol on there messenger??? I'm just wondering, I noticed my husband has one on and I never noticed it before. I'm at work and thought I would ask, maybe I need to sneak home and check huh??????
you should buy a program called specator, they sell it on line or at frys like 50 bucks shows everthing he is doing on the computer from where ever you are and he will not know. it super cool
send him an IM asking him to view his cab , and if he says no then ask what he's doing and who's watching him , and is he watching someone else , but it might be more fun for you to just sneak home and suprise him
Yes I do believe that you can see it on messenger..and yes I would sneak home and see what he is doing if you don't trust him. Or just write him and let him know you see that he has a web cam on..then see what he says ?
u shouldn't head home and check it. install a software that you can see what he's doing. only cost u $10-$30.
you should buy a program called specator, they sell it on line or at frys like 50 bucks shows everthing he is doing on the computer from where ever you are and he will not know. it super cool
send him an IM asking him to view his cab , and if he says no then ask what he's doing and who's watching him , and is he watching someone else , but it might be more fun for you to just sneak home and suprise him
Yes I do believe that you can see it on messenger..and yes I would sneak home and see what he is doing if you don't trust him. Or just write him and let him know you see that he has a web cam on..then see what he says ?
u shouldn't head home and check it. install a software that you can see what he's doing. only cost u $10-$30.
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She denied me back then because she choosed to stay with her abusive bf who hits her and treated her bad and also is a drugi. She lost her v to him at 15. I had not seen her since i was 15 i em now 23. I have a good life , i have a lamborghini, have my own house.
P.s. We had kissed many times, and had sex so she said she was into me but loved her loser bf.
I had not talked to her ever since i changed my #. Note that she treated me bad like ignore me, talk smack like i'm just hating on her. So we stopped talking and got into a fight.
I really want to see her face when she sees me. theres this big party going down this week at my buds house and word is she will be there.
The question is what would you do if you were her in that moment?, and should i approach her or just ignore her and have my bud say you remember him.
If any of you live in Los angeles hit me up. I will invite you!.
Ignore the crap out of her. And if she comes up to you, don't phase her. If you still like her though be nice!
It sounds like u deserve better it shes an adult she made the decision that she was going to stay with her bf that is a druggie and a bad influence. People like that don't normally change and don't want to change. As you said you have a good life don't screw that up trying to get with her again when you could find a woman that is perfect for you that is sensible and caring who really loves you, hope this helps
well i am from in england so don't think i would make it to the party but i really think you play it cool and just pretend you haven't even realized she is there. by the sounds of it she doesn't deserve you as you have tried to be there for her and she obviously isn't ready to make the decision to leave the bf. show her whats she missed out on and have a good time.
I think that if you really wanna see her, then you should approach her and talk to her yourself. See how she's doing, strike up a conversation with her. Who knows maybe you two could be friends, or possibly have a relationship again or something. Are you still interested in her? You never know, could be meant to be for you two to see each other again. good luck.
Never let the girl be the confident one in the relationship...because then she can do whatever the hell she wants and your feelings don't matter. I say forget the past because it sounds like she has a lot of issues. Don't be the kind of guy who "helps you get through your problems". That's a bunch of unnecessary crap that you will have to put up with. Go find yourself a girl you're into and have some fun. You're still young.
You basically answered your own question.... You were young, 8 years have passed and you are doing good for yourself. So do you really want to let someone back into your life that treated you like that? And on the same note, Why should you care if she is there or sees you.... She didn't care then.
You're obviously better off. Keep it that way and remember to keep your head up :)
i live in l.a. ghahahaha but it's really up to you. but as the bigger, better man you should approach her. make small talk. catch up on things and mend your relationship with her
I think you should just leave her be, she has treated you badly and said cruel things. She doesn't really want to leave the abusive bf
Ignore her treat her like she has treated you you were just a back up for her. if you Ignore a women and act like your not interested then they start to chase you
if you want to get back together,just tell her she was always right.girls love to hear their right. if you dont i cant help you.
Ignore her, don't get mixed up with her. I'm not usually a judgmental person but she will most likely screw up your life.
I would sell the Lambo and buy myself a life.
She sounds like a very promiscuous loser!
MOVE ON!
ignore her she doesnt deserve to be talked to by you
well,make sure you show her what she has missed out on. you are better off without her and just be happy.
OK.. WHY? I say just let things happen as they happen. Don't force things one way or another. That was years ago..you both should by now be different people. If you see her, be an adult. Don't let old dried up feelings rule your life. Or are they old and dried up? I think not. I think you want her to think she made a huge mistake and look at you as her knight in shinning armor and if it don't happen you will again be crushed. Save the heartache and expect nothing.. that may be what you will get. And if not proceed with extreme caution, she hurt you before she might just do it again.
How can I say what I would do if I were her? I have no clue as to where her head is or how she feels about you or life in general. There isn't anyway to know. All things will be whats supposed to be.
P.s. We had kissed many times, and had sex so she said she was into me but loved her loser bf.
I had not talked to her ever since i changed my #. Note that she treated me bad like ignore me, talk smack like i'm just hating on her. So we stopped talking and got into a fight.
I really want to see her face when she sees me. theres this big party going down this week at my buds house and word is she will be there.
The question is what would you do if you were her in that moment?, and should i approach her or just ignore her and have my bud say you remember him.
If any of you live in Los angeles hit me up. I will invite you!.
Ignore the crap out of her. And if she comes up to you, don't phase her. If you still like her though be nice!
It sounds like u deserve better it shes an adult she made the decision that she was going to stay with her bf that is a druggie and a bad influence. People like that don't normally change and don't want to change. As you said you have a good life don't screw that up trying to get with her again when you could find a woman that is perfect for you that is sensible and caring who really loves you, hope this helps
well i am from in england so don't think i would make it to the party but i really think you play it cool and just pretend you haven't even realized she is there. by the sounds of it she doesn't deserve you as you have tried to be there for her and she obviously isn't ready to make the decision to leave the bf. show her whats she missed out on and have a good time.
I think that if you really wanna see her, then you should approach her and talk to her yourself. See how she's doing, strike up a conversation with her. Who knows maybe you two could be friends, or possibly have a relationship again or something. Are you still interested in her? You never know, could be meant to be for you two to see each other again. good luck.
Never let the girl be the confident one in the relationship...because then she can do whatever the hell she wants and your feelings don't matter. I say forget the past because it sounds like she has a lot of issues. Don't be the kind of guy who "helps you get through your problems". That's a bunch of unnecessary crap that you will have to put up with. Go find yourself a girl you're into and have some fun. You're still young.
You basically answered your own question.... You were young, 8 years have passed and you are doing good for yourself. So do you really want to let someone back into your life that treated you like that? And on the same note, Why should you care if she is there or sees you.... She didn't care then.
You're obviously better off. Keep it that way and remember to keep your head up :)
i live in l.a. ghahahaha but it's really up to you. but as the bigger, better man you should approach her. make small talk. catch up on things and mend your relationship with her
I think you should just leave her be, she has treated you badly and said cruel things. She doesn't really want to leave the abusive bf
Ignore her treat her like she has treated you you were just a back up for her. if you Ignore a women and act like your not interested then they start to chase you
if you want to get back together,just tell her she was always right.girls love to hear their right. if you dont i cant help you.
Ignore her, don't get mixed up with her. I'm not usually a judgmental person but she will most likely screw up your life.
I would sell the Lambo and buy myself a life.
She sounds like a very promiscuous loser!
MOVE ON!
ignore her she doesnt deserve to be talked to by you
well,make sure you show her what she has missed out on. you are better off without her and just be happy.
OK.. WHY? I say just let things happen as they happen. Don't force things one way or another. That was years ago..you both should by now be different people. If you see her, be an adult. Don't let old dried up feelings rule your life. Or are they old and dried up? I think not. I think you want her to think she made a huge mistake and look at you as her knight in shinning armor and if it don't happen you will again be crushed. Save the heartache and expect nothing.. that may be what you will get. And if not proceed with extreme caution, she hurt you before she might just do it again.
How can I say what I would do if I were her? I have no clue as to where her head is or how she feels about you or life in general. There isn't anyway to know. All things will be whats supposed to be.
Is this wrong of me to get back at my in-laws?
OK i just married my wife back 3 weeks ago we just got back from the honeymoon and well i am still peeved at her family because before the wedding when we had like her whole family down for it and all well i had just gotten a great dane puppy a second one and well her dad just kicks it as hard as he can because he got mad at spike(my dog) for wanting to be petted and all that made me so mad her family has like screwed with me from day one but its just i am so fed up with it all and my wife is pregnant with twins(Nicholas James mercer and Kristen Lean Mercer do on August 13th) and well i am so mad at her family still that i told my wife that i don't want the twins any were near them because i am tiered of this BS...... i mean some of my friends have told me i am wrong to use my kids as leverage and a weapon but i don't see it like that..... i am just wanting to know what every1 else thinks
You wrote;
....her dad just kicks (dog) as hard as he can because he got mad at spike(my dog) for wanting to be petted...
Her dad is a very disturbed man for REAL...and he must always be avoided by you. He will do to the kids what he did to the dog.... Don;t let this go by! Any of it!!! Get into marriage counseling and tell the counselor all the abuses they have heaped on you and the dog, and etc.
This must be agreed to fast and your wife must agree to keep them at bay. If she insists in their coming over, and you forgetting the matters,l you leave! Stay out until they are gone if they are in your home, certainly, don't go near them....If they show at your door, do not let them in. If they keep ringing, call the cops!!! They are abusive and dangerous, and YOUR wife must take a stand against them, and she Will be met with their anger, but you are her NEW family...
Her dad need psychiatric tests at an adult psych unit of a hospital for emotional and behavioral disorders, plus the 6 anxiety disorders and probably ongoing therapy and medication maybe from a psychiatrist. for REAL~!!!Don;t let this go.
If wife will NOT go to counseling with you, and don't get made when you ask her, just be very insistent, if she Still refuses, YOU GO ALONE
The marriage, that case, might be dead if she will not side with your never having to be near them because of their abuse...
Another option: move 1200 miles or more away. Also, you MUST tonight go to cops and report in full what he did to dog, and you in the past, and then call ASPCA toll free number, and report and file a complaint against him.
take Dog to vet and have story written down by doc and have dog checked out. Use the official report against him, in court. He is a maniac for real. His wife is probably afraid of him, but he will surely put his foot down if he doesn;t get his way. YOUR WIFE MUST totally be on your side only. YOU CANNOT be their target of abuse EVER again.
It's due not do. A man who would kick a puppy isn't much of a man. However, these people will be in your life until they die and your wife loves them, so try to get over it. I hope he's better with babies than he is with dogs.
yes you are wrong don't put your kids in that mess.
As a "victim" of meddlesome stupid former in laws I say do what you like!
It is a pitty you didn't kick the father in law how dare he.
Please do not hold the children as a lever against them, remember they are your wife's family. What dose the wife think you should do?
That is what is important not what everyone else thinks.
When the children do arrive take the in-law aside tell them what you are feeling and hopefully the past can be left behind and you can start a new. If they are not prepared to make any changes you will then need to do what ever you have to. Good luck
You wrote;
....her dad just kicks (dog) as hard as he can because he got mad at spike(my dog) for wanting to be petted...
Her dad is a very disturbed man for REAL...and he must always be avoided by you. He will do to the kids what he did to the dog.... Don;t let this go by! Any of it!!! Get into marriage counseling and tell the counselor all the abuses they have heaped on you and the dog, and etc.
This must be agreed to fast and your wife must agree to keep them at bay. If she insists in their coming over, and you forgetting the matters,l you leave! Stay out until they are gone if they are in your home, certainly, don't go near them....If they show at your door, do not let them in. If they keep ringing, call the cops!!! They are abusive and dangerous, and YOUR wife must take a stand against them, and she Will be met with their anger, but you are her NEW family...
Her dad need psychiatric tests at an adult psych unit of a hospital for emotional and behavioral disorders, plus the 6 anxiety disorders and probably ongoing therapy and medication maybe from a psychiatrist. for REAL~!!!Don;t let this go.
If wife will NOT go to counseling with you, and don't get made when you ask her, just be very insistent, if she Still refuses, YOU GO ALONE
The marriage, that case, might be dead if she will not side with your never having to be near them because of their abuse...
Another option: move 1200 miles or more away. Also, you MUST tonight go to cops and report in full what he did to dog, and you in the past, and then call ASPCA toll free number, and report and file a complaint against him.
take Dog to vet and have story written down by doc and have dog checked out. Use the official report against him, in court. He is a maniac for real. His wife is probably afraid of him, but he will surely put his foot down if he doesn;t get his way. YOUR WIFE MUST totally be on your side only. YOU CANNOT be their target of abuse EVER again.
It's due not do. A man who would kick a puppy isn't much of a man. However, these people will be in your life until they die and your wife loves them, so try to get over it. I hope he's better with babies than he is with dogs.
yes you are wrong don't put your kids in that mess.
As a "victim" of meddlesome stupid former in laws I say do what you like!
It is a pitty you didn't kick the father in law how dare he.
Please do not hold the children as a lever against them, remember they are your wife's family. What dose the wife think you should do?
That is what is important not what everyone else thinks.
When the children do arrive take the in-law aside tell them what you are feeling and hopefully the past can be left behind and you can start a new. If they are not prepared to make any changes you will then need to do what ever you have to. Good luck
Does he see me as his future wife?
yesterday i was on the phone with my new bf and he made a joke about something and i said to him that i have pity with his future wife, he said wat r u talking about? dont u wanna be my future wife? i said "yes but maybe later ur gonna dump me and stuff". he said then that i never have to be insecure about us and that he is being serious about us. he then asked me at wat age i wanted to have his kids, i told him at 26yrs and he said oohh i thought 23yrs and we laughed.
but am now kinda wondering, is he seeing me as his future wife and mother of his kids or wat? wat do u guys think? we are both19 and still go to school
He may see you as the person he wants to spend the rest of his life with. Yes your only 19 but that doesn't mean it couldn't happen! I'm married to the man i started dating when we were both 16 and we have 2 kids and very happy so if this is something you want go for it!! It could work out for you!
Many poeple say things when they are in a weird situation like that, that they might think is what they want at the time but your mind is always changing. If you are ment to be with one another, things will turn out how they are ment to be. It is all time. I wouldn't worry about it because things in life should not be pre planned. One day you will see
He really likes you and is just "testing the water" to see how you feel about him. Anything is possible down the line and it sounds like in his mind you are someone that he could see a future with. just give it some time....good luck.
He is giving you respect and honesty and loves you. It might change so enjoy it but dont worry about it. Let things happen naturally. But if he is really new then be careful.
Probably, which is normal at your age. Just keep talking about it for a while and just focus on school and having fun for now.
Whatever. Even if he is serious, you are 19. It will change. And there's no reason to settle down at 19 anyway.
He probably loves u that much that he (NOW) wants u 2 become his future wife...
Ure at the beginning- it's hard 2 find out if u r or not, U'll find out in a few years..
Stop worrying and just enjoy yourself. You'll find out soon enough, no need to rush.
He said you don't have to be insecure about us and that he is serious,so.....there is your answer.
why don't you ask him. can't you talk to him.
NO
Nope honey...he is probably stil crazy about new love so dont get ur hopes high out of this.
but am now kinda wondering, is he seeing me as his future wife and mother of his kids or wat? wat do u guys think? we are both19 and still go to school
He may see you as the person he wants to spend the rest of his life with. Yes your only 19 but that doesn't mean it couldn't happen! I'm married to the man i started dating when we were both 16 and we have 2 kids and very happy so if this is something you want go for it!! It could work out for you!
Many poeple say things when they are in a weird situation like that, that they might think is what they want at the time but your mind is always changing. If you are ment to be with one another, things will turn out how they are ment to be. It is all time. I wouldn't worry about it because things in life should not be pre planned. One day you will see
He really likes you and is just "testing the water" to see how you feel about him. Anything is possible down the line and it sounds like in his mind you are someone that he could see a future with. just give it some time....good luck.
He is giving you respect and honesty and loves you. It might change so enjoy it but dont worry about it. Let things happen naturally. But if he is really new then be careful.
Probably, which is normal at your age. Just keep talking about it for a while and just focus on school and having fun for now.
Whatever. Even if he is serious, you are 19. It will change. And there's no reason to settle down at 19 anyway.
He probably loves u that much that he (NOW) wants u 2 become his future wife...
Ure at the beginning- it's hard 2 find out if u r or not, U'll find out in a few years..
Stop worrying and just enjoy yourself. You'll find out soon enough, no need to rush.
He said you don't have to be insecure about us and that he is serious,so.....there is your answer.
why don't you ask him. can't you talk to him.
NO
Nope honey...he is probably stil crazy about new love so dont get ur hopes high out of this.
How long after being married did you wait to have children?
What do you mean waited? Ever heard of a shotgun wedding?
im getting married in september and we have always said we wnat at the most 5 years to be together and enjoy being amrried and just the 2 of us. we wanna travela nd do things like that before we have kids... make sure you have time togteher.. you should wait atleats like a yeara dn a half or 2. enjoy this time you have alone with your hubby! :)
I waited 3 years. It was great. You both should agree on it so noone(usually the man) is surprised when it happens.
We are waiting a year. I would have waited longer but I just turned 31 and want/need to get started!
I've been married 2 1/2 years and i still do not have kids...
2 yrs
5 years. Best thing we ever did.
at least 9 months :)
im getting married in september and we have always said we wnat at the most 5 years to be together and enjoy being amrried and just the 2 of us. we wanna travela nd do things like that before we have kids... make sure you have time togteher.. you should wait atleats like a yeara dn a half or 2. enjoy this time you have alone with your hubby! :)
I waited 3 years. It was great. You both should agree on it so noone(usually the man) is surprised when it happens.
We are waiting a year. I would have waited longer but I just turned 31 and want/need to get started!
I've been married 2 1/2 years and i still do not have kids...
2 yrs
5 years. Best thing we ever did.
at least 9 months :)
Has your guy ever played with or seemed interested in your bras and undies when you weren
My new guy seems very interested in my panty drawer! LOL!
never been interested in my gfs panties, but more about getting them off her.
I have been dressed up as a girl though, it was kinda fun (halloween) she made me go all out, shaved legs, bra, panties, heels, makeup, you name it. Its what i get for saying "you buy it, and ill wear it"
Well, it does seem a little unusual.
No my husband is scared of bras....can't work them. LOL
I would be a little concerned if I were you.
down rite strange!!!!!!!!!!!
never been interested in my gfs panties, but more about getting them off her.
I have been dressed up as a girl though, it was kinda fun (halloween) she made me go all out, shaved legs, bra, panties, heels, makeup, you name it. Its what i get for saying "you buy it, and ill wear it"
Well, it does seem a little unusual.
No my husband is scared of bras....can't work them. LOL
I would be a little concerned if I were you.
down rite strange!!!!!!!!!!!
How do you make the first time hurt less?
I have herd the first time of sex hurts like hell. How do you make the first time hurt less? I really want to know.
Get married first.
There%26#039;s only one way, penetration. I%26#039;ve heard that you can do it yourself with a sex toy, but it%26#039;s gonna hurt either way. I guess the only good thing about that option is that you won%26#039;t have the negative memory of the first guy who did that. Inevitably, the pain ruins that first experience, especially if he freaks out from the blood.
Lubrication for sure. Foreplay would help with that too. It will draw blood to the area and offer the body%26#039;s natural lubrication. But it will hurt a bit still probably. Not like hell. And it gets better after that. Just relax as much as you can. See if you can start off with a massage or something like that.
its not as bad as you think but yes it hurts for one be 100% sure you are ready take your time lots of foreplay relax don%26#039;t hold your breath take long deep breath inhale and then at that moment exhale don%26#039;t tense up i know that%26#039;s hard to say but it is a muscle if you tense up it will hurt even more make sure your partner knows to take it slow because it is your first time use lots of lubrication ky jelly%26#039;s good and take your time i cant say it enough slow is better make sure you are extremely turned on (you may even want to consider asking him to finger you with alot of lube just slowly ) when you are ready for it to begin let him know and at first just ask him to insert the head a couple times the a lil more then a lil as you are ready make sure you are in a place where you can relax and if need be make noise scream yell whatever you feel inside at that moment let it out enjoy it just be sure you are comfortable and ready good luck have fun!
Do it with the person you really love. Don%26#039;t do it just because your friends do it. Just keep your focus on your passion for your partner, and you%26#039;ll never notice the pain of %26quot;first-entry%26quot;.
A very good foreplay will do. Romantic setting. no one is forced or pressured to do it.
i hope you%26#039;re already of legal age to have sex... if you%26#039;re too young, it sure would hurt like hell..
No it does not. what hurts you is the wrong belief that you think it will.
don%26#039;t worry and relax.
when I had sex the first time I was so tense that it took my boyfriend hours. then I did not even feel it. ( I mean the hurt : )))
It doesn%26#039;t hurt at all. Trust me, I%26#039;m sure all your friends are telling you all kinds of crap about sex, I bet none of them have had it! Don%26#039;t worry about it, no it won%26#039;t hurt you, either of you!
Make sure your partner is poorly endowed, use lots of lube, and go very slowly.
buy KY lubricant at walgreens. have fun.
take it very slow and easy. Make sure your heart is in it all the way and your body will answer.
Honestly, I don%26#039;t even remember if it did or not now. It was almost 20 years ago-lol.
I definitely would%26#039;ve been wiser with the person and the timing though :(
Try to relax, don%26#039;t rush it, and use some lube :)
kiss and cuddle a lot and for a long time.. and take it slow... i hope you%26#039;re a major!!
%0D%0A
Get married first.
There%26#039;s only one way, penetration. I%26#039;ve heard that you can do it yourself with a sex toy, but it%26#039;s gonna hurt either way. I guess the only good thing about that option is that you won%26#039;t have the negative memory of the first guy who did that. Inevitably, the pain ruins that first experience, especially if he freaks out from the blood.
Lubrication for sure. Foreplay would help with that too. It will draw blood to the area and offer the body%26#039;s natural lubrication. But it will hurt a bit still probably. Not like hell. And it gets better after that. Just relax as much as you can. See if you can start off with a massage or something like that.
its not as bad as you think but yes it hurts for one be 100% sure you are ready take your time lots of foreplay relax don%26#039;t hold your breath take long deep breath inhale and then at that moment exhale don%26#039;t tense up i know that%26#039;s hard to say but it is a muscle if you tense up it will hurt even more make sure your partner knows to take it slow because it is your first time use lots of lubrication ky jelly%26#039;s good and take your time i cant say it enough slow is better make sure you are extremely turned on (you may even want to consider asking him to finger you with alot of lube just slowly ) when you are ready for it to begin let him know and at first just ask him to insert the head a couple times the a lil more then a lil as you are ready make sure you are in a place where you can relax and if need be make noise scream yell whatever you feel inside at that moment let it out enjoy it just be sure you are comfortable and ready good luck have fun!
Do it with the person you really love. Don%26#039;t do it just because your friends do it. Just keep your focus on your passion for your partner, and you%26#039;ll never notice the pain of %26quot;first-entry%26quot;.
A very good foreplay will do. Romantic setting. no one is forced or pressured to do it.
i hope you%26#039;re already of legal age to have sex... if you%26#039;re too young, it sure would hurt like hell..
No it does not. what hurts you is the wrong belief that you think it will.
don%26#039;t worry and relax.
when I had sex the first time I was so tense that it took my boyfriend hours. then I did not even feel it. ( I mean the hurt : )))
It doesn%26#039;t hurt at all. Trust me, I%26#039;m sure all your friends are telling you all kinds of crap about sex, I bet none of them have had it! Don%26#039;t worry about it, no it won%26#039;t hurt you, either of you!
Make sure your partner is poorly endowed, use lots of lube, and go very slowly.
buy KY lubricant at walgreens. have fun.
take it very slow and easy. Make sure your heart is in it all the way and your body will answer.
Honestly, I don%26#039;t even remember if it did or not now. It was almost 20 years ago-lol.
I definitely would%26#039;ve been wiser with the person and the timing though :(
Try to relax, don%26#039;t rush it, and use some lube :)
kiss and cuddle a lot and for a long time.. and take it slow... i hope you%26#039;re a major!!
%0D%0A
How many women husbands in the military on active duty divorce them when they are away?
I have heard of several cases of this happening. The man in the army on station in iraq, she gets lonely because hes away so much so she files for divorce and gets the child and hes just *ucked
It seems very vicious of a woman to do to him so how comon is that
Sadly, and apparently this does happen frequently. I do feel like it's a little harsh of a woman to do, but I've never been put in that position so I can't really judge. I do think it's important that a woman be self sufficient in general before getting married, but ESPECIALLY in a marriage where the husband is in the military, as he more than likely will be spending alot of time away from home. I have family members that are military and it can be very difficult being left alone especially if you have children.
It seems very vicious of a woman to do to him so how comon is that
Sadly, and apparently this does happen frequently. I do feel like it's a little harsh of a woman to do, but I've never been put in that position so I can't really judge. I do think it's important that a woman be self sufficient in general before getting married, but ESPECIALLY in a marriage where the husband is in the military, as he more than likely will be spending alot of time away from home. I have family members that are military and it can be very difficult being left alone especially if you have children.
If a couple signs their legal forms for getting married ....?
but for whatever reason the ceremony is not completed .. they never say their "I do" .. then what status are they in ? Married? Or what ?
In PA you fill out an application, then you get your marriage license, you have 60 days to use it, if not, then it's void. If the license was signed by someone that had the authority to do it then it was legal and is are considered married.
The forms have to be signed by the legal official that oversaw the vows. Also, the forms have to be filed with the courthouse.
If all of that happened, they are married - ceremony or not.
I think they would be married? Do you mean their marriage liscense?
In PA you fill out an application, then you get your marriage license, you have 60 days to use it, if not, then it's void. If the license was signed by someone that had the authority to do it then it was legal and is are considered married.
The forms have to be signed by the legal official that oversaw the vows. Also, the forms have to be filed with the courthouse.
If all of that happened, they are married - ceremony or not.
I think they would be married? Do you mean their marriage liscense?
Should I tell my niece her husband is cheating on her?
My daughter and her husband already saw her fiancee at the time kissing another girl and she married him any way. Now it's happening again. My nephew walked in on her husband with another woman, but no ones talking or telling her. I don't know what to do because this is my sisters daughter. I really don't want to get in the middle of any of it and I've been trying to talk my nephew into talking but I'm not even sure if I should be doing that. I'm scared my niece is going to get an STD or something.
Any advice would be greatly appreciated.
Talk to your sister. Telling your niece is not a good idea, because first she won't believe you, and when she realizes it's true (IF she does), she will resent you. It would be better coming from her mom.
Not logical, but common.
I would stay out of it. The messenger often gets shot.
If your ex-husband was able to keep cheating for 4 years without you getting any kind of a gut feeling that something's not right, he must be exceptionally (even pathologically) good at leading a double life. Most people give away their true character one way or another; you don't have to "walk in" on someone to know if they respect you and value you or not.
If it were me I would have to tell! Maybe she could forgive the kissing thing, and he probably fed her some line about being nervous about the wedding and needed to feel like he could still be attractive to other women BLAH< BLAH<BLAH!!! But now that they are married I think she really needs to know NOT just because of an STD but because its her husband and he should be faithful to his wife!
Why are those who are really concerned always the last ones to hear? This is a hard question: you shouldn't get involved in their marital affairs, but then again this is so mean to her. I'd talk to him first I think, and tell him everybody knows about his ways and you are about to tell your niece, unless he is man enough to tell her himself. Who knows they have a mutual arrangement to have lovers at the side?
No. You mind your own business and here is why: She knew he was unfaithful and married him anyway. She should be getting tested for STDS since they haven't been married long, they both could have picked something up long beforehand. What will happen is that you will tell her, she will forgive him and you will no longer be allowed to darken their doorstep (as they will put it). Not to mention the rest of the family will see you as a budinsky and a home wrecker of a different kind. Your treading dangerous waters on this one.
Your niece is your first priority. You should tell her what her husband is doing and then leave it alone. She is an adult if she decides to stay with him after she realizes what he is doing then that's her problem; you did your part. But you cannot stand by and let this happen. Talk to her and tell her what you know.
Not only should you tell her ASAP, but tell her with the people who also know about the cheating. Like your nephew. The more people she sees that *know* he's cheating on her, the more she'll believe you guys. You're her family; & she can't deny the truth from her family.
Good luck, & I'm sorry you've been put in this position.
tell her fast. she needs to know what she's dealing with. only then can she assess the situation and decide what to do about her marriage. i think if she finds out that you knew and didn't tell her she will be really hurt and feel like everyone is laughing behind her back. i am sure that you don't want to hurt her but if you really love her do it
Yes you need to tell her, as uncomfortable as it may be for you to get in the middle. She has a right to know, especially before children get involved, if she doesn't have any yet. Let her make an informed decision as to whether or not she wants to stay in the marriage.
Look at it this way:
This is your niece, she is related to you, blood for crying out loud. She needs to know what is going on. It would be different if it were some stranger or someone who isn't related but you need to tell her!! How would you feel if it were your daughter and she didn't know? Good luck!!
say nothing
I'm not kidding.
If you say something, this is going to EXPLODE in your face.
all those people who told you to tell her? I will bet you that NONE OF THEM are adults. I'll bet you that EVERY ONE OF THEM is still in their teenage years. Head in the clouds, not understanding psychology in the slightest degree.
see Mrs. G's answer? THAT is the thinking of an ADULT! You children who know nothing about real life...just wait. It's NOTHING like what you think it is.
Yes, wouldn't you want to know? She might be mad or not believe you, but at least the idea will be in her head and hopefully she'll realize that he's no good. Everyone handles these types of situations differently, but she needs to know like ASAP.
Talk to your neice. She will more than likely respect and listen to you over the other person. Tell her your worried for her, express your concerns. And let her know you are there for her! If I was in her position and my aunt knew something like that and didn't tell me, I'd be sooooo mad!
Well sometimes the truth hurts but ultimatley it is what you need to hear. I would not hesitate to tell someone but only because I would want to know. If I knew my friends were hiding something like that from me I would consider that a betrayal.
mind your own business. others know and by diffusion, she will hear of it all soon enuf. the poster who said you will be the one hated is right. if it comes from you in any way, you will be blamed.
mind your own business.
I would tell your sister and let her give her daughter the information. It's a lot easier to break down in front of your mother and you're more likely to take advice from a parent than anyone else.
Talk to your sister... and then the two of you can talk to your niece.
She needs to be told... how would you feel if your family knew that you were getting cheated on and did nothing?
You should get your nephew to tell her husband that he knows and give him a chance to come clean, then if the husband won't tell her he's cheating and tell her how you know he's cheating.
Put yourself in her shoes. Wouldn't you want to know? If she finds out you knew and didn't tell her she will be hurt even more.
Tell and don't get a child to do this! I would tell and what she does with it is her business but make sure the kids are safe!
Smooches
You should tell her she has a right to know. sometimes when we are in love we are blind to what that person is doing. If she does nothing after you tell her then its her lost.
Duh!!! YES!
I am very glad you mentioned the STD because that is what I was going to bring up when I saw your question. Not only can she get an STD but do you want to wait for her to find out after he gets some other woman pregnant and it is all the harder on her? She simply has to be told. What amazes me is that your nephew walked in on him and he did not get scared enough to admit it to her himself! That sure is arrogant. The fact is, she is going to find out eventually what kind of a man he is. Don't let years of her life pass by wasting her time with this man before she has a chance to be aware and do something about it. Don't let her get sick or die from whatever diseases he could be bringing home. Tell her....it is the right thing to do.
If its for real and no doubt that her husband is cheating. Then you could do a couple of things.
A) talk to him and tell him that everyone knows and give him a week say to tell his wife.
B) tell her, she will be mad and i bet she will take it out on you, "dont shoot the messenger" . However there are enough people who have seen this.
C) tell her in front of husband, again sparks may fly. but you have truth on your side.
D) tell your sister, her mum, let her break the news maybe with you there.
She may choose to stay with him and believe he wont do it again, thats her choice so be prepared for that.
I for one would like to know if i was being cheated on so i could end the relationship. I believe in trust, and unless they entered a relationship with certain rules that its ok to have outside relations, then she should know.
This is quite the predicament for you and I understand where you are coming from. I have 6 nieces and nephews and I would tell them in a heartbeat. Family always comes first no matter what and imagine yourself in the same situation and how you would feel if your niece knew and didn't tell you. I think it hurts even worse than the cheating to discover someone close to you knew and never told you. My nephew was faced with this a few years ago when he called my husband and said a female answered that wasn't me and he was scared to tell me, but the first thing he said was "you know I love you right" then he told me what happened. I was never angry at him for telling me and it actually prevented quite a heartache for me.
Any advice would be greatly appreciated.
Talk to your sister. Telling your niece is not a good idea, because first she won't believe you, and when she realizes it's true (IF she does), she will resent you. It would be better coming from her mom.
Not logical, but common.
I would stay out of it. The messenger often gets shot.
If your ex-husband was able to keep cheating for 4 years without you getting any kind of a gut feeling that something's not right, he must be exceptionally (even pathologically) good at leading a double life. Most people give away their true character one way or another; you don't have to "walk in" on someone to know if they respect you and value you or not.
If it were me I would have to tell! Maybe she could forgive the kissing thing, and he probably fed her some line about being nervous about the wedding and needed to feel like he could still be attractive to other women BLAH< BLAH<BLAH!!! But now that they are married I think she really needs to know NOT just because of an STD but because its her husband and he should be faithful to his wife!
Why are those who are really concerned always the last ones to hear? This is a hard question: you shouldn't get involved in their marital affairs, but then again this is so mean to her. I'd talk to him first I think, and tell him everybody knows about his ways and you are about to tell your niece, unless he is man enough to tell her himself. Who knows they have a mutual arrangement to have lovers at the side?
No. You mind your own business and here is why: She knew he was unfaithful and married him anyway. She should be getting tested for STDS since they haven't been married long, they both could have picked something up long beforehand. What will happen is that you will tell her, she will forgive him and you will no longer be allowed to darken their doorstep (as they will put it). Not to mention the rest of the family will see you as a budinsky and a home wrecker of a different kind. Your treading dangerous waters on this one.
Your niece is your first priority. You should tell her what her husband is doing and then leave it alone. She is an adult if she decides to stay with him after she realizes what he is doing then that's her problem; you did your part. But you cannot stand by and let this happen. Talk to her and tell her what you know.
Not only should you tell her ASAP, but tell her with the people who also know about the cheating. Like your nephew. The more people she sees that *know* he's cheating on her, the more she'll believe you guys. You're her family; & she can't deny the truth from her family.
Good luck, & I'm sorry you've been put in this position.
tell her fast. she needs to know what she's dealing with. only then can she assess the situation and decide what to do about her marriage. i think if she finds out that you knew and didn't tell her she will be really hurt and feel like everyone is laughing behind her back. i am sure that you don't want to hurt her but if you really love her do it
Yes you need to tell her, as uncomfortable as it may be for you to get in the middle. She has a right to know, especially before children get involved, if she doesn't have any yet. Let her make an informed decision as to whether or not she wants to stay in the marriage.
Look at it this way:
This is your niece, she is related to you, blood for crying out loud. She needs to know what is going on. It would be different if it were some stranger or someone who isn't related but you need to tell her!! How would you feel if it were your daughter and she didn't know? Good luck!!
say nothing
I'm not kidding.
If you say something, this is going to EXPLODE in your face.
all those people who told you to tell her? I will bet you that NONE OF THEM are adults. I'll bet you that EVERY ONE OF THEM is still in their teenage years. Head in the clouds, not understanding psychology in the slightest degree.
see Mrs. G's answer? THAT is the thinking of an ADULT! You children who know nothing about real life...just wait. It's NOTHING like what you think it is.
Yes, wouldn't you want to know? She might be mad or not believe you, but at least the idea will be in her head and hopefully she'll realize that he's no good. Everyone handles these types of situations differently, but she needs to know like ASAP.
Talk to your neice. She will more than likely respect and listen to you over the other person. Tell her your worried for her, express your concerns. And let her know you are there for her! If I was in her position and my aunt knew something like that and didn't tell me, I'd be sooooo mad!
Well sometimes the truth hurts but ultimatley it is what you need to hear. I would not hesitate to tell someone but only because I would want to know. If I knew my friends were hiding something like that from me I would consider that a betrayal.
mind your own business. others know and by diffusion, she will hear of it all soon enuf. the poster who said you will be the one hated is right. if it comes from you in any way, you will be blamed.
mind your own business.
I would tell your sister and let her give her daughter the information. It's a lot easier to break down in front of your mother and you're more likely to take advice from a parent than anyone else.
Talk to your sister... and then the two of you can talk to your niece.
She needs to be told... how would you feel if your family knew that you were getting cheated on and did nothing?
You should get your nephew to tell her husband that he knows and give him a chance to come clean, then if the husband won't tell her he's cheating and tell her how you know he's cheating.
Put yourself in her shoes. Wouldn't you want to know? If she finds out you knew and didn't tell her she will be hurt even more.
Tell and don't get a child to do this! I would tell and what she does with it is her business but make sure the kids are safe!
Smooches
You should tell her she has a right to know. sometimes when we are in love we are blind to what that person is doing. If she does nothing after you tell her then its her lost.
Duh!!! YES!
I am very glad you mentioned the STD because that is what I was going to bring up when I saw your question. Not only can she get an STD but do you want to wait for her to find out after he gets some other woman pregnant and it is all the harder on her? She simply has to be told. What amazes me is that your nephew walked in on him and he did not get scared enough to admit it to her himself! That sure is arrogant. The fact is, she is going to find out eventually what kind of a man he is. Don't let years of her life pass by wasting her time with this man before she has a chance to be aware and do something about it. Don't let her get sick or die from whatever diseases he could be bringing home. Tell her....it is the right thing to do.
If its for real and no doubt that her husband is cheating. Then you could do a couple of things.
A) talk to him and tell him that everyone knows and give him a week say to tell his wife.
B) tell her, she will be mad and i bet she will take it out on you, "dont shoot the messenger" . However there are enough people who have seen this.
C) tell her in front of husband, again sparks may fly. but you have truth on your side.
D) tell your sister, her mum, let her break the news maybe with you there.
She may choose to stay with him and believe he wont do it again, thats her choice so be prepared for that.
I for one would like to know if i was being cheated on so i could end the relationship. I believe in trust, and unless they entered a relationship with certain rules that its ok to have outside relations, then she should know.
This is quite the predicament for you and I understand where you are coming from. I have 6 nieces and nephews and I would tell them in a heartbeat. Family always comes first no matter what and imagine yourself in the same situation and how you would feel if your niece knew and didn't tell you. I think it hurts even worse than the cheating to discover someone close to you knew and never told you. My nephew was faced with this a few years ago when he called my husband and said a female answered that wasn't me and he was scared to tell me, but the first thing he said was "you know I love you right" then he told me what happened. I was never angry at him for telling me and it actually prevented quite a heartache for me.
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