Would you rather give up your spouse OR all of your retirement savings, pensions, assets, etc.?

Now that's a tough call. I'd have to work till death OR lose the wife and retire at 65 or so.





Of course, at 65 my wife will be an old bag -- so show me the money!



oh that is really sad. i would live in a box under a bridge if that was the only way i could be with my fella. if he told me tomorrow that he wants to live in a tent and train hop through canada, i would gladly go with him. because being home with my tv, computer and electricity sounds terrible without him. and being homeless sounds wonderful if i just get to be with him. i feel sorry for you. it is sad that you don't have love.




Neither. I would want the option for an alternative lifestyle.





If you have a wish to loose the wife, the assumption would be that you no longer love her. If she still loves you; then, the kindest thing that you could do would be honest with her. It would be emotionally hard on her at first; but, perhaps, once it all sinks in--that, you cannot make someone love you, the idea of an open marriage might be agreeable to the both of you (Think about it: If you do not love her, it would not bother you to see her with another man... You'd want for her to be happy; but, for financial reasons, you could tell her that you'd like to stay married). With all that you say that you have financially, and assuming that you make more money than she does, she might not want to give up the comfortable life style that you have built together.





For your wife to stay faithful to you until she is an "old bag" would be heartless on your part, especially when it is assumed you do not love her.





In essence, an alternative life style would allow you to, "lose the wife," and (Not "OR") keep the money.




Eddie you know my situation with my husband pretty well, but as the father of my children and the super hard worker he has been with his physical health not being so good, for it I would have to say no. I would give up everything I have or anything good that I might get to make the really important stuff in marriage to work better. I can't take it with me when I go anyway, I just want his heart.




I know it sounds hateful, but I really think I would give up my spouse. I love him, don't get me wrong....but, when I'm old and frail and have medical expenses, love isn't going to pay for them. Being old is expensive, trust me I know. I have worked as a home health aide and I saw first hand how much these people had to spend on equipment, supplies, prescriptions, etc.




Well, of course you know what I'm going to say, and you're right. If I was married to a nice guy, I would want to keep him, though.




I would lose the money and keep my man. You can make more money, you can't always find love like that again.




well seeing the the financial crisis took all of my savings, retirement.. i have no choice but to keep him.




I'll take hubby over any money or possessions any day!




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I'm keeping the hubs.




id say spouse. since i haven't had a good relationship, id give that up




Ha..I can't give up hubby.. he "IS" my retirement! Poor guy! He is so used and abused.




don't even have to think about this one...spouse for sure.




give it all and keep my husband




defint the money ,, i love my spouse and money couldn't buy me that

What does this mean? when a girlfriend says this?

Were In 2 diffrent Worlds.



It could mean different things.. It could mean that you two are totally the opposite of each other, or it could mean that you think one way of something, and she thinks another. Or it could mean you are going one way and she's going the other.




Imminent Breakup




it means she is doing another guy or about to .....dump the girl...do you really need this???

Sister and her abusive, controlling men!?

My older sister is 28 and acts alot younger. She cries and whines about her life because shes a meth addict but REFUSES to get a real job and a good boyfriend. She always ends up with abusive, controlling guys. When she finally ends up with a really good guy she leaves him for an ex convict who has no job, car, and is on drugs. She has four kids and wont even speak to any of them. Their all adopted out except one that she claims she misses and would do anything to get her back, but when she was allowed to visit her she never even shows up. Me and my sister use to be pretty close but after her insane acts im starting to really dislike her and not want to even be around her and i just cant feel sorry for her anymore because she does all of this to herself and does nothing but cry about it. She doesnt try to do any better when she really could! am i wrong for not helping her anymore? what could i do to try to help her?



sounds like a typical meth addict try talking her into going to REHAB or AA there is reaslly nothign you can do for a person who is on meth until they stop but then it takes over a year to get their minds straightneded out again




First off all you can do is pray for your sister. She has to be the one who wants to change and really admit that she has a problem. I know you want to help her, but she is adult and accountable for her own action. Just keep her in your prays and God will answer. You can also encourage her. Good luck.




help her children im sure there having a rough time. I know you think that this might sound wrong but rehab might be good 4 her




The only thing that you can do is for the children and tell her to get help getting clean

How do i explain to my hubby that I injured myself while

So, I banged my knee pretty badly when climbing down from the chandelier this afternoon. How am I supposed to explain this to my husband when he gets home from work today?



Oh. I thought you were gonna say you had your gash bashed.




I would say you were dusting the "light fittings" and fell and busted your knee. Become a House cleaner, then you don't have to explain your "visiting" to your husband at all.




so..... didn't you just the question how to tell your friend's that you were in a mental hospital like 2 days ago....i'm betting this is a lie and never happened and you have too much time on your hands.....get a life




Tell him you were practicing a strip tease to surprise him with when he got home and you got over excited and fell over the back of the couch or some other piece of furniture.




Tell him you fell down the stairs. Thats what I told my wife when I got herpes.




Tell him you and I were gardening again. I just used this excuse yesterday. So please remember that if Byron mentions it, ok?




Tell him you were changing the light bulbs.




Another one with a good sense of humour




The best defense is a good offense. Accuse him of sleeping with your mother.




Tell him you got violated in Trang.




From your avatar it looks like a gay marraige,


Not that there's anything wrong with that.





But really, why should we care what you tell him?




Tell him it's ok cause it was with a woman instead...uh..I'll play the other woman.




i dont get it??




Yeah, yeah, yeah...go troll somewhere else!

Should I keep waiting for her?

After waiting a month after first agreeing to a date then giving a "my life is complicated" response I asked this girl if she cleared things up. She explained that this guy she was with wanted to take a break and that she doesn't want to get close to me only to hurt me if the other guy comes around; he was a friend so she doesn't want to hurt him either. I tried to get an upfront rejection from her but she stalled with "I don't know". She said all she can give me is a "not right now". Even when I asked her if I should move on she said "maybe, but i don't really know".





I dropped it and told her we should "just be friends" but in a manner that suggested we should part ways. But she still catches up with me after class everyday to talk with me on our way to our dorms. Also we got together outside of class to study together too (she even woke up really early to meet when I couldn't stay up the previous night). I decided to test the waters again today and asked if she wanted to just hang out over spring break and she agreed...





I'm really lost as to what she thinks of me.should I hang on and keep pursuing (3rd times the charm?) or drop it and forget her (which might be hard with her still trying to talk to me).



hmm... this is hard because you really can't tell what she wants. From what you wrote though it looks like she's just leading you on. She's obviously still hooked on her ex, so if i were you i'd move on to a girl who's into you as much as your into her. Because this girl seems like she's just using you for her convenience. Maybe if you tell her how you feel and that you need to move on, she won't keep trying to talk to you. idk. this is a tough situation!


hope this helps! :)




"just be friends", lol, seriously, just be her friends and be there for her.... cause everyone needs friends and who know maybe someday it will become more than that!




I couldn't even get through the first sentence you wrote before I gave up on the way way way over thought novel you just wrote.





STOP WAITING!





Find someone who likes you for you.




Just try it, what do you have to loose at this point besides your sanity?

A weird situation.. Opinions please?

Well, today my friend seemed a little stressed out and not her usual self, so I confronted her about what was wrong. She said that it was about her parents and they were getting really mad at her older brother (who is 16) because they think he is racist towards white people (the whole family is white though) and she explained that her brother only seemed to have black friends, and they would constantly only see him with black people. I was sort of confused and had no clue what to say to comfort her :S what do you all think of this really weird situation? Oh, she also said that her parents don't even know her brothers friends because hes' too embarrassed to introduce them to his parents.



This does sound odd . . . Maybe the African-American friends of his are in the "cool crowd" and he wants to be there too.




I would assume that the parents are probably slightly racist against black people and that's given there son the opposite affect.





So he's been hanging around with black people as its the typical rebellion teen thing to do.





This would also explain why the son doesnt want to show his parents his black friends.




sounds like that her parents are the ones who are racists not her brother. I would just say to her "look I'm sorry for whats going on with your brother. maybe your parents should be more open minded and get to know his friends before they judge" that's a tough situation and I feel sorry for her brother. she just really wanted you to listen. i don't think she expected an answer from you. just be her friend. if she needs to talk let her talk. it probably helps her best to just vent.




I think you should say " Maybe he's just going through a phase. It might be a little weird but he's just being himself." Good luck and best of wishes.

Guys: Virginity or experience?

Sorry I am a girl, but I wanted to share my opinion.





Girls do not have sex before they think they might have unhappy relationships in their marriage (which I cannot understand) in my country. People should do what feels right.





No guy should punish their gf or wives for feeling close to someone before themselves and opening themselves to that person,





Instead, guys should be happy that the girl -after being with the other person- decided that she was happy with them. She has chosen you, enjoy it without questioning her experience and virginity.




Virginity. Why wouldn't a guy want better proof that his wife is a decent person? Also, I don't like other guy's seconds.




experience




It doesn't matter to me too much, as long as the girl who isn't a virgin isn't a slut.




definetely Experience




Virgin.. I really like the thought of being the teacher.




Does practice on yourself count ???




? i am a girl