Hey. Me and my exgirlfriend have already broken up twice. We just had our second breakup. We broke up because I was neglecting her. Now, I realize I really want her back but she is hesitant. She says I have a drug and alcohol problem, and I said I'll fix it but I've made her feel so lonely in the past she doesnt want to jump right back into things. We agreed we need time apart to work on ourselves and then we could "see" each other again. I don't know if she meant "see" like be with, or "see" like just hang out again.
I want to be with her, but I agree I do need to sort out things in my life (graduation, jobs, substance abuse, etc). She said just give her time, and I said OK because it is naturally going to take some time for me to change. I've already decided to stop using substances, not just for her, but for myself. I told her I'd contact her when I thought I was different. She said if I contact her too soon she won't pick up.
What does this mean? Is our relationship over forever? Whens the best time I can call her again?
This is a really big reality check for you, buddy, and you need to recognize it. Not only are you going to lose this relationship if you don't smarten up, but you're going to lose a lot of other things in your life if you don't clean yourself up and do it fast.
Of course she is hesitant to take you back. If you are doing drugs and drinking, you ARE neglecting her, and she deserves better. By doing drugs and drinking all the time, you are showing her that you care more about this, than you do her. And she deserves better than that. She probably still cares about you, enough where she wants to give you some space so that you will come clean. She wants to give you enough time so that when and if you do get back together, she won't have a huge sense of deja vu, and the whole situation will relapse.
She wants you to come clean for good. You need to do whatever you want to do to come completely clean, and keep clean. Give this girl the space that she wants; and a good amount of space. Wait several months of being clean, and then start off slow again becuase you need to rebuild your relationship with her. It's almost like starting from scratch.
You need to prove to her that she is worth coming clean for, and you want to do it for yourself as well. Prove to her that the relationship means something to you.
Yeah I've been in the same situation as her.
Just take it slow and see how it'll work out.
You should really try to work on your drinking and drugs.
That could always help her think more about how you are trying
to make things better for yourself but also for you two.
Move on.You need help getting rid of your addisction.from one addict to the other you must find the cause of you addiction before you can kick it
WHY???? Do people want to live with such drama and disfunction? I just dont get it.
kick the habit quick or she's gone for good
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